grandparents rights
By sanhickman
@sanhickman (5)
October 6, 2006 2:44pm CST
my daughter-in-law is mad because I called DSS because she was not sending the children to school. She is really hostile toward me now and I don't get to see my grandchildren.
13 responses
@ilse72 (1450)
• United States
7 Oct 06
I'm so sorry this has happened when you did the right thing. As to grandparent rights, they vary from state to state. Find an attorney in your area who offers a free first consultation and go see him to find out what the rights are in your state. Good luck!
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@sanhickman (5)
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7 Oct 06
Thank you all so much for your support! I do have an appointment with an attorney next week. I will do anything I have to.
@sedel1027 (17846)
• Cupertino, California
6 Oct 06
Was she not sending the kids to school but homeschooling them? How did she find out that it was you?
Unless you think you can win a custody battle with her to see your grandkids, unfortunately there is not much you can do to see them. Even though it is not fair to you, they are the parents. Are you close to your son? Will he bring the grandkids to you for a visit?
@sanhickman (5)
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6 Oct 06
She is emotionally abusing the children. She has made her teenage daughter steal and when my grandchild told me about it, she made the child call me and tell me she was lying. This same grandchild told me that her little brother, who is 8 years old, cannot read. My daughter-in-law has lied to my son and he believes her. I feel she has mental problems. My grandchildren are afraid of her and tells their father what she wants them to say. The teenager from a previous relationship has become very angry and hostile toward us. I really don't know what grade she would be in, because she hasn't been going to school.
@sedel1027 (17846)
• Cupertino, California
6 Oct 06
I am sorry your grandkids are bein mistreated. Have you tried to talk to your son and find out how he feels about the situation? If you have and he isn't responsive, you may want to consider getting a lawyer for yourself, you can take them to court for custody.
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@sanhickman (5)
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6 Oct 06
I have talked to him. He gets really upset with me. He works long hours to support his family and he wants to keep them together. I am so scared what she is doing to my granddaughter. We have always had a close relationship since she was a baby. Now, she is not allowed to talk to or see me. My daughter-in-law even went as far as saying that my granddaughter told the counselor at school that she was molested about 7-9 years ago. She said that it was her brother or her granddad, it was floating in the top of her mind. The incident was closed becuause the police knew she had ingrained the incident in the child's mind. I feel this was to make sure she could not come to visit us. We are at our wits end. We don't know what she will come up with next. Of course, DSS does not discuss anything with us. It seems as if we are the bad guys and she needs her rights protected.
@MINDY0882 (2302)
• United States
7 Oct 06
that was the right thing to do, here if your kids does not come to school for a certain period of time they will arrest the parents or parent.I also believe granparents to have right . here is a link or two maybe it will help u on this http://www.grandtimes.com/visit.html
http://www.grandparentsmagazine.net/rights.htm
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@browneyedwomen (1827)
• United States
7 Oct 06
This is a real shame, and obviously your son isnt eeing any of this! I think it is time for you to take charge, or these kids woulnt be much of anything when they grow up! Obviously at this time your the only one who truely cares. Your daughter in law sounds like a real head case and it sounds like the only thing she can do now is hold the kids in front of you to bother you, so do something about it! These kids deserve better....
@bhchy1 (6047)
• United States
7 Oct 06
Grandparensts do have rights and there are many advocacy groups that can help you...check with your local senior center and see if they can direct you to the right agency. You would not beieve the number of grandparents raising their grandchildren these days...so thse services are quite common at senior centers now.
@ossie16d (11821)
• Australia
8 Oct 06
It all depends on what country you are live in but these days lots of countries allow grandparents access visits with the grandchildren. The courts now recognise the contribution that grandparents make to the lives of the grandchildren.
Talk to someone at your local court house and they might be able to suggest avenues you can go to. Good luck and I hope you soon have some contact with your grandchildren.
@daphne009 (301)
• United States
8 Oct 06
Shame on her for not sending them to school - They get into trouble that way
@toaste (139)
• United States
8 Oct 06
I am so sorry. My son has a beautiful daughter as the result of a one nite stand 4 years ago. He is in the military in Iraq for the second time. He pays child support and sees her whenever he is here which hasn't been much. Has since married and has another daughter almost one year and his wife never lets us see her. The mother of the four year old has no stable family support and I have tried to be her friend for my grandaughters sake but she will bring her over and leave her for weeks and then we don't see her or hear from her for long periods of time. She doesn't have a home, just stays with relatives and friends. At our home she has her own room and we wanted her to live with us so we could put her in school and she won't let it happen.
@grumpussgumpuss2 (44)
• United States
24 Oct 06
did you think she was going to be happy with you .... them ppl have a way of twisting everything you say . and make you look like you couldnt care for a pet rock . never mind your own kids....... you should have talked with her. im sure there are other isuses at hand here . try helping her ... and stop hurting ya grand kids
