i wanted to get married
By kindlady33
@kindlady33 (194)
Philippines
4 responses
@vinoth_123 (1876)
• India
21 Jan 07
Just you tell frankly like I LOVE YOU don't postpone this every second is very very important in the love. best of luck.
@kindlady33 (194)
• Philippines
21 Jan 07
thanks for the comment...you know im thinking that my bf doesnt want me to be his wife but as i come to think of it having him for 2 years maybe i should be happy abpout it that we had each other for 2 years
@vinoth_123 (1876)
• India
21 Jan 07
If he is not interest to marry you means you can select any other good life partner. it is better for your future.
@kindlady33 (194)
• Philippines
21 Jan 07
thanks for the comment i really appreciate it guys....maybe i should wait for a little more time what do you think
@smalltownmtngirl (327)
• United States
21 Jan 07
Maybe he feels the same way and he's waiting for you to say something. Communication is one of the most important things in a relationship. If you want to know something...ask. Talk about it. Don't just sit there and wonder. If neither one of you asks what the other is feeling you'll miss out on alot.
@kindlady33 (194)
• Philippines
21 Jan 07
do you think?maybe ill just ask him if he ahd a plan for that? how will i start the conversation? can you give me some tips on how to ask him?is it appropriate for such actions because im a girl?is it proper if my bf will be the one to bring up the discussion?
@jailakshwani (18)
• India
21 Jan 07
it may b he also think in same way as like u. but he not tells u . so don't wait and you start the discussion abt the marriage toppic.
@mamajena (122)
• United States
21 Jan 07
I know two years seems like a long time but it really isn't especially if you are under the age of twenty five. YOu still have plenty of time for a family. On the other hand after reading your responses to some of the others I think that you are feeling insecure and you need to politely and lovingly tell your bf that you need to know if there is going to be a proposal in the future. Maybe you could ask him over dinner if he has any reason why he wouldn't consider marriage at some point. Make sure he understands that you are not pushing for that proposal but you also need to know if there is no possibility . If he says he will never get married ever you need to move on and find someone else who is willing to marry you and have children. If he says he is just not ready maybe you could ask him what his criteria for ready is. Listen to what he really has to say about that and take appropriate action. If it's money discuss what you make and what he makes suggest that paying only one rent or mortgage payment would also make your money go further, fewer utility bills would allow you to save a little more together than you would individually. If it is a matter of him not wanting to commit you need to ask questions about why he is afraid of commiting. Maybe he just thinks he will lose all his freedom discuss options for boys nights out and hanging with his buds. If he really loves you he will understand where you are coming from. Just remember to approach this honestly and tactfully, and without reproach for his answers. We teach people how to treat us and he may not know that you feel this way Most men are dense when it comes to feelings and I doubt he is intentionally holding back. Do your research and then make an informed decision. Remember only you know what is best for you and you need to be honest with yourself about what you want and why you want it. Happily married for 15 years so I know what I am talking about. Good luck hon