how hard to marry a seafarer?

That's life, you can't have it all so they say, seafeares ar undoubtedly one of the hightest paid profession, you can have a well-secured finacial future because of the big earnings, but that price you pay is the time that he will be most of the time away from you. And in my personal opinion can't be replaced by money..It is a choice for you to make, a well-secured future or a uncertain future but with him most of the time.

my father is a seafarer. I am used to it that he wasn't there for my birthday, for christmas seasons and mom don't have a date during valentines day. I don't cry everytime he is leaving because i'm used to it since I was a child i think an age of 5. Sometimes, I can't understand his attitude. He become mandatory and he always wants us to do the task as perfect and immidiate as he wants. Maybe that's him in his work but he forgot that his with us and not in his work.

I am not married to a seafarer but i understand how it feels to see your husband go away again and again. My husband currently works abroad while I am here in the Philippines for now. And everytime he is home, that two weeks is very precious. Im just forever happy whenever he is here. But when its time to say goodbye again, its hard. Its not something I will ever get used to nor something I can just shrug about. I do see him again every four months but I simply dont like goodbyes anymore. It hurts too much to see him leave, or wave goodbyes in the airport. I dont want to let go in all those times he gives me hugs and kisses when the plane was already scheduled for boarding. And the tears never stop no matter how many times this same scene happen again and again... Soon though, just a couple more months and one more plane departure and we will be together for good.:) Its never easy. Constant communication and chats and soem text here and there keeps us together despite the distance. A dash of hope and patience also quite helped.

A seafarer spends most of his life at sea. In 12 years of marriage, maybe it's only barely two years that you two were together. For when he comes home, he needs to attend trainings thus can be with you only at nighttime. But come to think of it... the agony you suffer for his being away from you may only be half of his agony. I am telling you this not because I am connected to a seafarer, but because I meet them everyday. They have lots of stories to share...good...bad... mostly bad. The most common one is unfaithfulness of their wives, or their wives being spendthrift... gone were the days that seafarers are known to have an affair in every country they dock on...because these days, medical repatriations are rampant that the shipowners are now strict on illness-related things. Don't worry. :) Just be patient. He is doing this sacrifice because he wanted to give the best for you and your kids...basic needs...and most importantly...education. You will get to have him in full, in due time.

oh,that is a surprisse. how can you meet him

I love the pciture mari. Very pretty. I would miss my husband as well if he had to be gone from me. Thank God I dont have to worry about that. I'm sure you being apart from him makes your love grow stronger. Good luck to you :)

I am not married yet.I am happy that you and your husband love each other so much.I think that is why you can face the tempory distance with a smile on your face and hope and love in your heart.