How to get your spouse's friends out of your business?
@brita_peterman (12)
United States
January 22, 2007 5:09am CST
My husband and I are having a major problem with his friends putting their nose where it don't belong. My family and friends somewhat know their boundaries. My husband is in the Air Force and I am trying my hardest to stand by him but I can't when he can't even take his job serious because he is to worried about what his friends are going to be doing and if he doesn't show up to their parties what they are going to think or say about him. I'm just tired of trying to juggle him in his friends trying to tell him what to do about our relationship, when the one that is suffering in all this, is my nine month old son, who loves his father to death and he don't really see he's dad because he is out with friends. I don't want to leave my husband. I not saying that I want him home every night, I just want to see him when he i not sleep. What would you do?
3 responses
@skysuccess (8858)
• Singapore
12 Feb 08
Sometimes a man's career is really quite an issue. I am sure that your husband is trying to stay in the network of his peers for his future and his family's life line too. Especially so when you all have a baby now, which means more added responsibilities.
I am sure your problem of seeing him more in the house could be worked out by communicating more with him. You might want to ask him if he would like to plan for a getaway holiday for a while so that the family could get together for a while....away from all distractions...real quality family time.
Or how about that "Honey, I feel a longing for your tonight..." line ???
@sineen1981 (339)
• United States
3 Feb 07
sounds like he needs to get his priorities straight. it also sounds like he is taking you and your son for granted. im not married so i wouldnt know how to approach this but if i were you i'd give him a taste of his own medicine just to see how it affects him. so go out with your friends and go home only to sleep and if he complains tell him - that you are treating him no different than the way he treats you!
