do you believe in love at first sight
By purohit_86
@purohit_86 (57)
India
January 19, 2007 5:46am CST
last week i saw one girl at one of the pub in our town she was sitting alone and she was enjoying every single sip of the glass full of whisky ,at first glance of her only i fell in love with her innocence,loneliness it looked like she was very lonely in her life i wanted to talk to her and share her sorrows but i could not generate that much courage to talk to her that day, but since then im not able to sleep ,always thinking of her im still searching 4 her she has not visited that pub since then life has become too difficult 4 me without seeing her plzz help me out ,i think this love at first sight will take my life plzz give me some suggestions...
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176 responses
@wrdsofwisdm (1069)
• United States
19 Jan 07
Looks like you lost your window of opportunity since she has not returned. You could drive yourself crazy thinking about her or just make it a good memory to tell your future sons about and advise them to approach someone that peaks their interest.
@jaizdeep (397)
• India
19 Jan 07
Na man i just don't....
Love at first site has a different name that is called infatuation...its just that because love has a very very broader meaning then just having sleepless nights
Having sleepless nights and thinking about someone for a few days doesn't mean that u r in love with that person
I think love come several other responsibilities and terms like sacrifice understanding etc
And also love is just not one sided.i think if u dont see her again ull forget her in next 4-5 days thats how long it will last so don't worry!!
@flikkenni (537)
• Indonesia
19 Jan 07
Yes, i do believe in love at first sight. Why? because it was happen to me. Me too, had love at first sight, maybe what happen to you is the same with me. Maybe you should forget about her, as you carry on with your life and do some activities maybe can make you forget about her. But if you had chance to meet her again, you should take the opportunity. Maybe she was the one for you, so it was an opportunity if you meet her again. Just don't ruin yourself with love that you never can get it.
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@korek222 (701)
• Poland
19 Jan 07
This is kind a very difficult question! But well i must say that in the theory love fo the first sight is very possible cause there can be a love between two people who just see themself for the frist time, but it is more unlikely that it is very common love that strikes upon the hman kind! I never felt love of the first sight and probably never will but well good to hope i maybe will
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@mrsjumppuppy03 (3301)
• United States
19 Jan 07
No love at first sight does not exist. It is an instant attraction and yearning to learn more about the person. This lonely woman sitting solitarily by herself merely has you intrigued of what her story is. You can not truely love someone until you know their personality, good & bad characteristics, what they believe in and what direction their life is headed in. The innocent glance across the room creating star crossed lovers doesn't exist. What it creates is an interesting one night stand, but not a life long meaningful relationship. I say, keep searching for the right girl and if you are attracted to someone, don't be afraid to take a chance and strike up a conversation and see where it leads!
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@ayushthedevil (3147)
• India
19 Jan 07
well its not abt love at first sight its just that some times u end up loving the person who u liked at 1st sight
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@shywolf (4514)
• United States
19 Jan 07
I am sorry that you did not feel able to talk to this girl at the time. But even though she looked lonely, be aware that first appearances can be deceving. One time ages ago now I had a massive crush on this guy and part of it was because I felt the same way about him. Only to find out that he had all kinds of admirers and friends. So you never know.
That being said, i really hope that you see this girl again and are able to talk to her. You at least need some closure, I can see that. But there really is no such thing as love at first sight. Attraction for sure. But not love. You don't really know anything about her other than her appearance and the fact that she was alone that night. I do hope that you can get to know her and find out if she is really right for you.
@foxsoon (150)
• Australia
19 Jan 07
I believe in love at first sight. And if you say love of course it involves both sides if she have attraction towards you then you have your love at first sight, if not it's just a crush.
And if you see her again, you better walk up to her and talk to her at least and get to know her. I took my opportunity and I'm now good friend with the person i initially just had a crush on, taking things slowly and if we're really meant for each other after that coincidence... well that's another story then. LOL. Well, if you lose your chance, there is definitely someone else who might be your soulmate.. make sure you know who's who... cheers
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@jolope (987)
• Philippines
19 Jan 07
once i heard this crazy pick-up line..
"excuse me..do you believe in love at first sight?"-
"no.."-
"ok, let me pass by again..^_^"it was hilarious..but you know i think this love at first sight thing is not true..well maybe not perfectly true..
in your case i think that what you feel is not love..you just feel like you missed a chance to get to know that girl..maybe because you have this thought of having a slight chance of making her happy..
but i admire you for coming back to that pub and hoping to see her again..
just think of it like this.. "your efforts won't be left unnoticed" who knows..someone in that pub waits for you every single night too..^_^ good luck..^_^
@purohit_86 (57)
• India
19 Jan 07
hey jolope im very much impressed by your approach in my case , and what u said might be true tht someone must be waiting 4 me also , but it is this curiosity and eagerness to know about her and to lend her a helping hand that has taken away my sleep since last 1 week and basically hw much more days , y is it tht i got this attachement with tht. girl only... ??
@sailor979 (4)
• India
19 Jan 07
better call it infactuation at 1st sight...m all for it..cheers!!!
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@suchasucker (206)
• United States
19 Jan 07
I believe in lust as first sight.
To me, true (and real) love is based on more than first attraction. It has more substance to it. It only comes after truly getting to know someone in and out, and loving every minute of it.
By the way, I hope you are able to find your dream girl.
@purohit_86 (57)
• India
19 Jan 07
well i hav been able to find many girls , but not my dream girl , she comes in my dreams every night but cudnt c her face , she might be the girl im referring to here .....
@vikas4you (131)
• India
19 Jan 07
Yaa, i think love can be in first sight but i have not any these type of feeling in first sight...
@masterseifer_20 (50)
• United States
20 Jan 07
i would agree to all of you "i belive" but in the sense that also you have to know the girl it's like a step by step basis and that's where it starts developing each other
@raxrox (46)
• India
19 Jan 07
I dont think anyone can fall in love at first sight. Yeah, one maybe attracted to a person by the way one behaves or appears. But, this alone doesnt comprise love. U have to know about the moods, characters, likes, dislikes, reactions of that person to a wide range of situations to start loving that person.
@master_ang3lkulit (271)
• Philippines
19 Jan 07
yes your right there should be a chemistry between you and the one you saw.
@arthenium (104)
• Philippines
19 Jan 07
NOPE... i don't believe in love at first sight... but i believe in LUST at first sight... coz i believe that love is developed when two people arte attracted to each other and then connected with each other and lastly find themselves not wanting to part with each other... thus, i'd say, LOVE is LUST developed through time... they only call it love at first sight becoz they were attracted from the start, they made a move, and so it ended up into love in the end....™
@purohit_86 (57)
• India
19 Jan 07
believe me its not lust , and frm what u have written i guess its ur personal experience.. u might hav fallen in a lust relationship with some one , but believe me one day u wil also feel the same wat im feeeling rt. now.....
@keeping_secret (85)
• Philippines
19 Jan 07
love at first sight is just a saying, a more suitable one liking someone at a glimpse... you cannot love someone by just looking at her...
@purohit_86 (57)
• India
19 Jan 07
I dont think so mam , because sometimes just by looking at someone only ur heart start sending signals to the brain that yes this is the girl to whom u can make a step forward and lend ur helping hand or this is the person god has made 4 u and she is in need of u... well i felt the same way... and i guess u also must have felt 4 someone at some time like this.. and i would like to know it if yes !!!!!!
@purohit_86 (57)
• India
19 Jan 07
well even i use to think so but that was before seeing her... as far as communication is considered you must have heard of non verbal communications existence also... as in my case !
