another problem during pregnancy...
By jaeian
@jaeian (23)
Philippines
January 19, 2007 4:46am CST
i have another problem this time..right now i am so much worried and at the same time lonely because my partner hasn't told yet to his mom (his dad passed away long time ago) that we were having a baby..sooner or later i will deliver this little angel but until this very moment he is still scared of telling about this..he always tells me its because of his mom health condition, a heart problem, he is so scared that this issue will give his mom a heart attack.. and one thing is we're not yet married and we are not living together..so i'm very confused on what to do and how to deal with this situation..
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6 responses
@MINNIEMEE (68)
•
19 Jan 07
YOU must take control yourself!!!! U have not just yourself now to think about but a new life is about to come into this world..US women have to take control of these situations, u must do what u think is RIGHT and be positive and stick to it..Let US get through this birth first as it is the main happening at the moment..Concentrate on this, all ur other worries are little at this time..I am confident that your partner after seeing the baby will tell his mother,,she will be so happy for u both..AFTER the birth and when u are feeling yourself again THEN maybe talk about your relationship with your partner and where u are both going..IF u both love each other why not get married and be a family, U DONT NEED LOADS OF MONEY TO GET MARRIED AS ITS NOT ABOUT THAT.I know u are 21 but u only get one life so live it how u want, u are still young enough to take the opportunities life offers. BE POSITIVE AND TAKE THE ROLE.. love minniemee XXX
@rsa101 (38166)
• Philippines
30 Jun 08
Well its not really important that she knows about it if it would cause her harm. What I think is important is that the father recognizes your baby. I just hope that you could settle down too to really become a fully committed parents to their baby.
@classy56 (2880)
• United States
19 Jan 07
sounds like your partner just dont wont to tell his mom.telling her you are going to have a baby is not going to give her a heart attact.unless hes under age,but you shouldnt be worrying about his mom.she will find out sooner or later.you need to think about the baby an stay stress free an dont worry it will end up ok!good luck to you
@sineen1981 (339)
• United States
28 Jan 07
the same thing happened to me with my daughter. Her dad came back into our lives right before i was to give birth to her and he didnt want to tell his mom that this child was his. but she found out not through him but through his sister's daughter. she was only 11 years old so it came out by mistake. i dont blame her at all but her grandmother, my ex-boyfriend's mother got extremely upset. I never interfered with it at all. only when i was pregnant and since i was single i had to call her up and tell her i was going to have her son's baby - well she screamed and yelled at me. and i got scared so i hung up on her. and she decided not to believe me so she had to find out the hard way and by then my daughter was already 3 months old. She actually said she was going to "disown" my ex-boyfriend and she made him give her the keys to her house so that he cant go back to his mom's house. Very sad isnt it? and all because she didn't want to beleive me. it was not my problem at all. I will just let that family be and they can beleive what they want to or not - the only thing i worry about is my daughter!
