Stay-at-home Mom
By Avichail
@Avichail (694)
Indonesia
January 21, 2007 11:26am CST
Would you consider it as a desiring career or even taking it as a career? Why? Would you share your experience?
As for me, I would. Because I believe that is one of the elements/roles that God has so wisely provided for women. It's not saying women cannot earn the money for the family by being a full-time mom but rather about getting everyone at their own place so that every piece of the puzzle will fall into places. What about you?
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6 responses
@aidonia (4209)
• Greece
29 Mar 07
I start work from 8-9 years at summers.From 12-16 I worked part time jobs.The money was welcome but the real reason i worked was the feeling of independent.From age 17 I worked full time job.I did many jobs,at the end at age of 22 I open my own job.I'm tailoress.I worked 12 hour at the day.At 25 I be mother.They told be to let my son at nursery .I didn't want it.So i keep my son all the day with me at my work.I and the other girls that they work for me we played and take care him all the day.After 2 years i get very tired.So I must choose between the work or being full time mum at home.I knew I couldn't stop work.Not for the money so much but because I knew me very well.It wasn't any way that I can feel good without work and you can't be a good mother or wife if you don't feel good with yourself.I was too independent .I have very good husband but it was too hard for me suddenly after all those years to wait money from my husband even if I knew he gonna give me without need to ask.I loved my work also.So as I use to say if you want you can find ways .......I discuss with my husband and we move to another home with an extra room.I start work at this place by myself anymore.With this way I still work but also I'm at home to take care my son,my husband and my home but also I work even more little now but so much that I don't loose the feeling that I'm independent.
As always God heard my prays and show to me the right way for everything.
@Avichail (694)
• Indonesia
31 Mar 07
Dear Aidonia,
Thank you for sharing so much, I appreciate it a lot! Being a tailoress the way you are now is indeed a good way to balance between your quest for being able to earn money independently while at bringing up your son closely.
I believe women should know how to earn money and I certainly don't oppose to that. But many women are pursuing their professional career and put their families behind either for the sake of getting more money or acknowledgment, when they actually can choose between staying at home or not. And sadly sometimes their husbands support this because of their quest to chase luxurious life. It's like chasing the temporal things while sacrificing the eternal values...
@loved1 (5328)
• United States
21 Jan 07
I love being a stay at home mom. I also run a daycare so I work a full time job too, but at least I am here for my children. I think just running a household and taking care of your own children is a full time job in itself! Unfortunately, most families require two incomes to pay the expenses.
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@Avichail (694)
• Indonesia
21 Jan 07
I would like to quote you, "...just running a household and taking care of your children (and a loving husband - mine added) is a full time job in itself!"
I see how my mom's job never ends, hardly has any holiday, 24/7.
I'm glad though you love what you do, there's nothing more rewarding than having to do what you love to do.
@MakDomMom (1474)
• United States
21 Jan 07
I am a stay at home mom. I have also started my own in-home daycare. It allows me to spend all day with my kids while also caring for other children that need a place to call home away from home while their parents work.
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@cindy23sundz (21)
• United States
28 Jan 07
i would love stay at home with my 3 boys{2 of of them are twins}and i have find a home business that i make money and also i save on my every day need too, cause i can buy my household cleaners,laundry items,vitamins and much more...and i save money doing it!!!!
they are all nutral
i would never try going back to the out world to get a job, cause i miss so much of my teins life..cause i was also travel and working about 18 hours a day!!!!!
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@Avichail (694)
• Indonesia
28 Jan 07
I think by nature, women are inclined to take care of the domestic issue while men are inclined to take the position as the breadwinner. So, I understand that eventhough there are many women working full-time job in the professional world, deep down inside many still long to be able to resume back to the domestic position or to be a stay-at-home mom so to speak.
Thank you for bring that point clearer from your experience in working 18 hours/day!
@marief2rnurse (2704)
• United States
28 Jan 07
If we could afford it and my future husband would want that, I wouldn't mind.
But since I'm a single mom, I have no other choice but to finish college so that I can someday be a working mom to provide for me and my family.
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@Avichail (694)
• Indonesia
28 Jan 07
Hi Marie, thank you for pointing out the Single Mom issue. You are right, for some women, having to work outside home is the only choice.
I hope your wish will come true one day, especially when you need it the most. God knows and He can provide what is best for you =)