Are you afraid to give your opinion????
By Stephanie5
@Stephanie5 (2946)
United States
January 20, 2007 8:00pm CST
Do you skip over discussions where you know you are not going to agree with someone just because you are afraid that they will mark you with a (-)?
I'm not going to lie, I do! Some people do not use the rating system the right way. And in the past I have had disagreements with people and they have marked me with a (-) just for disagreeing with them and then went on to go to all my other discussions and mark them negative also! I went from a 94 to an 88 in one freaking day. Although I love the stars, I think this is a downfall of it. What do you think? Do you skip discussions where you don't think they are going to like what you have to say? Aren't you tired of trying to be "popular"? lol
I'm done. I'm going to go around saying whatever I like and when my little star has a '1' in it, I'll be happy because I spoke my mind and didn't care! :-) I'm just venting, sorry....I look forward to reading your responses!
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146 responses
@rein2410 (809)
• Australia
21 Jan 07
I do not really care about whether they will mark me positive or negative, because, seriously, its all about sharing opinion and diffrent people obviously have diffrent thinking, we are not the same, we are all unique with diffrent brain capacity. I always rate positive to those who actually gives detail answers and explain why they choose this and that. But I will mark negative at someone not answering my question and I do not care about someone that answer with just 4 words or something. BEcause they sometimes dont share their experience properly, I would not mark them positive nor negative. BUt, if they give details, I would consider making them the best response
@ghalayini (122)
• Australia
22 Jan 07
That's how naive I am, I didn't even know about rating answers. Hmm, I guess that does cause problems but I think I will still put my view across even if I disagree.
If someone targets you though unfairly, I'm sure you can contact Mylot about it.
@123456_ (1052)
• Philippines
22 Jan 07
sometimes i worry also, however, i still answer those discussion. mylot is a community where people aRE given a chance to express their idea. as long as i am not causing trouble to anyone, i'd voice out what i feel. but of course in a right manner.
@samwilliams06 (946)
• United States
22 Jan 07
I skip over discussions when know that I really wouldnt have an answer for them. Even if I dont agree I stil give an honest and truthful opinion on what I think. You never have a good discussion if everyone agres awith everyone. where would the diversity in the discussion be?
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@LovingIt (5396)
• United States
21 Jan 07
I've become very inactive here at MyLot because of this. I also got into a discussion where I disagreed with someone and the same thing happened to me. That is why we are both showing as a 9 instead of a 10, no doubt. :-) The thing that really upsets me is that when someone does that, it also affects our earnings, as well. I'm trying to get my earning up enough by the end of the month to get paid and then I'll say goodbye to MyLot. When I first joined it was worthwhile, but it's not anymore.
@dareformore (794)
• Pakistan
21 Jan 07
No i'm not afraid
I m not here just to make but it is a place wheer i give and take opinions and disscss the matters
@emeraldisle (13139)
• United States
21 Jan 07
I don't worry about it actually. If it is something I feel strongly about I don't care if I disagree with them or not. I know I've posted in a few where I'm sure some didn't like what I said since it was opposite to what the starter of the discussion was stating. My thought is if someone disagrees fine and dandy so long as they back up their position with more then just "I feel this way" and that it is on the topic at hand. Then that is what this board is for, discussing different view points. If all I wanted was agreements then I wouldn't be here, I'd just listen to myself.
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@thinkingoutloud (6127)
• Canada
21 Jan 07
I have actually never considered not responding to something for fear of being rated negatively... I just post responses where I have something to contribute. I admit that I stay out of discussions that are already spinning out of control due to conflicting opinions but, if I enter a controversial subject and people are debating as adults, I'm eager to participate. Only once, so far, can I recall being verbally "spanked" for my opinion... and it happened to be in a discussion where the originating member had already decided what the "right" answer was to be (apparently) and anyone who didn't reply along those lines got a very negative post in return. While I will usually go back to interesting discussions multiple times, I won't return to one like that. There's no point because there is no honest desire for online conversation with folks like that.
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@combat_girl (166)
• India
21 Jan 07
i am not scared of replying discussions bcoz ppl will give me a negative rating but i dont reply discussions bcoz mostly i feel i have no answer to them or they are too boring and stupid to reply to.
@unfathomedpsyche (858)
• Thailand
21 Jan 07
I actually do have some hesistations in answering discussions that might spark into a disagreement. I also saw some discussions telling outfront that they will rate comments they don't approve of, how lame!. To tell you the truth my friend, i have become picky in choosing the discussions i want to reply. I have once made a comment on one of the people i look up to in this comunity and the result was very much disappointing. As i have expected he didn't like my comment, from that day on i have been very careful in giving comments. I admire and envy you for your courage my friend.
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@justinmackx (516)
• India
21 Jan 07
of course not., we r free here 2 express ourself. and i do so
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@Pigglies (9329)
• United States
21 Jan 07
I don't fear the minuses. I'm just on here to have fun, and the money is a bonus. If it stopped being fun, it wouldn't be worth it. And if I have to lie about my opinion online, what's the fun in that? Online is where you can be yourself and shouldn't have to be afraid.
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@BittyBiddy (2903)
• Ireland
21 Jan 07
No, I'm not afraid to give my opinion, and I'd rather when people were replying to my discussions that they weren't afraid to give their opinion either. I don't mind at all if people have conflicting opinions. I think it opens up a discussion and offers more opportunity to discuss something. I would never rate a differing opinion negatively just because it differs. That's just immature. Lots of people have replied to my discussions with a conflicting opinion and I still rate them positively. I think that's the difference between a good and a bad debater.
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@kevkentis (590)
• Jamaica
21 Jan 07
Its very immature for sure they should be more honest and stop being bias. Theres plenty of stars to go around for everyone.
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@kevkentis (590)
• Jamaica
21 Jan 07
Its very immature for sure they should be more honest and stop being bias. Theres plenty of stars to go around for everyone.
@irisheyes (4370)
• United States
22 Jan 07
I'm answering your post again because since I first replied, I believe the situation has arisen. I responded to a political discussion and strongly disagreed with the poster. I didn't post anything that was out of line or against mylot rules. My opinion was very counter to the poster. He replied in what I thought was an illogical and condescending way and I replied to that. (Still not insulting or out of line) When I went back to see if there was further response, I noticed that on both of my postings there were no rating boxes at all. When I checked through the discussion, I saw that all the other postings still had the rating boxes. There were over 150 replies. SO.... I was just negged twice for daring to disagree. Wonder how long it will take for that genius to figure out that he can neg me down to a "1" just by going to all my unrated postings???? Am thinking about pushing the exclamation point. What do you think???
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@Stephanie5 (2946)
• United States
23 Jan 07
I don't know. I emailed Mylot about someone taking me down from 94 to 88 and they just responded back with Mylot guidelines. I doubt there is any way to "fix" it. That is one of the downfalls of the ratings system. But overall, I like it. I'm so sorry it's happened to you! Try pushing (!) maybe that will work. Good Luck to you!
@red_dragon (260)
• India
21 Jan 07
yes i am afraid to give my opinion...
i think that others will think bad about me if i gave a wrong opinion...
so most of the times i wont give any kind of opinions unless or untill i am asked for...
hope i will change...
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@Lil_miz_ice_x (614)
•
21 Jan 07
You really shouldn't be -- I mean, there's no such thing as a 'wrong opinion', is there? I think that you should just remember that freedom of speech is such a privelage, one that not everyone gets the chance to use. So you may as well make the most of it while you can.
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@yotachan (135)
• Indonesia
21 Jan 07
I give my opinion about something I'm interested in. I would not give any comments about things I dislike/didn't interested. I had it too bro, my rating sometime were reduced. But it doesn't matter as you could keep posting anything you want and you like.
People who just argue with the others' opinion must get off myLot. myLot is a discussion site which all opinions from all people must be toleranced each other.
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