help i still love my ex-boyfriend...should i forget him?

I was married for 9 years (things hadn't been so great with my then husband, his family and friends were always first in his life but his wife and children came in somewhere after hunting and fishing...yes that means that his family means his Mother and 4 brothers). I had often thought about my first love, I was 17 he was 18 when we dated. We talked about getting married when I turned 18, someone that knew my mom found out through the grapevine and asked my parents about it; they in turn confronted me and said under no circumstances was I to ever see him again. They lost it when they caught me with his high school ring after that. I ended up having to break up with him to keep the peace, everytime I tried to get together with him to explan what happened, my mom would manage to show up, I would give him the cold shoulder and he finally left for good. Long story I know, but I feel the need to tell it all. I NEVER forgot him or what we had. About 15 years later I wrote him a letter (my marriage not quite ended yet, but I was working on it)I sent it to his parents house, I couldn't believe my luck, they still lived there. He got the letter and called me, I apologized and explained what had happened. He had been married and divorced with a daughter and I had a son and daughter, I got divorced, he forgave me, we got married 9 years ago, and we have a son of our own. It has been quite a ride and I'm so glad I followed my heart and sent that letter. I'm not saying you should do the same, I just wanted to share my story.

oh thats very hard. I think you should forget him and make your marriage last. If you feel that long way before why did you get married? Your just confuse, look at the present and try to appreciate whats infront of you now. Its been 10 yrs and you cant bring back the past. we didnt live backwards so you have to help yourself forget about the past and move on with your life.

I know its hard to forget one's ex if the present relationship is not working in the way one desires. You havent mention about your's current situation so i guess things aren't good for you . I can only suggest make your's marriage work and dont compare your's ex with your's husband. And let go your's past and let it be a one happy memory.

nO ONE CAN HELP YOU BUT YOURSELF. Search your soul and heart, your already married, and maybe you have kids alreay, try to focus with your family first. Ignore the feeling co'z it won't help you grow as a person. Maybe your just loosing affection with your husband, and as a good wife try to experiment to get back your feelings with your husband. Like a second honeymoon. Forget you ex because thats not right, in that way, its a simple betray with your hubby.