He cheated and I didn't care, is there something wrong with me?

My thoughts on the matter are these: You expect a man to cheat on you. Whether it is solely because you have low self esteem or because you have always been cheated on, or both, the fact is, it is just what you expect. We usually get out of life just what we expect to.

YOU may have did something wrong*sighs* because you have just let him get away with it and now next time he may do it again and again are you going to forgive him again and again just because he is remorseful again then to. Or you just don't love him enough to care.

May be I think you were toooooooooooo!!!!! shocked

Because you showed him that you didn't care that he cheated I think he will do it again. U don't want to marry this guy....even if guys have cheated on you in the past...If he loves you he will never do it again. Do you trust him? DO you believe he will never do it again? My bf was text messaging some girl....and when I found out I told him that if he wanted to cheat he should think about it twice and be out of my house before he actually did it! And I also told him that if he ever did Cheat...that would be something I would never forgive!

Maybe your triing to avoid confirtation about the whole subject! If you do you will get the way that you didnt! Maybe its not that you dont care but you dont have the feelings you did for him before! You might love him, but are you still in love with him?? I think you made a little booboo though because you didnt make any noise about him cheating on you, arent you worried it will happen again! He might think its ok! I mean did you atleast hold out on him?

if he cheat befor you get marred what do you think he will do after you get marred and have kids with him.and if you don't care now what you going care now you will not feal anthing letter so get a new boyfrend that you will care for

I had an ex that did this. The first couple of times it hurt but after that I didn't care. When he realised it didn't get a heartbroken reaction he left me. I wasn't bothered about that either and I was 6 months pregnant at the time. Ask yourself is he trying to test you and do you really care about him at all if you don't care. Maybe you're considering being unfaithful to him, this could be a way to get your own back but as a couple are you strong enough for that? When you find THE ONE, it will probably bother you although I've had my partner over 7 years now and I know he wouldn't but I probably wouldn't bother if he did.

you cant blame yourself for others lack of honesty,,do you now find you dont fully commit to relationships? do you maybe give the impression you really have no faith in the relationship and do not demand honesty? sometimes this can happen for those who get used to getting cheated on,,they stop questionng what their partners do for fear THAT will make the cheat,,,,all relationships need bounderies,,they give the other partner 'rules' so to speak,,for what you will and will not except in this relationship,,maybe its time for you to toughen up and start stamping those feet,,start agin and change your rules,,the next time a partner does or says something that doesnt go with the grain of what you consider 'normal' say so,,question things if you feel the need to,,dont be a doormat and then complain people wipe their feet on you,,if you want faithfulness,make it clear you wont accept anything less or they will find themselves without you,,,the next time you enter a relationship,choose someone good for you and go into it slowly so as to guage their boyfriend potential,they may or may not be for you but you can at least get to know them before commiting to maybe getting hurt.good luck

You probably saw this coming, but invite the other girl over and have a threesome. She, your boyfriend, and you might like it. :-)

but hey .. if you really feel nothing about all those guys cheated on you .. there's really something wrong with you. maybe you can spend this weekend to look back and finds out what's wrong.

Have you ever thought about it that you think you don't deserve a truthful guy ? That you just expect the guys being unfaithful to you is a sign for a much more deeper issue within yourself ...Did you ever ask yourself why you feel unworthy ?? It sounds to me like you have some soul searching to do before you can be in a healthy realtionship ..and I don't mean it in a bad way - I been there, done that ...

Nope theres nothing wrong with you-its your own personal opinion, just be weary as it'd probably happen again, and you'll probably never forget, and hold it against him (i have and he cheated before we were married) and i just remember it all the time, and sometimes when i think about it, it causes me to be angry and we fight a lot more. and i've had guys cheat on my before, but always say that its me they want to be with-so its hard.

there is no problem with u..i thiunk u have done the right thing..u forgave him..he needs to be given a fair chance..i think he will change..and will not repeat it...to love means to forgive!!

He will just keep cheating on you over and over again if you let him! You need to stand up for yourself otherwise you are just letting him walk over you and allowing him to have his cake and eat it, too! If he knows you wont do anything about it he will just keep doing it! Stand up for yourself!

I thnk that you should give yourself sometime. You may not be upset now, (probably just happy he is still with you) but I think maybe at some point you may become angry as the thoughts of it start to become more real to you.

I think the fact that you are already so numb to the feeling is something you need to reflect on. You know this, that's why it bothers you that it doesn't bother you. Wether or not once a cheater always a cheater, I don't know. I don't know you or him so anything is possible. You have to keep your heart and your eyes open. People can change and people can make mistake. Like they say in the CIA, "trust, but verify" g'luck, Force

It sounds to me like you are attracting the wrong type of man in your life. How long have you been in this relationship and are you living with him or just going out? I could not be so forgiving so perhaps you do not love him as deeply as you think you do. First you have to start respecting yourself and then find a man who will respect you as well. Push this loser out the door.

um i think it depends on your relationship and how much you are commited to each other. Well if he's cheating on you it doesn't sound you have a very good relationship. I too have had to put up with guys in my life cheating on me and found the best solution is to get rid of him. Once a cheater always a cheater. How would he feel you going out and getting a bit from someone else - i doubt very much he would like it and would probably break it off with you.

no, since every guy has cheated on you, it doesnt have that big of an effect on you

Havent you heard about "Hiding something is more painful than confessing it" atleast he had the guts to speak to you about it, think about it! It couldve been worse if he wouldve had kept you in darkness! And siriously if not now later wouldve been a bad option cuz that wouldve hurt you! Maybe you are aware of this fact or you already expected things Its like you tend to guess when a person goes away, doesnt love you anymore etc because you feel a void in the relationship Its good you did not overreact!