are children enough reason to stay married?
By fiarby
@fiarby (105)
Philippines
January 22, 2007 7:04am CST
For me, the children are part of a family but they are not a reason for me to be tied to a marriage that I know will not work. For couples who are into the edge of separation, they are given some advices that they should think about their children. I believe that love, respect, and trust are the key to a happy marriage, the children are just the toppings to it. What is your view on this?
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4 responses
@Poofs_that_r_cheesy (291)
• United States
22 Jan 07
Coming from my own personal experience where I stubbernly stuck with a marriage f0r 15 years for the sake of the children. The last 6 years of the marriage were a living hell for me but as I remembered what I went through as a child of divorcing parents I just kept on trying to stick it out and either hope it works out or wait until the kids were in High School and old enough and then seperate. Well neither one worked so my advice to you is to not go down that road. If your marriage is worth saving and both parties agree (that was my problem, I fought she did not to save our marriage) then try your best. If both sides don't think it is worth saving, my advice is to seperate and go on with your lives.
@XxAngelxX (2830)
• Canada
22 Jan 07
I agree one hundred percent. The children of the marriage will suffer more I believe if they have to constantly see their parents not getting along or not speaking to each other, or worse being physically abused. So long as the children know they were not the cause of the marriage going downhill, I think they will turn out fine. I have always told people not to stay together specifically for the children. Kids bounce back pretty well from disappointments so long as they know it was not their fault. Great question!
@fiarby (105)
• Philippines
23 Jan 07
Yes, I believe that children are sensitive to what is going on around them, we have to give them the benefit that they also know what is happening between their parents. Parents should just make them understand the situation and this help them lessen the disappiontment that they may feel. Thanks!
@payingforschool (678)
• Canada
23 Jan 07
Children are not a reason to stay in an unhelathy or dangerous relationship. I do believe, however, that children are a very good reason to really, really try to work through situations you may otherwise walk away from. Children are a good reason to give it your best before you give up.
