Would you tell your spouse if...

No...I would not tell my spouse...that is not something that your partner wants to hear. I am sure it would just make them mad. I would not consider sleeping with or having relations with anyone..other than my spouse anyway....That is ridiculous....

no i would never tell my spouse.you will be asking for trouble,if nothing happen why say anything or if it did i still wouldnt tell.its better to leave sleeping dog lay.that what the old say is.dont make trouble for your self.

I would absolutely keep my distance from the coworker. It's not the end of the world to find someone attractive, but there is a big difference between being tempted and doing something about your feelings. Since I wouldn't allow anything to happen,I wouldn't mention it to my husband -- it would just make him feel insecure for no reason.

ok .. my opinion is this.. if you havent done anything, anything at all under these circumstances, why "open up a can of worms?" no.. i wouldnt tell.. to take this even a step farther even if something DID happen..as long as it's DEFINITELY and TOTALLY over . i STILL wouldnt tell.. heres the thing.. if you are honestly thinking of leaving your significant other, you owe it to them tosay something as soon as possible and if you dont you're just being even more cruel.. but the thing is if its over and done with, whats to be accomplished by telling your spouse what youve done to them?? i mean really.. to "clear your concience?" whether youy think that your spouse will leave you or stay with you.. no good can come of telling, it just ruins everything.. in my experience i know that if i cheated on my hubby (weve been together 10 years) i know he wouldnt leave me.. it would ONLY hurt him to know, so why do that to him?? to "clear my OWN concience??" no way.. that would be MY punishment for what i had done.. why hurt him too? id deal with it and move on, the hurt i'd have to deal with myself from carrying that burden would be my own fault and teach me a lesson for hurting him in the first place.

It really depends whether you can carry it on your conscience. You did have the sense to call a halt before anything happened, which you are to be commended for, but your wife may not grasp that piece. Just your thoughts about this other woman might hurt her. If you can bear to have it on your conscience, I would say, no harm done, so keep it under your hat. But, having said that, I think you should try harder next time not to let your thoughts wander quite that far.

I think diffrent people make diffrent way to deal with it. and man and women have diffrent idea for that. If you are a husband, I don't think it is a good way to told your wife about that, it will make your wife crazy and envy, maybe she get angry with you, them arguement cannot avoid. If you are a wife, I think you can tell the truth to your husband, he don;t angry about it, just feel a little bad.

I have always told Shrek if I found someone attractive and he tells me, it's ok we're fiends and honest with each other. Once I tell him it takes the magic of having a naughty thought away and I'm far too lazy to have an affair. Shrek will even point out men on films/tv and say bet you fancy him don't you and quite often he is right, bless him he knows what I like and I list the persons good points so we can discuss him. We both know we'll never meet the Tv person so it's ok to chat and quite funny. I can usually guess who he finds attractive too, we have a laugh about it.

A lot would depend on circumstances. For instance if you were one that had priors of cheating then it may be good to tell your spouse first before someone else does. Then the rest you sort of have to play it by ear.

Well, let me say this... if nothing happened... honestly, and you and your spouse have a good relationship, why say something that might ruin it? However, it depends on the relationship that you have with your spouse. If you know that it will not affect your relationship then you might tell, but honestly what is it going to do but possibly earn you mistrust that, if you ended up doing nothing, is unwarranted? Some things are better left alone. And THINKING is not a crime!!!!! Thoughts are thoughts, and some of them are better left private.