Love at first site

India
January 20, 2007 12:04am CST
I would like to discuss my problem with you. If anyone can solve the problem of mine please help me out. I had a girlfriend from my college she is very cute and charming at first we both were good friends then we got to know each other. Then we became lovers but when we became lovers the problem started the problem was that everyone was against me like stay away from that girl she belongs to someone else. Then I tried listening to others and stayed away which she did not like. I tried avoiding her also but i just couldnt stop talking with her. Many a times i had a fight with a person because i was madly in love with her. I tried to find out all the information about the other person who loves her like mad. So we spent most of the time alone and somewhere where others cant get us. So then i finally decided that not to listen to others anymore and just follow my heart. When i was listening to my heart and meeting her and talking with her also I was happy because she was the only girl that brought a smile to my face. Then one day she messaged me in the morning saying that she broke up with me 3 days back. As She would always joke around with anything I thought she was joking around about this I asked her why for what reason did she break up with me she replied that she did not believe in commitment. So i didnt believe her but when she stopped replying my messages i knew that she was not joking but she was serious. Many a times i wait for her message still thinking that she will message me and call me up now she doesnt as she used to. Every time when i sit all alone i just keep thinking about her and when i think about her I start feeling bad and start to cry. I just cant get her out of my head. Now i am even scared to call her up and speak to her... What if her family doesnt like talking with me or scolds me. Could you tell me what shall i Do
1 response
cheongyc
@cheongyc (5072)
• Malaysia
20 Jan 07
First of all, don't be over-posseisive and relationship need space and respect. Love itself is voluntarily from both parties, and is beyond your control. I realized about this when my girl friend broke up with me one month ago. I was very sad and feel it's the end of the world. Finally i realized that it's just beyond my control and i had tried my best to make her stay. But still she want to leave and what i can do is to wish her the best and hope she could find a better one. Girls are more emotional than boys. They just do what they 'feel' want to do. Including love. When they want to stay, it's hard to drive them away, when they are determined to leave, the world can't hold her. And these course of action is base their feeling or love towards you. You can do nothing about it, just accept it and be a gentleman. At least, you still got an intimate friends in future. Get over it, be strong and brave. I know it's hard, coz i myself still feel hurt and miss my ex very much. Hope this help and good luck. You sure will find a better one, who can give commitment.