Need help with MyLot etiquette

MyLot can be victimized by spammers and other types just like any other service (did you see that MySpace was suing a spammer for grabbing up email addresses today) Regardless, some people in MyLot abuse the friends request optiona and rapidly and without thought solicit friends in quantity in the hopes of latching on to people that might then possibly reply to their discussion topics and crank up their earnings. On MySpace you see some similar activity as various websites try to lure people in from Myspace to all types of sites that many people would never visit if they were not lured. This is the internet and if they are not already your friend then you have nothing to fear from denying them friendship in MyLot terms. Its always your choice and regardless of their response, it will give you something to write about if you so choose. :)

You have a fair and good disposition of selecting friends, I do respond and check on my friends as much as possible, but I have not screened my friends as you do, perhaps that is where I neglected also. It is best to send the person requesting a note to let her/him know that you would appreciate if he does not send another request again, what ever your reasons are. sometimes people just wants to know why you deny them. You are not obliged to do this, but if you don't then how long will you allow her to keep on sending you those request, you keep denying

I am worried about offending people when I do not accept them as friends. I too have had many submit a request and I deny them only to have them keep trying. I really have to go through my friends list and delete those that I no longer have a connection with. That will be difficult for me because I do not want to offend anyone.

I have not checked but is there a report abuse button on friend requests. I think this is abuse...You could just send a private message to myLot if it keeps up. One flaw I see in the private message system, because you cannot send a message unless a person is on your friends' list, you cannot send a message to say "Leave me alone."

Just deny the person and eventually they will get the message. I agree with your choice. We can't be friends to everyone. It is best to find ones that have similar tastes. What good is it to be notified about discussions if they aren't ones we'd post to anyways? Why would they want them if they aren't likely to post to mine? I think you are right to just ignore the person. What you can do is if she continues to ask, just don't approve or deny her. Let it sit. Then you won't have to worry on it either way.

why do you want to deny her request??by accepting her request are you going to lose some thing?or by denying her,are you going to gain anything? so accept her request and let her respond to your discussion...what is the big deal???

I would email her with your dilemma and explain that you just cannot take on any more right now and you appreciate and are flattered that she would request. Just leave it at that for now.

You are obligated to no one here. I was away for around 3 days and when I logged in yday I had 13 friend requests. I was taken aback and did the usual scrutiny of the requests and in the end rejected all 13. I still haven't figured out why people send friend requests in the first place. Especially when they have no inclination of responding to my discussions or interacting with me. It's pathetic! If I were you I would continue denying her request. I see no reason why you should be obligated to make friends.

I would just ignore her. You don't have to write and explain your reasons. She will soon give up unless she is "stalking" you.

u dont have to be obligated to write into her every post, as it is not mentioned in the Mylot guidelines.LOL so u don't succumd to her bad motives, may be she 's just playing with u here in mylot. Hey y didn't u just ckick on that little ''Deny''option next to her frndship request. boy dont just accept everthing in life.LOL

Yes, it is no problem that you ignore her! but to be polite, I think you should also write her a note, cause you are not denying only once. From my point of view, why not approve? why not have one more friend here on Mylot? As for me, Mylot is for ideas sharing and friends making!

I would say if she keeps sending the request that would get really annoying. I would write her a message defending your decision. Ask her to kindly stop requesting to be your friend because you are not interested, but be nice about it. If this does not work, maybe you could contact mylot about it. I know you probably don't want to be a tattle-tale but that would get annoying to me.

i think ignoring her would be da best idea .There is so much of stuff to through on this website ,i m sure you can find so topic of your liking easily and on which u will love to share your views

Maybe you can add her as a friend and then ask her why she was so persistent and once you get the answer you can just delete her. Tell her you dont wish to be her friend in a private message

Hi It is a bit like having REALL friends isnt it! The only thing you can do is to accept the request, then when she becomes a "Friend" you can mail her with a PM and say to her that the only reason why you accepted is so that you can tell her you dont agree with her discussions, this will of course make you not too popular with this member!! But at least then you can delete her from your friends list, and you should not hear from her again!

no dude u r not obligated..dont wory at all.

u can accept him as a friend but don't respond to his or her discussion cause it might have some disappointment on him cause everybody ll not be so good in english but he might b talented v need to give him chance if he does some thing which u don't like then u can discard him i think their is a option for that too in mylot.

I don't even bother denying them. I guess if they don't get a response form me they'll figure I wasn't interested.

No fuzz, just keep on denying until they get tired of inviting you as a friend. You have all the rights to do so. I don't understand why such mylot users exist, it's really annoying. We are not obligated to accept such invitation anyways.

When you have only limited time deny all the unnecessary mails,once you keep ignoring these person will stop.But don't waste yout time and do what you want