Is Age Just a Number?
By ukchriss
@ukchriss (2097)
January 20, 2007 4:21pm CST
Do you prefer an older or younger Partner?
I'm lucky to be sometimes told that I don't look my age,
(I usually ask if they want to borrow my glasses!)
I know I defiantly don't act or feel my age and I'm proud of it, considering everything ..
Anyway I intend to make the most out of it ..
Personally I myself, prefer my partners to be younger than me, I have the view that age is only a number so if two people just click and if the chemistry is right, age shouldn't really be too much of a factor. Certainly not one which cant be worked around, especially if that person treats you with the greatest respect and love,
Maturity and experience can vary very much from person to person ... younger can sometimes be more experienced and perhaps even wiser than older ...
Plus it's a proven fact that women out live men ...
I think Love cannot only be blind, but it's also ageless.. Just my opinion ..
So what do you think .. does age really matter in any relationship?
Is your partner older or younger?
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116 responses
@Alexandria37 (5717)
• Ireland
20 Jan 07
I met my husband just before my 21st birthday and he was only 17 years old. At that time I felt he was too young and immature for me, but I couldn't give him up. Now after 38 years of marriage, I regard him as being more mature than I am and we are more in love with each other than we were on our wedding day. I don't believe age matters if two people are in love.
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@shywolf (4514)
• United States
20 Jan 07
Seriously, are we the same person? LOL. I know that we aren't, but you've said almost everything that I would have said on the subject. In fact, you've said the majority of what i _have_ said in other topics here on Mylot about the subject of older women with younger men. I too would like/prefer a slighty younger male partner even for the simple fact that women are known to outlive men, generally. It just makes _sense_ to me to marry a younger man. But I would never rule out finding the love of my life who is any age above the legal age! *laugh* I just would prefer to find someone a bit younger, so that we can be together as long as possible! ^_^
@dangerdvd (320)
• Italy
21 Jan 07
for me, the love have not got an age! because a lot of people of every age love people younger or older than them, but....for them, it is not a problem! because for them, the love is the most important thing...and about the people's idea... they are not interessed
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@mishang (498)
• Philippines
21 Jan 07
Age for me is just a number.
Whether your partner is younger or older than you, it all comes down to the question if he is still sincere and tru and committed enough to stay in the relationship.
I think that it is not the age that we girls are looking for, hence the compatability that we can have with another. It's sense and feeling of belongingness, a feeling that you and your partner can connect, understand and feel comfortable whenever your together because you have the right connections and as they say, the two of you jive well together.
Personally, I don't see number as a qualification, on the contrary, I am after the maturity and responsibility of the guy I'm gonna be spending my time with, because for me, maturity with great responsible is a measure a being a man. But of course, that is a personal preference. It doesn't matter whether the guy is older or younger, just as long as we jive and we understand each other.
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@TheExecutive (55)
• United States
21 Jan 07
To begin with I respect your opinions. We each have a course of action that works for us.
I do not see no right or wrong here.
As for me, I prefer a partner that has their act together and knows what they want out of life. And preferably is well on their way to achieving their life plan. I find them to be more stable and self-reliant. Which I consider a huge asset in a person.
Granted youth is good for the soul in many cases. The physical attractiveness and the energy that they project. However, I find in many cases that they do not know what they want out of life. And in some cases they do not know where they are in life. Of course their are the exceptions.
@sbeauty (5865)
• United States
21 Jan 07
Age means very little once people mature. My husband is 13 years older than I am, and it has never mattered to me until now that I see him getting old and worry about losing him. Now I kind of wish he were younger than I am, but you can't have everything.
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@kodeshkodashim (925)
• United States
21 Jan 07
When I was in high school seemed like all the girls I was with were older.Freinds or not .Now that I'm an adult there younger.I was in a relationship ...she was 10 years younger....No, not a baby she was in her late 20's.lol. Age can be just be a # to a point.
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@magdollars23 (1684)
• United States
21 Jan 07
Age is just a number in some situations. I think that people of close to the same maturity level should date. But in cases where a person is under age and a minor then they shouldnt be dealing with someone who is over the age of 18 because that is just plain illegeal.
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@embattledsparkle (1072)
• United States
21 Jan 07
I'm 28 and at the age I'm at right now, I'd prefer a partner that is slightly older. For me, the perfect age of a partner would be around 33-35. But ask me this question in a few years and I'll definately say I'd want someone younger. :) Really though, I wouldn't pass on someone that I thought I'd get along good with, just because of their age.
@few00cent (2183)
• India
21 Jan 07
My last girlfriend was 30 and i am 23,when the woman is older than the man society views this double standard quite harshly.Honestly the age didn't really cause any problems outside of having to deal withh comments of friends who knew the situation (to outside observers it wasn't overtly noticeable)...though you have to think very future oriented.
I think the best way to approach these things is to evaluate the present status quo and to look ahead abit.the poster and this girl maybe on the same page now,but what about when she's 50 and he's 36 ? will she be so attractive to him.most 36 years olds i know want nothing to do with a 50 year old.In the end ,i guess my advice is if both parties are cool with it,go for it and see what happens.It might not work,or maybe it will.
At least you'll never wonder :what if"?Nothing ventured,nothing gained.
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@lasvegaslogos (15)
• United States
21 Jan 07
Age is just a number but it's a big number. My wife is 10 years younger than me, when we got married she was 23 I was 33, (and yes it was my first marraige). For there to be a big age difference 10 years or more I think that one person has to be a little mature than normally at that age (yes my wife was more mature than the average 23 year old) and the other has to be not necessarily less mature but more willing to accept cultural difference, or be more in tune with a generation difference (ie music art etc)
In our case I was always open to doing and trying anything. I jumped out of an airplane at 42 as an example. after 10 years of marraige no one sees any difference between us.
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@chelle350 (136)
• United States
21 Jan 07
Currently I'm with someone 3 years younger than me. Honestly I never think about our ages. However, if I were with someone say.. 20 years older I dont think that i'd have much in common. I'm not really into the older guy thing.
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@sunshinecup (7871)
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20 Jan 07
I think when the age is so different that it is impossible to have any thing in common, it tends to make the relationship a bit harder to maintain.
My husband is one year younger than me. I think it's a perfect difference.
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@patootie (3592)
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20 Jan 07
I've had both an older longterm partner and a younger long term partner .. have to say that actual age made no difference whatsoever .. in fact the younger guy was more mature than the older guy so age is immaterial .. what is most important is that you actual gel together .. that you can have a stable partnership ..
Mind you right now I would probably settle for just 'mildly interested' hahahah it's been so long I have forgotten what it's like to have a partner .. so I'm not sure if I am ecstatically happy .. or deeply miserable heehh !!
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@moulikrishna (122)
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21 Jan 07
I like older partners for sure as they are well matured in mental state than us and they can understand us a lot.
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@p3halliwel2005 (3156)
• Philippines
21 Jan 07
I myself do not look like my age at 33 and am a mother as well. People say I look younger and don't look married.I guess for me age is just a number. And I don't think age really matters in a relationship. What matters most is that you love each other. My partner is a year older than me but I feel I am much more matured in thinking than him.
@creavin007 (131)
• India
21 Jan 07
my partner is younger I will look for younger but age dosen't matter if you love somebody it is that how you love each other forgeting the age. But if you looking for somebody instead of age find such who love you only.
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