When your jealous, how you going to confront your husband?

i am just the same way you are and you know what i've realized? jealousie is not just something you can get rid off and leave it in the past. the only way i can handle with it is that i try to occupie myself so i don't have these thoughts about comparing myself, him finding another women nicer or more attractive, his previous relationships....etc. just try to do something to distract yourself. i know exactly how you feel. i know it hurts you and you lve your husband and i bet he thinks you're the most beautiful and loving person in this world, that's why he can't understand your insecurity. you can mail me if you need someone to talk too. ciao vicky

Then try to change urself first before u make any move to ur husband,since u know that he is faithful but u keep on arguing or fightng with him,stay put and take a little time to think. Love urself and it will follow//

jealousy is something you should avoid. Nagging shouldn't be a way of talking to your husband. It wont do any good to your relationship. It could be the start of all your fear, when you husband got tired of all your nagging, he may look for someone nice and a no nagger woman, when he wants to have a quiet place to be in, got me? If you trust him, let him. A man loves his wife more if the wife lets him sometimes to do things his own way.

Ask youself why you are so jealous? Have you reason to be jealous from other relationships in the past? Jealousy is mostly a fear. You fear that you might not be good enough for your husband. This is especially true when he engages other women. For what ever reason, your self esteem and confidence are lacking. Fighting with your husband will not help. He won't change unless he wants to. You cannot change him. However, you can change how you feel about yourself. Try to see yourself as a deserving woman worthy of your husband's love and attention. When you say you can't control your jealousy, that is the reason why you can't. You have to tell yourself there is no reason to be jealous. Your insecurity comes from not knowing who you are. Change how you see yourself by thinking about the relationship you want. Give yourself credit for the part you play in your marriage. If you believe your husband is true to you, you have no reason to fear him talking to other women. If you want him to stop his actions toward other women, you have to ask him to do so. If you have told him how you feel, and he persists in continuing, then you have to decide to trust him and have faith in your decision.

How long have you been married? After awhile trust me you will not care if he is friendly to girls or not especially if you know he is faithful.

This is something you need to deal with. Do not bring you husband into it if you have no legitimate reason to be jealous. Have you thought about therapy? I am also a jealous person, but when it comes to my husband, I don't get on his case about women, and if he starts acting unusual, I will confront him. You can always tell if something is going on, because they tend to change. My husband almost had an affair, and I was able to recongize it because he stopped talking to me, and if I asked a question, I would get a one word answer, so I confronted him about his actions, or lack there of, and we had it out one day. It was a bit hairy for a while, but you end up stronger. Just be aware, and don't accuse.

I have always told my husband that just because I put a ring on his fingure does not mean that I too his eyes away. I have always told him that all I expectfrom him is to show me some respect and not look or in your case be freindly in front of me. This has helped our realsionship out a lot.

it kinda sounds like you have a trust issue which if you do not control you might loose your husband.just because he is friendly towards women does not mean he is cheating he just might be trying to be nice you need to get your jealously under control because jealously is not good in a relationship and tends to ruine things and make things worse.

You should always try to keep in mind that jeolousy is like a bad disease. If you know that your man is faithful then this attitude is way too unfair to him. It is hard to put up living with a jeolous person and i am not judging or trying to be rude don't get me wrong here. This is definately something that you must work on though if your jeolousy keeps up you could even lose your marriage all together. try working on your self esteem and if he married you then obviously he loves and cherishes YOU!! No one else but you so try to keep this in mind . Jeolousy only destroys love in the end!

My sister is like that too. She's a very jealous type and she pisses her boyfriend off. But she was able to overcome that and she now knows how to confront her man properly by talking to him calmly. I know its hard to control anger but please, please try very hard to talk to him calmly even just ONCE. If you did it and Im sure your husband will be happy that you talked to him calmly, then you can practice doing it everytime you get jealous.

I'll tell him right away about my feelings. Let your pride down first. Tell him that you trust him but you're still feeling jelous when he is around women. Well I guess he'll understand.

When woman get jealous, it's adds to man's factor. ^^ Don't be insecure, just be understanding to your partner, show affections, serve him as usual (if not, better). I guess, he is trying to get your attention and he do it deliberately to know if you love him that much. btw, i'm a man and has a wife who is a jealous woman too. ^^

What you need to work out is what actually bothers you about him talking to other women. Does the other women get flirty with him? If they do, then discuss this with your husband, let him know that you don't like it and tell him exactly what part you didn't like. Just talk to him and explain how you feel. If the women are not being flirty, then join in on the conversation with your husband and these other women. Be careful because if your fighting because your jealous, your husband may get to the point where he has had enough. I would suggest you talk to him and tell him you feel like this because you love him so much. Good luck!

Emotions are hard to control. I have my bouts of jealousies too. Before, when I am jealous I would throw anything i take hold of until I threw the remote control of the TV he personally owns. From that time he refused to talk to me and did not answer my calls and text messages and did not come home if he knows I am there. What I did was to wait for him in our house (luckily there is a typhoon so he's got no choice but go home) and hugged him and told him I am sorry. From then on I promised I wouldn't be violent. I cannot promise that I won't be jealous anymore so what I do when I am jealous is to go out of the house to let off steam. That way I wouldn't be impulsive with the words I say or i try to keep my mouth shut. Sometimes our jealousies are unfounded, sometimes we just imagine things. Before you say a word try to discern whether your doubts are confounded.

Is he friendly just to girls or is it you just notice the girls? If you know he is faithful then you have a trust issue. Has someone cheated on you before? Yes it will in time mess your marriage up. A little bit of jealousy to me is good because it shows you care. But I think to much can tear a marriage or relationship apart. If your man is faithful then why do you let him being friends or friendly toward girls. My husband is the same as yours but I see it this way. He picked me.

Put your pride aside , you can't conduct a useful conversation when you're taken over by anger and jealousy. Try to get out of your shoes,if you trust him , you should get over this smoothly.I know it's not easy , but remember that when we nag men over a certain issue , if they're not doing it they will start .Becarefull what you ask for.Fighting is not going to take you anywhere , it only takes you back.

insecurities wont do you any good...it would just ruin your relationship with your husband...i've been insecure before and i tell you me and my husband just ended up arguing and fighting. it's like making your husband's life a living hell, your husband wont marry you when he doesnt love you. You have to trust him. And tell him how much you love him. It must all start with you, love yourself first before others will love you...

just tell him in all honesty how you feel, and what you think. That way you will give him a full view of whats on ur mind and u will not lead him to thinking of other things. and in return he will answer you with the things u want to know straight to the point. be ready for some arguments becasue u cannot hide from it, its the reality of confronting. but at least u were able to be true to him and urself...

First, control your ego and emotion. It is normal if you are feeling jealous that you talk to him. Talk nicely to him say that although you know he is very faithful to you, but just say you dont trust those girls, and feel jealous if he is friendly with them. And ask him nicely to refrain from being too friendly with them. Second, why are you feeling insecure with yourself? You should try to get your self esteem up. This is your job and your job only, not your husband. Dont put down your self too much. Afterall, you know that your husband loves you and very faithful to you. It is something to be grateful of. That means that there is something in you that makes him wants to stay with you and not all those other girls.

Maybe you need to work on how to increase your self esteem. It doesn't sound like a good relationship, you say you trust him, but get jealous when he is nice to other women and then you fight. If it keeps on one day he may decide to find someone who isn't like that. You said you trust him, which is a start, but how much do you trust him if you are that jealous. Is it possible that you start these fights just to get him to pay attention to you? You need to work out whether your pride is more important to you than your relationship. Try working out why you have low self esteem and seeing what you can do to fix it, maybe that will help.