how to stop being a horn dog / myLot

United States

January 20, 2007 9:13pm CST

I am a 43 year old married man with children. I am happily married and live a great life. Our family recently joined the rec center and we go swimming there quite often. My wife is a rather large woman, also age 43 and I love her dearly. The problem is their are several younger, extremely well fit women at the pool every time we attend the rec center and it drives me insane. I know most of these women are 10 to 20 years younger than me and I feel wrong looking at their attractive bodies but I am a man who has urges. I love my wife and would never touch another woman; I just hate how I mentally lust after these younger ladies....again I am totally satified with my marriage and life. Other than never leaving the house how can I get over these feelings and desires?

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lilaclady

@lilaclady (28207)

• Australia

27 Jan 07

I think that is the way men were made, so don't feel awful so long as you make sure you let your wife know that she is still the one for you....

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@ashjoe76 (1422)

• India

22 Jan 07

It's everone's problem I guess, not just a man's problem. We have to deal with it at some phase or the other. And dealing with it effectively involves questions like how long can we suppress natural insticts. And if we think of our priorities, like in your case, we are apt to find oursleves in a fix. That's life. Just face it. Some people say that it gets to be a fulfilling life if we overcome it, and some say, we miss out a lot if we pull the reins all the time. Again, a question of priorities.

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Mecboy

@Mecboy (1050)

• United States

21 Jan 07

Stay near your wife, and act you, well, try to give pay attention to your wife more often, and talk to her more often, sometimes if your nervous you might forget the other women or act to them like a friend.

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superbren

@superbren (856)

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21 Jan 07

i think it is probably quite normal as long as you dont act on these urges , i would advise you maybe to try not to look at the other women and failing that just accept that you are normal .

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smalltownmtngirl

@smalltownmtngirl (327)

• United States

21 Jan 07

Its okay doniker. Don't beat yourself up over this. Im surprised at your age that you don't know that is a normal reaction. You are a man. You can't help who you find attractive. Its human nature. What matters is how you react to those attractions...you should take all those desires out on your wife that night ;) She might like it. Bottom line, as long as you don't act on it outside your marriage there's no harm done.