What are the ways to handle negative emotions?
By nandans
@nandans (1160)
India
January 23, 2007 2:10am CST
Are you facing emotional volatility -- a state where you feel extremely positive one day and extremely negative on other days. In the down phase you tend to lose patience with those you interact with.
Do you know when does this happen? How can you overcome it?
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8 responses
@mishang (498)
• Philippines
23 Jan 07
i know myself better than anyone that's why i know if i'm going on a terrible phase in my life. it happens when i get frustrated at things or when other people are trying to put me on a low ground. i overcome my negative emotions by becoming focused on things that i have to do with that day. sometimes i see the negativities as challenges that i need to overcome making a better effect on the work that i am trying to finish.
@rajaryan0084 (47)
• India
25 Jan 07
yeah,your thinking is very good.but you know what is difference between loser and winner. loser always focuses on their on weaknesses and ignore their strength but winner always focuses on their strength and ignore their weaknesses.this is the way to overcome from problem.
@weezy250m (1892)
• United States
23 Jan 07
One way of handling negative emotions is by not absorbing negative emotions from others. Ignore your negative emotions and do something that wil cheer you up.
@Zhanec (1651)
• Malaysia
23 Jan 07
People are imperfect and many of them will choose to live their life out of their flesh .Living with ups and downs are envitable in life.These negative emotions will steal most, if not all of your joy, love, and peace that you have obtained .However the only way is to have determination and don't let emotion control your mind.
@rajaryan0084 (47)
• India
25 Jan 07
whenever you feel extremely negative, you just start to think about those people who is below with your level an that aspect .it gives you energy to overcome from negative thought.that means it will bend you towards the positive.
@nicolai (288)
• Philippines
30 Jan 07
Use your defense mechanisms,,,it truly works,,if you feel so bad on a particular thing, try to focus your attention to something else, because if you don't,,it will lead to a bigger problem,depression---I am a psychologist
@justalone (93)
• Philippines
25 Jan 07
Take a deep breath and meditate. Think of your happy thoughts.
@andrewgomes420420 (57)
• India
23 Jan 07
yes this happens to me sometimes and I tend to loose patience with other people.
For this I have joined yoga classes .yoga helps me to maintain cool
Thes problems may occur bcos of business,family or other problems in my case it was business problems.
@Tetchie (2932)
• Australia
25 Jan 07
Hi Nandans. I was always getting caught up in emotional volatility and as a result I was getting into allot of distress over it. The ups are fantastic, the downs are irritating and depressing.
This question could take allot of words to explain as there are many causes.
One is that you are not centered, not balanced. You are being thrown off your sense of yourself by the day to day happenings around you. One day everyone pleases you, work is going great, the train is on time, not much traffic to hold you up. The next day you're late for work, the boss is in a bad mood, you have a headache and you wish you stayed in bed.
So you feel like you are riding a rollercoaster and don't know what is causing it.
One great problem in our society is that we are so exvoluted by our senses that we never take time to ask simple questions of ourselves. Like the one you are asking now. So just why do you get swayed by emotional volatility.
One way of overcoming it is to see it. When it is happening, slow it down. Stand still, or sit still and feel what is going on.
The reason it is happening is that you are reacting to the reflection of other people. Everybody is made up of a set of psychological traits, they interact in the world the same as you do. Often their traits will clash with yours - things don't go the way you want. Or someone is so nice that you are elated, but it doesn't last. You react and respond according to the incident.
To overcome, firstly you need to see it. Secondly feel what is going on inside you. Thirdly, and this is really hard, you must understand that it is you who are having a reaction to what is going on. You are the one being thrown off balance.
There are allot of negative things that are going to happen in life, but if we always react to them then it is our lives that become miserable. If we learn not to react then life gets easier and you become stronger. Easier said than done I know but it is worth doing.
Allot of words here and it is a big subject. I hope it helps.