New Friend Requests

hi there my dear rainbow!!!! i think that's just fine, you dont have to worry too much about it, that's why mylot also indicates that we can either or accept or deny, any friend's request, and that wouldnt take it against us, so i guess that's pretty fine... we have all the decisions to add or deny anybody for whatever circumstances and that's something that we all should understand.. well im just glad that your my friend! cheers^_^

Sometimes it can be very hard to know what to do in these sorts of situations and I am never sure of the reason why people ask to be my friend. So generally I will accept all of them after a brief check at their discussions and what they respond to, which hardly ever turns out to be one of mine. LOL If I accept them as a friend, I will respond to a discussion or two of theirs and sit back and wait to see what happens. If they do not respond to any of my discussions, hit the delete button. Harsh, maybe but we cannot be friends with everyone and should do the best for those that we trust and respect and enjoy exchanging opinions with. I sometimes wish I could do what you have done, but do not have it in me and think that if I accept these people there is a chance that I could make a good friend. Of course if anyone spams, cheats, does a cut and paste response then I delete them as well.

they like you because you oppinion, or you avatar. i make lot of friend in my lot till i dont have the time to resspond their discussion. i hope they understand... ^o^

I wish there was some kind of formal request. That way the person could at least say why they would like to be your friend. I have 13 pending friends just from this week. Some I recognize from my discussions and theirs so I accept right away. Others I sometimes watch their progress for a few days. That would mostly be new people. Then there are these others that I can't figure out why they would want to be friends. Maybe they posted in my discussions but I don't share an interest in the topics they start. I feel bad whey I deny then sometimes, I don't like that I can't give a reason for denial and I'm sure some people get their feelings hurt. Not much I can do about it so I don't dwell. I just check them daily and if I begin to enjoy their discussions then I add them. If they look like they are headed in bad direction I delete them. I don't want to be associated with scammers, spammers and cheaters.

Am i being really cruel and unfriendly? really cruel: no unfreindly: yes Whats the point in drawing a confined circle and calling only those within it as your friends???? If you start telling reasons for why people are not your friends you will soon have no1 left

just like what i do, i dont know the people in my "my friends list", but i keep adding more strangers because i want to meet people here too... it's being friendly... about you ignoring them, i dont know but, why don't you add them to your list? it wont hurt you... the good thing is, your list will get longer... and they might keep responding to your topics. Isn't that good enough? you'll earn thru that. :)

It´s up to you whether you want to accept them as friends or not (just like in real life). If you had a look at their profile and decided that you´ve got nothing in common with them why not deny their request? Nothing cruel or unfriendly about it. Maybe you think they feel rejected, but I should think that most people here know that it´s nothing personal.

No you are doing right if there is nothing in Common then forget it and if they are new then you know they will be doing what everyone does when they first join I had 3 today and all 3 had lots of friends but no Discussions and only about 3 points

maybe they saw one of your works here at mylot. than they scanned your profile and they were able to see lots of quality discussions from you thats why they want to bookmark you and added you as their friend.

They may have seen your responses and checked out your page and thought wow, I would like to be associated with that person and her discussions. Seems a shame not to give them a chance. I accept anyone and have not yet had a problem with any of them and am quite fond of a handful of them. Think about it next time and maybe you might get a nice surprise!!

People request friendship from you may not necessarily because you share the same discussions. Sometimes it is because they are reading the posts, and your anwers impresses them. As the result, they want to add you as their friend. I think this is a very positive thing. You became a friend because your posts are interesting.

No I don't think so. I personally have trouble pushing that denial button so I just okay everybody. But then I wind up deleting some of them later on. Either way the one's we are letting go are most likely the people with hundreds of friends and they don't even notice when they are given the boot.

No, I don't think that you are being cruel and unfriendly. It is your right to refuse any friend requests you wish. I have a really hard time turning people down, personally, but sometimes I wonder where some of these people see my name on here as well. Maybe on the top users of the day, since I have seen myself on that page a few times. or maybe they see me in a discussion that they don't actually end up replying to. I don't know. I definitely get requests from people I don't recognize. I refused a couple who were under 10 posts. But normally I don't. I just don't like to. But I think that it's fine that you did, you know? ^_^ I just can't bring myself to refuse very easily. I figure that it's easier to accept now and take them off my list later if they don't post anything of interest topic-wise and don't reply to my discussions ever.

I am sure it is just someone that maybe saw a post you made and liked your reponse. I know that many people on here are picky about who they are friends with, but I don't really see the point. I will be friends with anyone that requests me because what's the point in excluding people?

What I do is, even though I dont know someone particularly, I accept. Watch the proceedings for sometime and if they are not actively participating, I quietly delete them because I am sure they will not even realize it.

No you aren't being cruel, I have found that the ones that request friendship but have never been in the same discussion as you generally spam you as soon as you accept them. It's unfortunate that it has gotten this way.

ya u cruel, I think u must accepted them

Hi friend, I know exactly how you are feeling, I have been having the same problem as you, I don't like to sound mean but I think it is a waste of time making friends with someone you have nothing in common with or who have not answered any of your posts, I do not think you are being cruel or unfriendly at all. :)

Ah, you make me feel bad. I have tried looking for some friends being new who have the same intersts that I do so I don't find myself searching for posts to reply to. I have only requested two and thinking it was denied as the friends request pending file on here is empty:( I don't judge people and will reply to anyones that interests me or at least I have something to say. How are newbes suppose to find friends? If I can't have an easy way to search for a certain person's post and reply on regular basis. Can you help me with any suggestions? Thanks CC

well..so far you had posted 1925 post..do you really remember all people who had replied your post or discussion ?....maybe they liked some of your post/discussion and want to add you to keep in touch and response in your new discussion.I see no reason not to be friendly with people who want to be friend.anyways its just our perspective .its seems by your discussion that you are unfriendly.