I'M 16 AND MY B/F IS 19

but why do i luv him so much i feel like my luv life is over.well today i called him and told him if he was cheation on me cuz he wrote to diz gurl if she wanted to do a 4 some....he said no dat it was his nephew usin his account.should i believe him well i hanged up on him and he called bak and said "so its goin to be lik dat" and i said "yeah" dat was da end.now i feel like calling bak.wat should i do?

Well, Inconspicuous, I think your right. Besides being a 'sleeze', what kind of a 'responsible' person gets involved with a child? The kind with a development level of a sixteen years old. I'm not saying that there is anything wrong with a sixteen year old's brain, IF you are sixteen. At nineteen, he is 'stunted' somewhere. That means he is fixated at an earlier stage of emotional development. He is stuck there. Until he goes through this stage, he will not progress emotionally. Just like an infant can't run until he can walk. It is the same as the emotions; different part of development. People seldom think about emotions that way because you can't see your emotions, they're abstract, you can't touch them. PRINCEZZ007, you are too young to be re-raising an adult. There's a saying that goes, 'It is easier to build a child, than it is to rebuild an adult.' It IS a true statement!! Say bye, bye and not even 'later', unless he does a lot of developing. Come on, you can do it. Close the door, go upstairs and do your homework. Focus. Just keep trying. You CAN do this!!! And that is what I have to say about that. Good luck..I know this is hard. If he truely loves you, he will support you in this and try again when you are ready.

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Thanks for your comment.

yeah u all ryt but no matter wat he has done i always seem to forgive him.today i called him and asked him if he was cheatin on me cuz in his myspace he told diz girl wen dey were gonna have a 4 some.i asked him about it and he said his nephew was usin his account. my friend told me it was an excuse dat his nephew is just covering him up.but why does his nephew need to use his account to talk to girls wen he has his own.

yeah he dont want me to see no one else he wants me to wait 4 him.i would do dat but i found out he has been talkin to other girls tellin dem wen dey gonna have a 4 some and he has alot of gurl #.he cheated on me once with his g/f of 2yrs. but i took him bak.i think his a player and my sis b/f talked to him on da phone and said he sounds like a player too.i believe my sis b/f cuz he is a guy

girl if he is doing that dont wait on him, love is so important. If he loved u as well then he would wait on you not do what he is doing. hope this helps u some

HI varuntr SO BASICALLY U AGREE WITH MY B/F DAT I SHOULD WAIT FOR HIM UNTIL I'M 18 AND DEN WE CAN GET BAK.WELL ITS NOT DAT EASY CUZ WAT HAPPENS IF HIS ALREADY TAKEN BY SUM1 ELSE DAT WOULD KILL ME.

Jazmin, I think since your Dad doesn't want you to keep in contact with him that you shouldn't. I KNOW it will be hard, but you do want what's best for you AND your boyfriend...and your Dad too. Not saying it's going to be easy, but your Dad has every legal right to do all this if you don't listen to him about it. If you don't show your Dad that you're fretting so much about it, eventually this will all blow over. He may be disappointed for now, but, you are his daughter, and I'm sure he loves you very very much, or he wouldn't be so worried about you making what he considers to be a wrong decision. Speaking as a parent, I think you should not protest so much to your Dad about not seeing your boyfriend, going to the Dr and all...it's not going to help in the long run, and it's only going to keep your Dad on the subject, and probably prolong his anger and all. Your Dad is trying to do what he thinks is best for you, and you have to respect the fact that he IS doing what he feels is right, out of love for you. Good luck, girl! You have the strength to get through this all. Hold your head up, try to be cheerful in front of your Dad, and then go cry in your room if you must...but it still won't change the facts how your Dad feels. God Bless!!

well my dad said he dont want me to keep in contact with him and my dad wants me to giv him my b/f first & last name so he can call da cops on him.my dad also said he gonna take to da doctor & see if i dont have std's.but my dad is thinkin of puttin me in jail.da bad thing is my b/f is black and my dad is really dissapointed in me.wat can i do?

yes i sure do hav more problems. now he dont want to ever talk to me again cuz i accused him of cheatin on me & he said i'm actin stupid

yes i think most of the advice been given is cool to keep u well and from thinking, at the first place u have love for ur boyfriend and u think he also have the same love for u. now what ur father is say is a treat to this ur boyfriend so been a guy who wants to stay out of trouble, will just tell u to wait untill u are of age, that is 18yrs. know in your case i also leant that both of u have decided to wait for sometime and for u, u don't trust ur guy cuase you think he is playing on other girls and my advice to that is just try as much as posible to forget about him for some time since u are still young and keep to your parents and ur books if ur a student , also if u feel like to think about him just go the living, watch so movies with dad or mum, go to the libary or event to a game hall were u would meet some friends to chart with for u to forget about him. my sister i think this is enough for u. BYE am Rex from Ghana

Good advice.

yes you are right.