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I think it may be a combination of both. I ahve 3 kids but am not 100% sure that I am done having kids. We had decided I would rather be on birth control until menopause rather than tie my tubes. I don't think I could handle the thought of never being able to have another baby,

probably the fact that you won't be able to have a child anymore... i think in some ways your decision is good because having 3 kids is pretty hard. and you are still young... if i were also in your shoes, i would feel the same way... i know a friend of mine who did the same and she also felt that loneliness after she did it... but look at the bright side... you already got 3 beautiful kids with you... that is already a blessing nobody can take from you... keep it up.. and be happy...

It could be really abit of both maybe. My girlfriend has her tubes tied and she said after she got it done she kind of was depressed cause she could'nt have babies anymore and I told her we can always go and have it reversed. She eventually became good with it though and she's not depressed anymore. I hope you pull through this alright.

It probably has to do with both things. When did you have your baby? Just recently? I have worked with women that were done having kids- so they had their tubes tied or their husbands had a Vesectomy and after they actually went through with it.. they regreted it & felt terrible. I guess that's how anyone feels in the beginning when they do something permenant. You would question yourself, "Did we do the right thing?" I think that because it is a life-changing decision, it would be hard to deal with in the beginning. Depending on when you had your last child, it could be a combination of those hormones making the situation an even bigger deal. Because after the birth of a child our emotions are so out of wack and we are emotional and that's okay. It's okay to be upset about your decision and I'm sure you'll eventually grow to be okay with it... and if not, I also know people that had the reversal done and they were able to concieve again. Just try and think of the reasons why you wanted to do it in the first place and be content with your decision.

I think you feeling somekind of guilt that now you cannot have a child. In some vogue sense you thinking maybe you have tried to tame nature. Take it in stride and move on.... you will be happy that you have done this.

Aww I king of understand where you're coming from. I have 4 children. I had 3 boys and then finally a year ago I had my daughter. I had pretty tough pregnancies, and on the last my midwife and consultant suggested sterilisation due to many reason. I'd had 2 previous caesarian sections, suffered severe SPD and Sciatica in all pregnancies, and I was 27 and pregnant with my 4th child. So I agreed. I'd finally got the daughter I'd always wanted and thought that being sterilised would be ok, as I have exactly what I want and I couldn't be happier. I got sterilised minutes after I gave birth via caesarian. Now a year on, I still feel happy and blessed with the 4 children I have. But I can't help feel broody when I see babies, or jealous when my friends announce they are pregnant. I think it's more to do with the fact that it's so final. Like the saying goes, the more you can't have something, the more you want it. I know I can get it reversed, but it would cost roughly £2/3 grand. But it was my decision in the end and one I have to life with. To be honest, if someone said to me now, "If I paid for you to get it reversed, would you have another child?", my answer would be no. I'm quite happy with my 4 and even when I was young I always knew I wanted 4. Basically. I think what you are feeling is natural. I don't think it's depression, even though it can come in any shape or form. I think it's just natural feelings, because you know you can't have anymore at the time being. It's a case of it being final. A case of the "What If's". Hope this helps x

Don't worry My daughter went through the same thing . Her youngest was just a few month s old when she decided to have her tubes tied. Ofter getting it done she was feeling the way that you do. You have been through a major surgery so your going to feel something about it. It could be post partum depression from both baby and surgery. My daughters passed. But if you continue to feel this way see your Dr.

Do you want more? why? Isn't that enough with three already?

only the women who has gone through this phase might just be able too answer you and help you out

it is ok that you allready have three children & you don't want any more so you just try to avoid to get pregnant i think all womens are doing the same think when they get child & if they decided that they don't want child any more so they normaly take this stape to avoide pregnancy in todays world it is common almost every women go for opperation to avoide pregnancy so don't feel depress because i don't think you did any thing wrong