7 FACTS ABOUT DIVORCE (for the kids)
By Sparuss
@Sparuss (54)
Philippines
January 18, 2007 11:03pm CST
1. It's not your fault. You didnt cause the divorce, and you can't fix it.
2. you can be happy living with one parent.
3. you are loved! (your parents may have stopped loving each other, but they haven't stopped loving you.)
4. your family has changed- but youre still a family.
5. It's normal to feel lonely, angry, sad, embarassed, guilty, relieved-all the the same time.
6. talking about your feelings will help you deal.
7. you can love both parents. you dont have to take sides!
1 response
@Ciniful (1587)
• Canada
19 Jan 07
All good points, and very true. It's a shame, unfortunately, that more parents who have gone through divorce don't enforce these rules and instead, work on proving them wrong. Too many seperated parents make their children feel like they do have to choose, and like they're in the center of a rather violent game of tug of war. It's hard for a child to remember they don't have to choose when their parents, the ones they trust the most, are showing them that they should.
Wouldn't it be nice if these guidelines could immediately be imprinted on a childs mind when they're going through that mess? At the very least, it would offer them some reassurance that they aren't the only ones who are feeling that way.
