Well its over
By mystikel
@mystikel (577)
Australia
January 19, 2007 6:21am CST
Last week I left a post about bf saying he needed space and wasn't sure about a lot of things, he was in a rut.
Well tonight I got an email saying he loves me but cant be with me....says its because he doesnt want to be a father to my daughter( she doesnt have one and I am not looking for one for her).
What has got me is fact that he had to send it via email....couldnt call and talk to me and when I tried to call he ignored me. Has this ever happened to you. I thought was too old for this way but obviously not (he is 37 and i am 32)
I am cool with the breakup....have had a lot of thought over the last week and know we were going nowhere in the relationship but i do cherish his friendship and that is what I will miss smost of all.
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5 responses
@ossie16d (11821)
• Australia
20 Jan 07
It has never happened to me but did to a son of a friend. He was going with this girl and then had to go away for work which she knew about etc. He sent her emails, text messages as they used to but when he tried to phone her she was busy or had something on so couldn't talk right then etc. She then refused to return his calls and it was a pretty awful time for him because he genuinely loved her and thought they had a future together.
I have no time or patience for people who do this sort of thing by any other method than face to face. He owed you at least that much respect and I am sure that you would have accepted his decision. Yes you probably did enjoy his friendship but do you really need friends like that in your life mystikel?
I am sad that you are disappointed and only wish you all the very best because one day you will find someone who will love you for who you are, children and all. :)
@mystikel (577)
• Australia
21 Jan 07
Thanks Ossie
I am actually relieved now as I deserve someone who has respect for me, and someone who can talk in person. seemed a gutless way out to me...email and saying about my daugh=ter.
Oh well his loss and life goes on. Now more time for my kids and friends :)
@caramello (4377)
• Australia
26 Jan 07
I am sorry to hear that this is the result mystikel but in my younger days (seems like so long ago now) this happened to me and I was devastated but if the person involved had just said something it would have made it a lot easier to move on instead of saying nothing. I won't say "at least he e-mailed you" as it is not the same as being up front and facing the situation in person, but not sure if it is a male thing as my son has done it a few times and I have been left with the person involved in tears. So a quick pull of the lads ear and a few home truths and to my surprise he does it the proper way now. The best you have got out of this is saying that you cherish his friendship and that in itself will get you through this. Hugs to you....
@maryannemax (12156)
• Sweden
19 Jan 07
this haven't happened yet to me. but i do know some men who does not want to be in a long term relationship with a woman who already has a kid. but there are also those who doesn't care for as long as he loves the woman, he also will love the child.
i am so sorry to hear about your break up. it just means that he is not worth of your life, time and effort. so, there's nothing to feel sad about. and i am glad to know that you have moved on. don't worry, you will still be friends in due time.
@Penguinsangel (3498)
• United States
19 Jan 07
I am so sorry to hear this
*hugs*
It is kind of low to do it through email and not in person or on the phone. :(
@Bunny2 (2102)
• Australia
26 Jan 07
Oh, what a terrible thing to do to you, hun. He sounds terribly immature. I could undertsand a 15 or 16 year old not having the guts to say it face to face, but at 37 he should be way past this.
It's good to see you taking it so well, though of course it will hurt for a long time. But you will get through this and be stronger for it. It's always sad to lose a friend.
