Dishonest to Hide Sexuality?

Maybe it is unfair to not tell them, but also some people are just narrowminded and maybe the person is afraid of what they will think. unfortunately many people still don´t accept gays =/

If a person is a gay then you should not hide the identity and you should be open to the world.

It is not dishonest the people are affaird for telling it even though it is your parents and your friends. Maybe they dont accept it.

It is hard on people to come out of the closet even to their best friends. I don't think it is wrong if they don't tell. But usually really close friends already know. They know most people will not except so it is hard for them to be open.

thank god i am straight

I would only consider someone a liar if, when asked, they said they were straight when in fact they were Gay. As a previuos poster said , straight people don't have to announce that they are straight. It's only because of the discrimination and fear of attack (verbal, mental and physical) that Homosexuals feel the need to hide their sexuality. That and if not being anyone elses business.

here is for guys the more you honest , the more you gets support from everywhere. don;'t be shy.and i will support you by my pray. :

I think it's not dishonesty to hide yourself. Not everything can be shared with friends or close ones, especially if it does concern sensitive topics such as homosexuality. Fears of discrimination are usually the reason why some hide their sexuality. But it would be a burden later if you kept it to secrecy for so long. When that time comes, you need to reveal your true self. For me, telling everyone earlier is better than keeping it forever.

Well first thing you need to know how your family/friends response would be and if you think you might have guilt about it then i suggest you do tell them.

It's no ones business but the one who is gay. It's sad that gay people just can't be honest with who they are because they are afraid what others would think. As I said before its their business and that's that..

Your sexuality is your business and we all choose what we reveal to people, and to what people we reveal it to. You aren't a liar by not exposing your sexuality preference to friends or family. You don't owe it to anyone to make them aware of this fact any more then they should reassure you that they are heretosexual. Likewise, some people are comfortable talking about how much money they make, others aren't. Just because you don't reveal something doesn't mean you're a liar. Do what YOU are comfortable with, and be guilt free.

I don't think that it's dishonest not to disclose your sexuality to your friends and family. If it's something that could harm your relationship, then obviously you have to be careful about when, how, or if you tell. I think part of the issue here comes from the idea that gay people are nothing but gay. There are many things about you that you share with your friends and family. They probably know most of your interests, beliefs, hopes, fears, and dreams. Not disclosing one thing that is part of the whole isn't really that big a deal, is it? If there is a time when you feel as if you want to tell someone, then in a way it becomes all the more special because you trusted them enough to do so. And, over time, I do think it's ideal for everyone close to you to know. But if there are people who are close to you that you want to remain so, and you aren't sure if they can accept your sexuality, then I think it's okay not to disclose it. If they know you very well, they may already have an idea, and maybe when they're ready they will ask you.

well why bother at all, there are really things in our life that meant to be kept secret. however, if your environment or should i say if the people around get to asked you, it would be better to be honest with them. anyway if they really cares for you then that doesnt matter i suppose.

ofcourse,it's not dishonest,you friend thinks it's absurd that's all,he doesn't meant it,impulsive that's all

i dont think your sexuality is really anyone's business but your own. if you want to tell them, then its up to you. but as the first poster already mentioned, straight people dont go around telling people that they're straight. i guess some people are just scared to tell their friends and family that they're gay because they dont want to disappoint them or lose them or whatever else.

I think that as long as a person is not involved in a relationship with someone it is their choice. It would be a lie to pretend to be straight and date people and lead them on to keep up appearances for family and friends, but as long as you are not harming anyone, you can keep your sexuality to yourself. Not all of the social activities we engage in revolve around our sexuality and as long as it isn't an issue, why bring it up. This is the individual's choice.

i can understand the hesitation from telling friends and family that you're gay, but you also have to know your family well enough to know which friends wouldn't are and would just be more offended if you kept a secret from them. i did feel a little bad that i was the last to know about some of my friends being gay. none of them directly told me, i normally just heard it from another friend. i don't care who they love, but feel sad because they didn't feel close, or trust me enough to tell me. i mean, its completly understandable to hide it. i don't think they should be called a liar.

Very interesting discussion! I think it's not so much dishonest to hide your sexuality, as ommission. You just aren't telling certain people because they don't really need to know sometimes. (You here is the general you, not you personally). I don't think my friends can be very close to me and not know my sexuality. Even when I'm not with someone, it's an important part of who I am. Just like if you were straight, it's an important part of you as well. It has a lot to do with how discussions about certain things go. My only friend that still doesn't know often talks to me about boys forever and while I don't join in, I bet she wouldn't if she knew. I don't think it matters if you're with someone or not, it's still a part of who you are. You don't have to tell friends and family if you aren't comfortable with that. For me, I tell people I am close to. Or people who I wouldn't care if they knew or not. I'm not really close with my family, so it doesn't bother me that after I told them, they went into denial about it.

i think its that persons business, and when the time is right they should tell them, in all honesty one day that person will find the one that they wanna be with and the family at that point has the right to know, dont you think?

would you go around discussing your sexlife with your family? no, probably not lol. but lots of people discuss their relationships with their family. I think, of course, that someone doesn't have to tell anyone about their sexuality. However, it is sad that people have to hide this sort of thing. I mean, i am lucky to have a great relationship with my mom. If something that big came up, i could definitely tell her. Not everyone is so lucky some people don't have the luxury of having a close, open-minded family. mean, whether you are gay or not. lots of people have secrets. we have secrets from each other, our spouses, our mothers, who ever it be.