Carrier or LOVE? Which is more important?
By oleinoleo
@oleinoleo (389)
Malaysia
January 23, 2007 12:58am CST
I am a freshgraduate and luckly i get a job before my graduation day. Now i started working at biodiesel company and my dream is to built my carrier in a young age. My problem is, my boyfriend want us to get marry. I do, but not at this early time, I am not really ready to have this responsibility (wife). I have a dream..I want to be a manager in my factory, get better salary and get more experiences. What should I do to convince him about my dream? How i'm gonna explain this to him? I LOVE him so much!
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12 responses
@siddhinfo (1500)
• India
25 Jan 07
Ofcourse carrier is first. Don't get disturb with your B/F concentrate on your work, achieve what you have dreamt of. You tell your B/F about this and tell him to have some patience.
Tell him that you are going to marry him only.
@oleinoleo (389)
• Malaysia
25 Jan 07
erm..i already tell him like that. he afraid if I found another guy, and leave him. what can i says..sounds like he dont trust me.
@tambun (94)
• Malaysia
25 Jan 07
OK. We start like this. For women, it is dangerous to build a better rangking in job. Why? U can look at our country. Almost os Success man or women, when they build up the carrier first(estimate 30 years old) maybe they difficult to get wife/husband. This is due to the high expectation from other people.
For example you ha, U reach a manager level at 32 yrs old. and then maybe the man who like u feel "rendah diri" every time with u. And u maybe have a self esteem at that level.
So, i prefered u to married first. and then u can build ur wealth and success with ur love husband and kids. It is more excitable and joy if u can build that seccess with ur family. That's only my opinion. It is up to you. If u like to build ur carrier first..then go for it. Dont wait. But im afraid u will clash with ur bf. Thinks smart eleinoleo....
@oleinoleo (389)
• Malaysia
25 Jan 07
owh..thank for your advice..i really2 appreciate that! that a grest advice from u. ok, but we have to earn more money and will get marry soon. maybe for 1-2 years.. ya.. if i am the big bos...of course he feel 'rendah diri. thats the truth.. uhu
@zack_3004 (1207)
• Malaysia
24 Jan 07
Career or love? Both of career and love is important. we need career because we need money to get something, while we love for fullfill happiness.
@oleinoleo (389)
• Malaysia
25 Jan 07
yes i know, but which one come first? My situation, love come first then carrier... erm.. mybe i am too young falling in love..i've started when i'm 17 years old! when love come first, difficult for me to convince him how is important my carrier in my life.
@alextki (923)
• India
23 Jan 07
Im discussing this issue based on our modern life.. to have a better love life we need a better career.. Money is doing things now.. Better career will give more confidence towards your love life.. Both are required for your money as your happy life.. Career is very much important now than the love.. love can come at any age.. but the career you need choose at the right time..
@oleinoleo (389)
• Malaysia
23 Jan 07
yes, i agree of what u said. thats what i am thinking...owh..looks like i need to explain more clearly..hope he can accept it
@oleinoleo (389)
• Malaysia
23 Jan 07
We r at the same age.. i think we r still young to get marry.. however, thats what he want. he is a jelousy person... and no wonder why he decide this for us.. he also have his carrier but why he dosent think like what i am thinking now? uhu..
@oleinoleo (389)
• Malaysia
23 Jan 07
thanks.. but i am still trying to explain to him..hope he can understand...
@oleinoleo (389)
• Malaysia
23 Jan 07
thank you for your responds.. but how i am gonna explain to him??I dont want to lost this two things
@oleinoleo (389)
• Malaysia
23 Jan 07
correct! boys difficult to understand...maybe he afraid if i fall in love with another guy...
@smartnrich (1067)
• Malaysia
25 Jan 07
Love is very important in human life , but its nothing without money.
@oleinoleo (389)
• Malaysia
26 Jan 07
but money cant buy LOVE. we cant get LOVE from anywhere. nowadays, many people still single cuz they didnt found true love..
@sweeteddy (71)
• Malaysia
29 Jan 07
both are very important..without carrier u can't looks for a money to get love.some ppl claimed money can buy everything.I disagree with dat quote.look here,money can buy a house but not a home also love,money can buy a love but not a heart feelings...in our circumstances we hv no choice to choose what is most important.nowadays,ppl doesn't think what they hv actually doing...contribution,efforts,sincerity and so forth.everything is about money...ask urself,why u need to work?why u need a love..this is apart of our lives..things to ponder...
