Is money really that important?
@faylinn_chaeli (1619)
Philippines
January 20, 2007 9:03am CST
You know guys after being here in MyLot for 3 weeks now I think money is not the only reason why I am here. I love this community.
Anyway, I asked this question because I realize that YES, we need money to survive but we don't need so much money to be happy either. My boyfriend is planning to go abroad at first I said it's ok with me. I'm just being practical and yes it's the right thing to say, but now I want to take back everything that I've said and say "NO, I don't want you to leave." Sometimes if you love a person too much you can't stand the day without thinking of him or without seeing him.
We can find a good job in our country if we will just help each other. I can live a simple life I don't need a nice car or a big house.
I am not saying this because I want to make a story... I just want to let my feelings out. I also know that once I posted it I can never delete it.
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118 responses
@sunshinecup (7871)
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20 Jan 07
I feel your pain. It's hard to make such sacrifices, it is hard on everyone, so don't think you are being selfish or silly. Have hope and stay focused on the plan and the positives. Keep your self, busy. I know it is hard on the mind and most of all on the heart. Pull friends close until this time passes. Vent as much as you want to on Mylot. These are your discussions so use them if it helps.
I'm sorry you are going through this, but your reasons for doing so are wonderful reasons, a better life and future. If my opinion helps you any.
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@KrauseHome (36447)
• United States
20 Jan 07
Well, if I was just here for the money, I probably would have been like a lot of other people and left this site, or chose to complain, and such. But I Love coming in here from time to time, and be able to discuss and talk about a lot of different things, and meet so many wonderful people, and make a lot of Great friends. I feel you can learn a lot of interesting stuff here, and maybe even about yourself, so that is why I continue to keep on coming in here and posting here.
@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
20 Jan 07
You are like me and it is not right to say yes go just to make him happy and feel better for it
Tell him how you really feel and both of you need to sit down and talk this through and decide what you both want and if it is worth the pain and grief
I hope you get this sorted out
@jtmblossom (470)
• Philippines
21 Jan 07
It's not actually the money. Its the freedom of speech and the sharing of opinions and learning things from other people. Money is important but foe emergency use.
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@shashi_233748 (56)
• India
21 Jan 07
yes,money is important for every one but always money cant satisfy to a human but relationship does satisfy to anyone
@missybal (4490)
• United States
20 Jan 07
I agree. My husband is always worried about money and if he can keep me in the lifestyle he feels I desirve and I don't see how more money could make me happy if he must work all the time to do it. I would much rather have him and be poor then be without him and have a bunch of money.
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@sarfaraz_ahmedh (171)
• India
21 Jan 07
yes money is very important in evertbodys life , without money no body can leave in this world. i am here in mylot for money only.
@freesoul (3021)
• Egypt
21 Jan 07
Yes money is not everything, we all say that but it's hard to survive without it, if as you say both of you can manage enough money to live a simple and happy life then his going abroad and your separation doesn't worth the money he will earn. if you can find away to still be together (travel with him) it will be ok in any country as long as you are both together. as for saying yes and regretting it, it's natural that you want the best for him and don't want to restrict him so you said yes, wanting to take it back is also natural and not selfish, people who love each other are meant to live together and not separate, you should have a talk with your boyfriend and let him know how you feel about it and I hope you can find a way to either stay together or travel together.
@amazehr (429)
• Philippines
21 Jan 07
now a days it is you can't live without it like for me i have kids to feed no one can live without money for everything that you need you have to buy or even if something or someone gives you everything still you will be needing money admit it.
@adrianzak (4)
• Morocco
20 Jan 07
Hi
I will tell you something money is so important in our life in our new life !! if u would like to have a good life you have to pay more that's the system !! everything good is very expensive !! what we should do ??
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@jhoanee (598)
• Philippines
21 Jan 07
you know what for me money is one of the things you want in life coz without it how can you eat or buy those things that need you in order to survive. but for me i dont need too much on it. what is important is to be with someone you love and leave a simple life and be happy. i agree on when you said you want to take it back what you told to your boyfriend. but your know what men had different thinking from us girls they had there pride and besides most men had in mind that they are responsible to let their family be in good and have everything they want what money will buy. we cant let them forget them coz that what suppose to be. so i guess you just support you boyfriend for whatever he plans for both of you coz its for the better. i just hope love will still be in both of your hearts despite the distance. goodluck and godbless!
@marief2rnurse (2704)
• United States
21 Jan 07
I think I'm starting to like it here as well. I wish you luck on your relationship. I hope you're not in a third world country because it's hard to have a family in one. But if you happy with what you have, I'm sure you will be fine. There are so many people who are just getting by, people want different things in life. I hope you both have the same goals and commitment in your relationship.
@kindlady33 (194)
• Philippines
21 Jan 07
yeah.... me tooo its a nice thing that theres mylot in order for us to have some exchange about the relationship topics
@kingadnan (1538)
• Pakistan
21 Jan 07
Yes i agree with you, i am here because i get many information from different discussion and i also share many information, and i like to share it, i also like to make friends and this is also truth that money is important to survive so we need money, these all things are available on mylot thats why mylot has too many members, thanks friend i really like your discussion i gave you + point, thanks again
@sunny5u (2069)
• India
20 Jan 07
Yes,many think that money is only the life but is don't believe that everything is important in the life,i joined in the mylot to get money as well as making friends from all over the world.i think this is good only.For living only money is important but not for anything else.
@rameshgopal365 (918)
• India
20 Jan 07
Money alone will not fullfill the life.
We need good and strong relationships with us to win the life game!!
@shakadoodoo (737)
• Dallas, Texas
20 Jan 07
I did the same thing - I was here for the money but now I am here because I like the community.
You should tell your husband how you really feel because if you don't you will always regret that you did not. You have the right to tell him how you feel and he has the right to know. If you tell him maybe you can figure out another way to make money where you are at. You can not blame him for wanting to make more money. A man has to have a sence of security - especially when it comes to his family. You all just need to communicate.
@faylinn_chaeli (1619)
• Philippines
20 Jan 07
Thanks for the advice, he is not my husband yet, he's my boyfriend. I also posted the picture on top, it's one of the places that we used to go to and have a picnic. Just spend time together, it's a simple yet a nice place for me.