How do I motivate my child to study?

Child Playing - Child playing
India
January 19, 2007 7:55am CST
I have tried everything from incentives to moral lectures and have not succeeded. What do you suggest?
9 responses
• India
19 Jan 07
i think you need to be friendly with your children and make them understand the importance of study.... reward them for their succes and i am sure they are going to study well
• India
22 Jan 07
thanks for your reply, teaching the children is an art and i think you need to more patient while teaching them, make time for your children and love them, they are certainly going to listen to you
• India
19 Jan 07
Thanks for the tip of being friendly. I will try tat, but I loose my patience when I see him taking things so coolly. Rewards - I have been giving him whenever he has proved a little better but these have not made any difference.
@shankru85 (131)
• India
19 Jan 07
find out wat he is good at other than studies something like painting,singing,dancing or some sports and so on... studies is not the only thing in life..try to explore his talent and bring him up in that direction....
• India
19 Jan 07
He is very good at computer games. Will that of any help?
• India
20 Jan 07
y not??If he is good at computer games let him play that and there are so many worldwide competitions going on around the world....also he can find a career in graphics and multimedia design if he likes designing games...try to ask him those things...if he replies positively, then join him in a multimedia course and he can surely come up well...
19 Jan 07
I struggle to get my son to do his homework but discovered that when he is at his girlfriends house and she is doing hers he will happily get on with his too. It depends on your childs age of course but it does seem that the influence of peers is quite effective. It might be worth looking at which of his friends are motivated to study and encouraging him to invite them over to study together.
• India
19 Jan 07
Thanks, I will try this too. I am not sure whether he has a girl friend. I have not seen any till date. But yes he has friends who do play games with him. I can check that out.
@rsbrsb (217)
• India
19 Jan 07
moral lessons plus some gifts when u complete home works or study or mug up some thinkgs like u can encourage them.
• India
19 Jan 07
I have tried these but to no avail. He takes the gifts, is sincere for two days and then he is back to the same old way.
@aelyus (634)
• Romania
20 Jan 07
You can start by forbeding him to do the things that he like the most,like stay at tv or plaing at the computer,are prommising him a good recompese for each good thing that he does!
• India
20 Jan 07
this is the tendency of human being that he always want to do that thing which he is not supposed to do,if you say that don't go there than i will think that how to go there in this way.you also have to understand the same thing and then you can easily handle your child.the first thing you have to do is that dont put up pressure on him to study,you have to tell him time to time that dont study do whatever you want but you have to be a great achiever so do it in any manner....if he is a fan of sachin tendulkar tell him that what make him sachin tendulkar his great effort.doing in this manner he might be serious about his goal.
@moto47 (555)
• Indonesia
19 Jan 07
maybe you could be the odel for him/her, I mean you try to study too such as reading some books so that your child can see you do the same thing as you told him/her, and maybe he/she will get motivated (or embarassed) 'cause he/she think you're a great parent
@xyla_v (314)
• India
19 Jan 07
try to give him the books of his interests if he has any particular interests.leave him alone with the books of his interest.out of curiosity he will flip through the pages and if he does,he will start reading it.try it...
@dopey22girl (3319)
• United States
19 Jan 07
Hmm I would say tough love. Lectures don't do a thing. Take it from a 17 year old girl who has had a ton of lectures. They only make the child get annoyed at the parent, and we don't really listen during them. You need to start punishing your child for not studying. If they don't, then take away privelages such as tv and computer. Or you could almost use force, where they have to sit at the kitchen table and study for at least one hour every day. And set up an exact time. Maybe this will help. My mom did this with me once and it worked, so hopefully the same will happen with your child.