I love you but I'm sorry your kids can't live with us?

I dont care if the man was dipped in gold and coated with chocolate! i would not give up my kids for anyone. Screw that! there are other men in the world who would like to be dads and if i couldnt find one then i'd rather be alone then to give up my kids. if you know this woman you should slap some sense into her!

I would do alot for love, and I mean alot, but overall, I love my kids more than any man that could ever walk this earth! He's got her right under his thumb now, he's obviously a control freak to even be screwed up enough to suggest to a woman that she needs to choose between him and her kids, and head problems...not to overly insult, this is just my opinion, but what in the hell is wrong with that woman? That is the most irresponsible decision that anyone could ever make. If there are bags out on my front step, they are his, no my kids'.

Not only is it an immature decision it is a selfish one on the part of the woman. She brought those kids into this world, decided to raise them and they are dependent upon her for love and all that goes with it. To turn them away because of a lover is just selfish on the part of the woman and you know if for some reason it doesn't work out with him she'll want the kids back. That's putting them through hell for her own personal agenda. Personally I don't think much of the man for asking her to choose that way either. He knew when he got involved that she had children. If he didn't want to be involved with the kids then he shouldn't have gotten involved with her. He's just as much to blame and just as selfish.

This is often a dilemma for a single parent. The same could happen to a man you know. The relationship between a new lover and children from previous relationship(s) could become stressful. I have seen this happen so often among friends and relatives that it is almost scary to see the effects of separation and the forming of subsequent alliances on children. I suppose in many Asian, African and Latin American countries the option of shipping the children to their grandparents is quite possible. Among the developing countries the spirit of family and supportiveness is often very unselfish. While I am not suggesting that parents in the developed world would not take in children, it is less likely that they will. Often sending the children to their grandparents is a great thing for many children because grandparents provide a different kind of love and care than what a solo parent can. In summary, that would be a great thing for the children, parent as well as the new partner. Sending the kids to parents is a very mature and selfless decision on the part of the single parent. I suppose, depending on the age of the children their views would be taken into account as well.

no if he love her for real then the kids will be welcome too

I find this an incredibly immature decision. I would not give my kids up for anybody in this world! I think the man was very immature too to tell this to the woman he supposedly loved. If a man can't love my kids, then he certainly doesn't love me as they are part of me.