a boyfriend who barely even know you exist.

yah, that's how it was with one of my bfs, so i broke up with him after 2 1/2 months. i didnt love him, so it wasnt that difficult for me. i was just tired of feeling like he didnt care or remember that i existed. i want a boyfriend who is there for me when he's with me physically and when he's not, and he wasnt like that for me.

Woww 8 years is such a long time ... I have been in this kind of relationship but it only lasts for about 6 months.. Well what can I say? He prefers his friends rather than me.. than what is the point of having a relationship with him if he doesnt even want to spend time with me right? hehehe anyways I dont think twice.. I broke up with him .. and now Ive got a wonderful boyfriend who treat me nicely and appreaciate me very much..

hey there i got my boyfriend for some eyars now..but it never happend that i felt in this way..maybe because he always cared about me..sometimes less,sometimes more..but i understand that he is buisness men,hes got his activity..so i cant be like a little girl and to make caprices that he doesnt give attention to me...dont broke up with him..8 years its so long...first try to talk to him about your worries and problems..but before this think everything very good..you know sometimes to be an egoist is not very good..and when you want all his attention and time for you...maybe its egoism..of course,i dont gugde you..i just advise you to think that maybe there is some of your foult.best wishes and kisses i hope you are going to be ok...

yep i have, my x is military and he constantly ignored me. I got more attention from him when we were JUST best friends. We were friends for 6.5 years. Then we started dating. It lasted a year, he broke my heart. Said he just wanted to be "best friends with extrodinary benefits" Least to say. It crushed me. I'd been in love with him for all those years, but I didn't wait for him or anything stupid like that for all of them either. So he broke my heart. More like shredded it like enron financials... I got over it moved on.. and now have the most amazing man in the world. We are getting married in 104 days from now.

I my self have been in that situation before. my childrens daddy and i had been together for 11 yrs every day it seemed like i was not doing anything that made him happy he was always putting me and the kids down and never cared for my opinion i finally got tired of it and left and yes i was able to over come it im now married to the most wonderfulest man in the world. good luck in the future

i know exactly how u feel..... the problem is, that for women....especially for me, the relationship to my boyfreid is the most important thing in the world.....and now you want the same from your man, but...man have their own lifes.... you have to get in your head, that not he is your no 1...YOU are te no. 1 for yourself... i hope u understand what i mean greatings from vienna :)

Yes I have I was married to him for 21 years and it nearly killed me now I have a wonderful Man who calls me every Day as we live 3 hours apart but hopefully for not much longer and he has given me back my Worth

I had a boyfriend for 5 years who thought that I was good to have around as long as there wasn't someone else that looked better then me. He told me on several occasions that he loved me and then I would find out he was chasing after some other girl. He later told me that he just said he loved me because that's what I wanted to hear. I'm married now to an amazing man, we have three beautiful children and I'm so glad that I didn't settle for that other guy. It was tough, especially after 5 years of giving love to someone who never wanted it and took advantage of it... and I wish I never would have wasted that time, but my husband loves me and desires the best for me. I often say that my husband isn't my dream man, as he is far better than I could have ever imagined!

whew! 8 years is a very long way of sacrificing if thats the case. i think maybe the love has been faded thats why he dont even care to give attention. you should have ended it long before you knew it but well at least now your free. its really hard when you are in the situation like that. you dont know where to put yourself. Love dont really work if it is only one sided love.

I been there, done that & got the shirt. lol We must have been dating the same person. Trust me sometimes it's better he didn't pay any attention. I broke the relationship up after 9 years because I couldn't take it anymore. I wanted to be with someone who was as interested in the relationship as I was. So I have it now with someone else. Now I am nmuch happier than I was then. Good luck to you. Hope you find what you are looking for.

The choice of profession is merely on the basis of likes and dislikes of the person...similarly the choice of person whom u love from ur heart deosnt depend upon the number of yrs u are with him..it just takes split of second to know whether the person would really love your or not....??

well i think that i may be in a relationship where my boyfriend doesnt really care that much about me. in the past he can go on without texting or knowing where i am for like 3 days or so.. and so i got mad at him and never txted him or replied. i just disappearedand hid from him.. well i never contacted him for 4 days. within those days he always txts and asks where i am. he calls me but i dont answer the phone.. basically i just did what he was doing to me and then he realized that he hasnt cared much and all that and he apologized to me through txt.. at the 4th day.. it was new year then.. imade peace with him and he never really repeated his actions.. turns out that i was just so submissive and he never really knew the effects of his actions until i told him so.. im glad we are over that stage.. nowadays when he cant see me he always informs me and all. so im happy now..

how sad , , 8 years? , , :( so you just gave up easily? , , anyway , , that's your life and i should not intervene , , anyway , , i hope you're happy with your decision , , :-) and about that , , nope, , i am happy my hubby treats me the same since i met him until now, , :-) i sre hope so this does not happen , , boys are so unpredicatable , , don't you think? , , well , , that's it for now! , , cheer up girl! , , üüü there are other guys out there that will give back the love that you are offering , , you'll see , , (--,)

yes and it is a pain and i hated it. thats why i try to find the best guy for me.

Yes, and he is soon to be referred to as my "ex"! LOL!

Yes I have and I had did it for 3 years and I am also happy I moved on. But it will over put a scare on my heart and I am scared that it will happen again!

No, I have been lucky enough to not have this. on the other habd I have been abused by my spouse in the past and for me at that time i would have prefered to not excist :-) I am so glad i got out and found myself a nice man in the end =)

All relationships tend to get into a rut if we don't watch out. one person can feel very much taken for granted with the other one thinking everything is just fine. I went out with someone for a few years and I did begin to feel like that, more as if his true colours were shining through and the earlier being nice to me was just an act (this was after 2 years) so I split with him. He said he was heartbroken beyond belief etc but if he really cared that much he could have shown it in the relationship. He also claims to be still heartbroken after 4 years.

do u hav a bf or had an experianace when u feel like ur bf seems not to give u attention at all???? ihav been in this situation before

u have done a good job.just forget him .he is not worthy to get a true love. but im sure u will find a man who showers u with all his love.good luck