how do you discipline them for this?

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Ok to start off I love my children very much. I'm very upset at the moment though. To start this off, my husband and I have been married almost 10 yrs. When we were first married, i had a very cheap solitaire from walmart. Anyway, so last year for my bday, valentines day & our 9 yr anniversary he decided to take me to the jewelry store and tell me to pick out what i wanted. so he bought me a beautiful brand new wedding set. I'm always extra careful with it, so yesterday when making the beds i took it off and sat it on my armoire in our bedroom. Not thinking another thing about it till today as we were geting ready to leave and I'm searching all over for my rings and can't find them. My middle son tells me that my youngest daughter got them and had them. So after 2.5 hours of searching the house top & bottom for them, my daughter actually tells me that trent got them down and gave them to her, because she can't even reach the armoire. So i tell them, it's ok mommy's not mad but i really would like my rings. Tell mommy where you put them. Neither will tell me anything. Finally I get really emotional about it and start to cry and my daughter takes me to the other end of the house and says bam bam put them in here and pointed to my oldest sons toilet in his bathroom. Shocked I go to tell my husband, so he starts asking trent and trent hides behind the door. (what he does when he knows he's done something wrong) finally he looks at me and says i put it in the toilet, but avery is hte one who flushed the toilet. He's almost 5. He knows better then this. She's only 2 1/2, but they both know better then to touch things like that. So with how upset I was I just grabbed my keys and left the house. I didn't wanna say or do anything I might regret. So now I'm wondering how do you punish them for something like that so that they understand what they did wasn't acceptable, and was wrong in so many ways. Now I didn't ask for it, I had it pushed back on my armoire toward the back, where it was out of reach. So my son goes and gets the stepladder to get up there. That ring meant alot to me, it had sentimental value as my husband doesn't generally do things like that. Definitely not with thought into it. Not to mention the thought that my kids flushed $3,000 down the toilet and it was "nothing" to them.