still in love with the girl from my past , yet im already commited to another !
By edward13sc
@edward13sc (14)
Philippines
January 21, 2007 1:18pm CST
Once our life I've met someone who knocks me off my feet just like the lyrics in a song, that's how i remember it, she was the girl that i had been dreaming of, she's the that I wanted to be with till my last breath... but sometimes life isn't that easy , not all the things that we want can be grab easily. I really fell in love in the girl i met almost 6 years ago , we havent seen each other almost years, but doesn't stop from falling for her. Now I had a responsiblity to face , my girlfriend is pregnant and I have to face it and do my obligation, yet I'm still thinking about her. What should I do ? I cant turn my back from the girl whom I had loved and still loving right now, but now I'll be having a child I have to face my obligations. Pls. Help me!!!
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4 responses
@cuddleme01 (2725)
• Philippines
28 Jan 07
oh this is a difficult situation. i say you forget about that girl you have not seen for years and focus on facing your new responsibility as a father to be of your child. you cant run from your obligation towards the mother of your child and your child. its a consequence you have to bear for your acts.
@edward13sc (14)
• Philippines
29 Jan 07
This situation might be common to the ears of others , but being in this kind of situation is another thing, the difficulty of pretending , decepting others as well as myself and being with someone while still thinking with the other. I've read an article about a story which goes the way as my story goes and there is one line in that article which made an impact on my situation to further understand my situation the line on that article says: "Loving someone doesn't mean keeping them". When I've read that line it keeps swaying on my mind , why should I learn to love when I know I can't be with that person ? But then I realize that the essence of love would more appreciated when it is given without expecting anything in return.
@SageMother (2277)
• United States
29 Jan 07
You will get over the girls from 6 years ago if you get involved with your new baby's arrival. Once that bond is established you will have no doubt about where youresponsibilities lie, and things will get easier. Right now you have lots of anxiety and some of your difficulty comes from your desire to escape. Focus on the new life you will be responsible for and accept it as part of your life's path. Things will sort themselves out in time.
@justreal (2364)
• Canada
29 Jan 07
I you really still love your past girlfriend and if you are not married yet, then it's not too late to get in contact with your past love if you still have any contact to her. That's what I would totally do if she's available and if she feels the same way. Go for it!
@workNmom (3)
• United States
29 Jan 07
Staying with someone only because you have a sense of obligation, is not always the "right" thing to do. First of all, you would need to know/find out, if your ex still has feelings for you, and if so, would she be willing to essentially "break-up" this new family. A lot of good decent girls would place their morals first and there might not be a chance to rekindle what you both had, for the simple fact, there is a 3rd, and very innocent party involved now, the baby. For the girl you are with, you need to figure out, deep down how you truly feel. It is not fair to her, to you, and certainly not the baby, if you stay, simply b/c she is pregnant. That will lead to a lifetime of distruction. You can only pretend for so long. It is a shame that there is a baby coming into such an unsure situation, but you have to be honest with yourself and with the mother of your child. Your first and only priority now is that child and you need to figure out the best possible life that you can provide for this child. This child did not ask to be brought into this world, so do your best to protect him/her from any unintentional heartache.
