Is dating an expensive activity ?
By victorwzj
@victorwzj (539)
January 22, 2007 4:09am CST
I still single and I haven't approach any girl before so I am not sure about this and of cause I am curious too. I don't want to start dating before I have a stable job. From what I heard that dating is expensive activity. Say roughly dinner is about 40 bucks and movies for 2 is about 20 bucks and if you added up it will become $60 per night. Do the girl pay half or it is the guy job to pay all the expenses during the date?. I heard that some of the girl just like to go out with guy for the free meal and movies.
what do you think?
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21 responses
@cheerldr (594)
• Philippines
29 Jan 07
Dating means knowing someone deeper and knowing someone doesn't have to be expensive. Dating doesn't have to be in expensive restaurants or movie dates. You can spend a date with your partner somewhere wherein you don't need to pay much. And when you date, it's not necessary for men to pay all the bills, it generally depends on who asked for a date or who can afford. And the most important part about dating is that you enjoy each other's company.
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@makaira (1158)
• Philippines
22 Jan 07
hi there!
actually dating is not an expensive activity. there are a lot of places you can go for a date. a date doesn't necessarily means that you have to go to dinner and then watch movies. for me, having dinner and going to movies are the most common way to date somebody.I suggest, you go to a beach and watch sunset together and bring along some food with you so that the two of you wont starve. and it is very much appreciated by us, girls, if guys will cook the food. Stargazing is also another way for a romantic date. watching the stars together is cool and romantic.
about the question if girls give a share on a date, well some girls do pay but some do not. they have this connotation that since they are invited, then they should be treated. some girls just believe that since they are the girls, the boys should pay for it and the likes... but i totally disagree with this kind of thinking. Girls should be sensible enough.
@JoyfulOne (6232)
• United States
30 Jan 07
Dating does not have to be an expensive thing each and every time. Any girl that only wants expensive dates probably is too money minded. Some of my best dates were going on a picnic or a nice long walk on the beach. There's lots of free things to do out there that make a good inexpensive date. Sometimes there are free things to go and see. I had fun going to a flea market with a date, looking at all the goofy stuff for sale was funny and had us laughing a lot. Find a nice park and take a hike or bike down a beautiful trail. Go to a festival (or a fair), the Farmer's market, skating, or bowling. Some museums have free nights, and there's always art shows, college, or high school ball games. Radio sometimes sponsor concerts, plus there's self guided tours in some cities. Play a set of tennis, or frisbee a while. Check out some historical landmarks, some are free or at least inexpensive. At a local college, you can go to a guest lecture, music recital or see a play. Well, there's a few ideas anyways, lol. Good luck and have fun! (That's the most important part about it!)
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@victorwzj (539)
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31 Jan 07
Thanks for the tips, I guess I need to jot down some point or two. Good stuff , rated your respone +
@emekus4eyes (129)
• Lagos, Nigeria
29 Jan 07
Dating is good but can be expensive equally. Normally dates are ment to impress someone or show your affection to one another. If you take it to the extreem, not being considerate about your personal earning then you are in for a lot of trouble.
dating should be in moderation. Though i do not date always . The only one i have dates with is my wife, on special occasions.
@Cherry_Eve (285)
• Indonesia
29 Jan 07
Yes I think so, especially if you have a long distance relationship like m and my bf. He had to spent more than $250 everytime he came. I feel sorry for him, but I don't know what to say, because I also want to meet him. Usually, I try to help him with paying some of the money (If h dosn't refuse, sometimes he refuse it).
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@victorwzj (539)
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29 Jan 07
$250 ??? That is awful lots of money per trip. It is even worst maintain a Long distance relationship. I guess there are reason why people working so hard to earn money.
@clarah_cille (654)
• Philippines
29 Jan 07
most of the guys really spend for a date so that the girl would be impressed. but honestly, a dinner is not necessarily expensive. you dont need also to bring the girl you want to a movie everyday. you can have a date once or twice a week then there are still a lot of things you can do aside from watching movies like bringing her to a park and you two can talk a lot of things that will you together.
@victorwzj (539)
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29 Jan 07
I always thought that "dating" is only refer to going to "dinner and movies". It is good to know that there are inexpensive way to date. Still I think it is a good to get stable work before I start looking for girl friend.
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@clarah_cille (654)
• Philippines
30 Jan 07
yeah, it would be an advantage if you already have a stable work before you invite your special someone to a date coz at least, if there would be an emergency wherein you really need to spend a huge amount, you are always ready.
@bhaskar556 (328)
• India
30 Jan 07
i think dating any person who is behind ur money is quite useless. dont waste ur time and money on that. try to make some sensible friends who can understand ur feelings and u can spend a quality time with them.
@victorwzj (539)
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29 Jan 07
thanks , I guess walking on a park also can be romantic.
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@ram13288 (387)
• United States
1 Feb 07
it is expensive if you do all the cliche date activities that you see in movies and that guys do because they cant think of anything better. the things that i do is ask a girl if she wants to get some cofee and maybe see a movie. but the best thing to do especially on a first date is to go to one those non admission museums or art galleries that only ask for a donation which you decide how much it is.
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@the_dreamer2005 (1175)
• United States
30 Jan 07
Wow...dating doesn't have to cost $60.00 each time, that's insane! You could always just spend time together renting a movie at one's house and buy microwave popcorn. You don't always have to do expensive dinners everytime.
@coffebing (252)
• Malaysia
13 Feb 07
You get some point there.Some girl really like to go out with guy just for a free meal and movies.(They do enjoy it)hmm...Let say, you and your girl friend went out for a movie and at the counter, you need to pay 20 bucks for the ticket and will you open your mouth and ask your cute girl friend to pay half of the ticket price.As far as i knew, guys wouldn't like the feeling of...you know...looked down..in front of the cashier, asking your own girl friend to share the ticket bill with you, isn't it shameful?
haha..so,dating is definitely expensive for a guy but not girl.
Of course, some of the girl may sometime pay the bill.There was a friend of mine who did so.She feel uncomfortable if her boy friend always do the paying job.
@victorwzj (539)
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13 Feb 07
yeah, It generally will be more expensive on the male since the male usually is the one that paying it.
@vamsihere4u (171)
• India
1 Feb 07
I Dont think like that.it is not a rule that a guy should pay everything.it depend on understanding between them.
@niitesh (1653)
• India
29 Jan 07
dating is an expensive issue for sure most of the gurls hang out with guys for this free tickets and movies but it's not the same for all and even if some one is intimate with you got to spend those bucks there's no way out for if you are with some one you love you won't be asking her to pat right it's against the guys ego
@mathurvarun (980)
• India
29 Jan 07
It depends on the girl if she is earning too and she dont mind to share the bill then its ok but some girls wants to clean up ur wallet so that time it becomes very expensive