Pregnant teens, adoption, abortion or keep the baby?

Every woman must make her own mind up about this extremely personal and intimate issue, i do not think there can be a general answer that works to all people. For me, it depends on the circumstances each person finds herself in, whatever the decision i pray she has the love and support around her that she needs blessed be

I would want her to make that decision but I would try to talk her into either keeping the baby or putting it up for adoption. I really don't like the option of abortion but I would not hate her for it. I would also offer as much support that I could give her including watching the baby for her so she could finish school or get employment.

This is a really interesting discussion. I personally do not yet have any children, but I think that if this happened to a daughter of mine I would sit down and have a long talk with her and see what her feelings were, first. Honestly, I would not want her to bring a child into this world if she did not feel ready. But I do agree that adoption is a better answer that abortion if she thought that she could handle it. Still, I would hope to support her in whatever decision she chose. ^_^

As a mother of two grown daughters and a women who had to have a hysterectomy at the age of 26, I am very opinionated on this subject. My huband and I wanted more children but the sugery ended all possiblilies. We lost 4 babies when i was between 5 & 6 months pregnant. I believe a child could get a better start by putting it up for adoption. A loving mother and father without the stigma of "pregnant out of wedloc mother" would give the child a better life. I know many grandparents of the daughter would take the child and raise it but there would always be the real mother wanting to dicipline the child. The child may be torn and not understand who is in charge. I love kids and I would love to have another baby so my opinion is nine and mine only.

As her mom, I would tell her it's her choice. All I could really do is console her and be there for her to help her make the right choice. In the end it would be totally up to her to decide what is best for her and the child she's carrying.

If i was a father and it was up to me wether she aborted or not, i would most likely encourage her to abort. In my opinion, a teenager doesn't have the skills or knowledge to raise a child. Yes, she could get help from her parents and friends, but SHE would be the mother and be responsible for the kid. Not only that, I think its very negative for a teen to have a baby at such an early stage of her life. With so much going through her life at such age, the last thing she would want would be a baby. It would only cause problems, so it would be wiser to wait some years until she settled down, had a steady job and could provide the child with a better enviroment. The worst choice would be to offer the baby for adoption. Just imagine what the newborn would have to go through in life never knowing who his parents are.

ou could keep the baby and be a parent. Or, you could continue the pregnancy and give ... Adoption is an option that many pregnant teens take advantage of. ...

encourage her to get an abortion, if there's a choice medically, otherwise keep the child if its too late for abortion

I think if the teen or the parents don't feel she can keep it at least adopt it out. I am agaist abortion and it isn't the baby's fault it was made it doesn't deserve to be aborded.

I would support the decision of my child and be as supportive as I can be. I may not agree with it but I feel it should be their own decision.

Obviously it is different for everyone, different curcumstances etc. Personally I would keep the baby as I believe it would be the right thing for me and my partner and altough it may not be easy to start with, we both have strong families around us who would be able to help us out. Personally, I do not agree with abortion, however I do appreciate that there are circumstances where it should be used. As this is currently a big problem in Britian, it is important for youngster not to get to this option! It would be better for everyone to be in a stead relationship and financial capable for everyone to be happy. However, when is life this easy!

This is a very hard one.I think you just have to sit down with the girl and put all options and front of her and let her know that what ever she wants to do she will have someone back her up. I myself don't believe in abortion but I wouldn't put someone down if thats what they do. They have it hard enough they don't need me to judge them. I went thru this with a cousin she was 16 years old. Her momther kicked her out and she came to live with me. So we talked and this is what I did. We went to the stores and she wanted make up and I said oh noo you have to buy milk and papmers. She looked at me like I was crazy I said thats what happens when you have a baby. Then we went to enroll her in school and the had signs up for home coming. She said I want to go to that. I said well ok but you might be very pregnant at that time or have the baby and would need a babysitter that didn't charge. She of course got mad. I said I just want you to know things that will happen with this baby. We talked about adoption and she said she didn't want that unless I would adopt the baby and that was not what I wanted. She she did get an abortion and for a month she cried afterwards. She wanted me to tell her thats what she should do but I said nope I can't because later you will say it was my fault.

no i dont support abortion nor offer it for an adoption. i would still try to give my grandchild a normal life for he has nothing to do with what his parent has done. the child deserves it.

As a teen mother myself, I would never encourage my daughter to do anything. I would do just what my mom did, she took me to the doctor to be educated on the abortion process, to an adoption agency to meet with other moms who put their children up for adoption and learn how the how process worked, and then sat with and let me know what her expectations from me would be if I kept the baby. I decided that there was no way I could live the rest of my life wondering where my child was, how he was being treated, and all the other questions. I kept my son he is almost 14 now and we live a very happy life. I think the best things we as parents can do for our children is educate them.

if my daughter (when i have a daughter) become pregnant as a teen i would discuss the options she has. it also depends on what the father decides as well, weather he's alright it is and is ready to take responsibility for his child or if he runs for the hills never to return. if the father wants to take responsibility for the child AND my daughter (as in he loves her enought to get married to her) then the desision is theirs alone to make and i would try not to interfer with it. i would advice them of the consequences of what MIGHT happen if they chose other routes. i would support whatever desions that they/or she made. ...on that note. i was only 17 when i became pregnent with my son. just out of high school and moved to another state. my bf at the time proposed to me and i went through the..should i give the child up so i could go to school and work on a carrer?? thing...but then while talking to him i realized that would i be able to live on and forgive myself if i had an abortion or especially given the child up. would i be able to NOT think about where the childre is and would i have any regrets in the future. honestly i didn't know if i could. so i had the baby, and struggled through it with my now husband (we married a month before the baby was born) now when i look at my children (we had another one 1 1/2 years after my first was born) i don't think i would want to have given them up. they are my world and i love them so much.

i would definitely discourage abortion, in my opinion it can be considered as murder. no one has the right to take someone's life and this includes an innocent child inside your womb. adoption? i will also discourage it. i will indeed encourage to keep the baby, because its the right thing to do. someone should learn to take full responsibility of their actions.. abortion and adoption should not be an option, its way of escaping and sign of immaturity. think of the consequences of your actions.

if she has made a mistake and she accepts it then to safegaurd her future you have no choice other than abortion... if the boy is a good person then it's keeping the baby... if you are not that much cold harted then adoption...

When I was around my teens,I would probably choose to have an option.Being young,I know that a lot of things is still instored for me and if I'm not yet ready,I would just think abt keeping it or not.But when I got pregnant at 19,I realized that when you'r there,its really diff.You grow an attachment to the baby inside you.Of course,I kept my child.And I'm not regretting anything.Now I have 3 wonderful kids.And I can say they complete me.I consider them a blessing which I will care and love every single day of my life.But upto now,I'm still not against women having their choices.They have the body and they know what they would do w/ it.After all,I do believe that before a woman would choose to have an abortion,she'll think abt it a hundred times bfore she decides.

I would definetly keep the child. it is part of my flesh and blood. Its not the babies fault so don't encourage her to kill it. I think it is now her responability to finish the job she started. Raise her child no matter what it takes. Hold her head up and stand beside her child. Love him and teach him to love responsibily.

Well imagine a teen gets raped and impregnated she has a choice between keeping it or aborting it, i seriously doubt that that girl will want a strangers baby led alone one of them who hurt her. but in other cases girls get pregnant as teens on purpose so i dont know what to answer in that case.