Complicated Love, let go or hang-on?

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Philippines
January 19, 2007 6:06am CST
What would you do if: You're in a realtionship where love exists but, both of you differ in your perceptions and principles in life and loving so you just keep on having a quarrel every now and then. Should you just let it go or hang-on?
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@jolope (987)
• Philippines
19 Jan 07
you know what..i am actually suffering from that right now.. i'm still holding on to my principle that if there's love then all will be good.. even if we fight or have different thoughts on most of the things i try to understand him or maybe the other way around.. i know that if we grow together then we'll understand each other much better..^_^
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@anandsaab (590)
• India
19 Jan 07
hello friend its we that make love complicated.. and i do beleive that what ever we r doing in life is complicated.. unless and until you do it properly.. so same is the case with love... If you love someone truely.. then it becomes complicated.. thats the natures way of taking everything..
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@shorva (923)
• Philippines
19 Jan 07
hello there!i think what really matters is if you are happy in the relationship. me and my husband has a loooot of differences. we do argue a lot, i think both of us is so full of pride that we always have to make our point and think it's the right one,and sometimes you just really can't help but argue. but, eventhough we argue, we do respect each other's opinion.i think arguments can't be avoided, one has to voice out what he believes in. i love my husband so much, eventhough there's so many things that we don't agree about. when it comes to making decisions, we make sure that we come up with something agreeable to both of us, even if we have to compromise. but if you're no longer happy due to this constant quarrel, there really is no reason to hang on, you gotta find someone else, not necessarily someone who thinks like you, but someone who will respect your principles/ideas.
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• Philippines
19 Jan 07
i have a friend. his wife is really his counterpart. But they are happy with their marriage. they now have 3 children and have been living together for 15 years. Hang-on if there's still love. ignore the differences, understand each other.
• United States
19 Jan 07
To me it's important that my partner have similar beliefs as me in most things. I could not have a strong relationship with someone who's morality or political beleifs are opposite of mine. I also could not be with someone who wanted more kids because I do not. I tried dating guys in the past who thought they might want more kids, and they did not respect my decision not to have any more. I decided quickly I was wasting my time with these guys. That said, my boyfriend and I certainly don't agree about everything even though we are mostly on the same page. The things we disagree about are not things that would impact our relationship in any way though. We don't argue about things too much, and we try to tolerate the smaller issues that get on each other's nerves.
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@carlaabt (3504)
• United States
19 Jan 07
I think it depends on what principles you guys argue over. And if you want to have kids? I know I personally wouldn't want to raise kids with someone who felt very different about the way to raise kids than I do. That's something my husband and I talked about early on in our relationship. If the differences are differences you can live with, then continue the relationship. But if it's something that can hurt you, your so, or your potential children, you might want to rethink it.
@imakella (665)
• United States
19 Jan 07
i will proceed further...