how am i suppose to deal with this?

he promise you he would change an he hasnt.. then show him you mean business or he will never change.leave him then he might change.he will know you are for real.you need to make changes for the baby sake.

I had something similar happen to me. I had to leave the guy before he took me seriously. Afterward he made the changes that needed to be made and we had a long talk about things. As it turned out there were things about me that irrated him too. We worked through it. And now, well, we will be celabrating our one year anniversary in March. You just have to let him know that you are serious. If not, he won't change. He'll just expect you to deal with it.

Well dear the promises he made to you about changing his ways have yet to come true. If I was you I'd take the baby and get as far away as I could from him. You are young yet and I'm sure that you will find a nice guy that will treat you the way you should be treated...with love and respect.

to tell both of you. In your age you have to expect that your still immature as well as your boyfriend. When you enter that kind of commitment you should bear in mind that is part of your growing up. YOur still young and you will still be experiencing a lot of things as time goes on. So that means its pretty normal due to stresses of life you will feel different. Everything changes, so if you think deciding to let go of him is the best way to free your self its up to you but you have to think of it many times. On the other hand if you think you still can handle it and act as mature you and your boyfriend and decided to grow together then go on. Giving a chance is not bad, you just need to be patient and help each other. you both need motivation especially your boyfriend in order to grow and change for the best.

If you have already spoken with him about the things that are bothering you, maybe you should give him a reality check. By this I mean tell him what you feel has changed and maybe show him a picture of how he used to look or present himself. If this does not work then I would tell him that you are leaving and you are taking your daughter with you. If this does not get his attention very quickly then you and your daughter are honestly better without him.

I think it's common thing in your ages....you can wait or just try to find out a reason....may be it's becouse of his parents influense.....i mean any new family it's a mirror of their parents relations...and the only way to solve this problem in your relations is to find out the reason why it were in your family....

Geez,please leave him for a while until he get back to his senses. Please make him understand that he has a family now to take care of.

hi there.. i know how hard you must be going through.. but all i can say is that give him some time, dont say things to him over and over again, i think the first time that you told him your concerns, he already knew it, it got stucked at his thoughts somehow but unfortunately he hasnt done the first step... i guess at 21, having all these responsibilities was still new to him, i guess he's still in shock somehow.. but just give him the courage, inspire him, talk to him as gently as you could and tell him that you know what, this time around, our baby needs our love, support, and she's already our responsibility. I want our daughter to grew up with you being around, im not asking you too much but we really should provide for our child, dont you think, its about time that you should look for a job? i know its never gonna be easy but im with you all the way, ypu can always have my support... things like that^_^ see, you cant change a person not unless he wants to.. the best thing that you can do is inspire him, understand him, and encourage him. just give it sometime, your still going through the adjustment period.. all the best^_^

i believe this is because he is still immature in responsibilities and as being a father. i think you should still give him some time and i believe this will be a long journey between the two of you.

I say give it some time. I think we have most all been in your situation. I know that everytime I have a baby I start feeling this way just before delivery and for up to several months after having the baby. I am now pregnant again and at 22 weeks starting to feel the aggravation toward him. This can be natural. Just hold on for a while and if things get better then great and if they don't then you should consider counseling etc... Good luck with your new baby and working things out.

so whats up with the plan of building a complete family. Raise your child on your own. if that man can't change for good for the sake of you and your baby then let him go. Its very infair to stay with him and keep him the way he is being irresponsible. Dont make yourself suffer lady! Its hard raising a child, its add harder to raise a irresponsible husband :)

Don't confront, don't fight. Sit down and talk with him. You guys are so young. You were in love that's why you're in this situation. Can you live without the other? If not, stay together and work hard on it. Keep trying for the kid. If you love each other you will work things out. It's not cool to be a single parent like me, trust me. Guys are really that way with kids, so don't expect much from him. Teach him if you have to.

This is a very confused situation,because you have a chlid and will be difficult for you to raise this child without a father.I don't know what to advice you,but you should give him some time to change and get more serious about the family life.You are very young and he may not realize the responsibillity of being a father.

See... all of us are seated elsewhere and YOU ARE THE ONLY PERSON WHO CAN see things in the proper perspective and decide aptly.... 1. What made you get attracted to your boyfriend in the frst place ?Be as specific as possible... 2.Does it still hold good ? 3.Is he willing to carry on this relationship with you ? Ask him directly...Speak with him,...tell him we need to talk and tell him gently and sweetly of his responsibilities as a man...It won't be easy, but nothis worthwhile is easy... 4.Are you wanting in your heart to love him still...and carry on the relationship...? 5.Your answers shall decide the destinations for you...Destination + you make Destiny. 6.If you feel that it is in your best interests and your baby's best interests to move on,..so be it... In Life, really sometimes you have to let go of the things that you love... If they are really yours, Life will bring them back to you, no matter where you are... If not,... then it was never yours,in the first place... I am praying for your best outcome...Bonne Chance Fair Lassie...God Bless You.

Try to understand him also, ask him to understand you. Sit and discuss what is main point of discussion which is giving differences among you peoples. Don't take decission in hasty way.

Well i am a really optimistic person and i really think it helps a lot in life when u are positive about certain things certainly in relationships The answer i have for you is that give your boyfriend sometime i think he will realize his duties and responsibilities Its a pretty hard job to bring up a baby alone and it will be much better if u do it together not only for you but your baby too Maybe your boyfriend was a little immature but make him realize what he needs to change about himself I think he will change for not your good but his good too after all he loves u too

look my frnd after a child gals love is divided in b/w her boy frnd or husband and her new born child and she became more careful about her new born child,so wht's coming into your mind is natural but be polite towards ur boy frnd also, by thinking about the qualities of ur bf for which u fall in love with him and wht make u bored from his side,consider urself also at the same time,hw much u r loving ur bf these days?

well, you and your boyfriend should talk it over, i guess there something wrong with you or with your boyfriend, oh, don't take it offensive, what i'm trying to say is, settle all the issues that causes your indifferences. good luck mam.

DUMP HIM! and find yourself a man. This is the best thing for you and your baby. You don't need him dragging you down especially when you have a baby to take care of. If he's not willing to change, he's not worth your heartache. In this society, single mothers are not frowned upon so much anymore. You are then free to find someone who will support you and you baby and still get child support from the baby's father. And besides, he can still have visitation rights. Don't think about him because he's obviously not thinking about you. Think about your future and your baby's future.