Do you think its wrong looking at your Boyfriend/Girlfriend cell phone?
By Simplemind26
@Simplemind26 (510)
Canada
January 21, 2007 3:19pm CST
The other day i saw my boyfriend's cell on the table so i picked it up and glanced in it.I did it infront of him.He totally lost it on me.I was really shocked.He says it's a lack of trust and i shouldn't go through his things.Its not like i did it behind his back i was just curious.What do you think of this?Was i wrong?Is he over reacting?Please tell me ?
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5 responses
@SplitZip (1488)
• Portugal
21 Jan 07
Just because you're together, does that mean that he has to surrender his privacy to you? Maybe he doesn't trust you enough, maybe your relationship isn't that intimate or maybe he just has the right to his privacy. And the right to his toothbrush. I cannot stress this enough!
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@Simplemind26 (510)
• Canada
21 Jan 07
Thanks for posting..I only looked at his cell phone.I did it infront of him becasue i have nothing to hide.But i guess i should respect his privacy.Its just that if he looked at my cell phone i wouldnt have reacted like he did.I have nothing to hide.
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@SplitZip (1488)
• Portugal
21 Jan 07
Yes, but some people are more reserved than others, and some like to keep certain personal objects PERSONAL. A cellphone definitely is a personal object, these days. I'm guessing you didn't ask for permission before picking up the cellphone? That could also annoy some people. People are all very different and you need to respect their boundaries.
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@Simplemind26 (510)
• Canada
21 Jan 07
I am speechless you are absoulutly right!!! What might not be a big ordeal to someone might be to another person.Thanks for the advice..Have a great day :)
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@ritzritu (173)
• India
21 Jan 07
Ya i feel its wrong.If you trust him you should not go through his things.Same happened with me.My boyfriend used to check my cell phone.Earlier i was very patient with him n indirectly told him not to do so.but he didnt get my point.Later we had a fight.I never ever check his phone because i trust him from my heart and soul.he knows if he ever broke my trust it wil be over for ever.
you should either trust him or let go the relationship. Relationship is based on trust and loyalty.
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@Simplemind26 (510)
• Canada
21 Jan 07
Thanks for your story..You do have a great point that relationship is based on trust and loyalty i agree with you.I do trust him 100 percent and i am loyal to him.Its just that i was curious.I still think he shouldnt have freaked out the way he did on me.When people yell and over react its becasue usally they are hidding something.He could have been nicer about it.
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@margieanneart (26423)
• United States
7 Feb 07
I think he over reacted. That would pull up a red flag for me. What is he hiding? On the other hand it is personal, and you should have asked him first. Maybe he likes his privacy. Please rate me best response, if you are happy with my reply. Blessings, M&M
@jewel76 (2305)
• Canada
23 Jan 07
I don't wanna put any doubt in your mind, but if he over reacted this way, then maybe you should be concerned. If you went behind his back, i understand that he could get mad saying you don't trust him. But the fact that you did it in front of him, shows you were only curious, and he shouldn't have reacted this way. I always check my hubby's cell phone and the day he'll say something, that's when i'll know something is going on. Good luck to you and i hope i am wrong.
@Simplemind26 (510)
• Canada
1 Feb 07
Thanks so much for your responce.I was a bit worried beacsue i mean i did it infront of him..He uses that i dont trust him thing..I tried to explain that if i went behind his back that it would have been worse..I have so many doubts...I wouldnt have freaked out if he looked at my cell i know what i mean..I have nothing to hide.
@Vicky86 (243)
• United States
21 Jan 07
i did that to my husband once and he reacted like your boyfriend did. i did it behind his back because i thought he was hiding something from me and than i found out a girl was flirting with him. (which he stills denies today). if someone overreacts like that their must be something he doesn't want you to know. i'm not saying he's cheating or anything, but maybe he has some privat text messages he is not comfortable sharing with you. if you trust him just stop and save the arguments i had to go through with my husband.
ciao vicky
@Simplemind26 (510)
• Canada
21 Jan 07
Thanks for sharring your story.I though he was the only one that would react like that.I am still a bit shocked because the way he acted made him seem guily..But i guess i should just respect his wishes and privacy.
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