What do you do?

January 19, 2007 10:36pm CST
A few days ago, a friend of mine posted a post that was funny, the whole intention was to be a comical post. However some members, OK just one, took offense to it and posted how they would never talk to this person again. My question is, if you see a post that offends you, that was not meant to do so, what do you do? A- reply with some hateful comment B- ignore it and go on For either choice, why? Thanks to all in advance.
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@misskatonic (3723)
• United States
20 Jan 07
I generally make a little comment just letting the person know that their post is potentially offensive, but point I know they didn't mean it to be. Just for future reference. So neither choice, really. I choose option C! :D But yeah, it happens. I offend people all the time without meaning to.
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• Singapore
20 Jan 07
I will reply but perhaps not in a hateful manner? maybe the person whu post it has his way of tinkin and it would be gd say to look at both side of the story b4 rebuttin on him?
@emisle (3822)
• Ireland
20 Jan 07
Well, i have yet to see a post that really offends me. I'm very laid back and find some of the ignorant posts to be rather amusing!..if i see an ignorant post, or a post where someone is biased and doesn't look at an argument from both sides, I'll give out to them and let them know I don't like the what they've written. But I wouldn't report the person or give them a - rating.
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@gramaj (451)
• United States
20 Jan 07
I would probably just go ahead and ignore it. If I found it really offencive I may just post a short comment letting them know I was offended, Everyone has thier own opinion and if you do not like it, just go on and find something that interest you. With all the members on mylot I am sure you could find another post to occupy your thoughts and energy.
@ESKARENA1 (18261)
20 Jan 07
for me, nothing that develops out of the fantasy world we build for ourselves on the internet is worth getting offended about. Lol it is meant to be fun. If i see a discussion i dont like i just wont answer, i mean, why would anyone?
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@Sissygrl (10912)
• Canada
20 Jan 07
I'd just move on to the next discussion and think quietly to myself IDIOT! lol but really what's the point in gettin PO'd at someone your never going to meet? This site is about opinions OBviOUSLy some of us are going to have oppisite and different opinions we are a diverse group of people and hopefully are all individuals with our own point of view :) lIGHTEN UP PEOPLE! Dont be mad Dont be MEAN!
@ChewySpree (1832)
• United States
20 Jan 07
If it's against myLot's guidelines, I report it, but if it's not then I just move on and don't say anything. I don't see how it would do much good to say anything, other than to stir something up.
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20 Jan 07
Great point. It just may start a flame war which is against Mylot rules.
• United States
20 Jan 07
It is hard sometimes online to post something to come off in a comical manner because all a person can see is words so they dont really know if you are simply trying to be funny or being serious. So if I see something that offends me I would most likely react as if I was offended, but if they make it clear that it was a joke maybe I would reevaluate my post.
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@TerryZ (22076)
• United States
20 Jan 07
Sometimes I reply back with a hateful remark its all according if Im having a bad day. If Im not then I just agnore it and move on. I think most of us feel this way.
20 Jan 07
You said if you are having bad day. On a good day do you go back and see if maybe you made a mistake, since you are seeing it through diffrent eyes? If so, and you do see it wasn't as you thought it was the first time, do you apologies where you left that hateful message or leave it alone? Just wondering.
@roopsimi (50)
• Australia
20 Jan 07
mostly i would ignore it and move on . everone is entitled to there opinion and i have to respect that. but at times i might be tempted to give the person a piece of my mind , but only if the comment is not only offensive but also derogatory to basic human values because one thing i stand firm on is that inhumanity is NOT a joke . no way.
@ILANEDRI (1921)
• Israel
20 Jan 07
I probably would send a private message to that member, and tell him that I got offense from his post. I want him to explain me that the post wasn't about me, and he needs to convince me. People shouldn't take posts here so seriously. It's just internet. I can't understand those people.
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20 Jan 07
I like the private message idea, to be honest I never thought about that. Great postive way to approach it!
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@Pekachu (1112)
• United States
20 Jan 07
i would just move on except well i did tell one poster thhat asked to be on friends list and i accepted and then he proceed to post a rediculous question and i just had to tell him what i thought of his post course i think i was as polite as possible then i deleted him from friends list lol
@cwilson26 (2735)
• United States
20 Jan 07
Well I wouldn't post anything hateful because I'm not trying to make enemies on here. But I don't know if I would ignore it either. Of course I have seen some posts on here that made me a little irritated but I just went on to the next one. If it is something that I disagree with I would just respond with a disagreement but nothing hateful or mean. I would just post my own opinion and tell them I hope they are not offended by it. I have made some good friends on here and would like to keep it that way. :)
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@snow2007 (170)
• Canada
20 Jan 07
I would ignore it because other people have different opinions then you and think differently. So i won't hate someone or post a hateful comment just because they think differently.
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@jolanda33 (720)
• Netherlands
20 Jan 07
hi, i will reply but not hateful! that doesn't work, this person felt upset, or this person didn't understand this was a comical post. I mean i don't understand also all the words at mylot, so if i don't understand the question i won't reply!you can not plesure all the members so better avoid further hatefull or offensive posts! that is my opinion!
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• United States
20 Jan 07
b. i ignore it because obviously it wasnt meant for it to be offending. i dont post hateful remarks and i dont think it's right for others to do so either. just ignore it and go on. i wouldn't tell the person that i would never talk to them again either. that's stupid.
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@crazynurse (7482)
• United States
20 Jan 07
Ignore it and go on. Especially if it was a humorous post. Now a debatable topic, I have no problem KINDLY stating my viewpoints and agreeing to disagree. A hateful response is never in order in my opinion. This is only going to alienate others, and is of course not living by the golden rule.
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@Geone1 (65)
20 Jan 07
It would depend on the type of question posted and if it was of any interest to me or something I felt strongly about,just bear in mind that we all have different views & opinions which won't please everyone I guess!!
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@kapriusa (135)
• United States
20 Jan 07
I would reply and make the person understand that it is not a good thing friend.I hope if so many pe.ope will explain then he will definatly understand
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• United States
20 Jan 07
since every one is entitled to thier own opinion i would read it, and move on with my day. I would leave a comment but it wouldnt be rude or anything just my opinion.