When a couple commit to one another their love should be unconditional?

Yes, you most certainly can love someone unconditionally. However, unconditional love may mean accepting the person for who they are warts and all; it doesn't mean accepting their actions pain and all. You don't have to like someone in order to love them unconditionally. For example, a parent will love their child unconditionally. The child could commit a herrendous crime and the parent may hate their actions and/or the crime, but this will not change the fact that the parent loves them and always will. When it comes to adult relationships such as spouse or life partner, the same thing applies. If one partners cheats for example, it will cause the other to feel pain, anger, disappointment and so on, but it is very unlikely it will wipe out the feelings of love the faithful partner has. Even if the faithful partner decides to end the relationship over the cheating, they would still walk away with love in their heart, this is unconditional love. Sometimes no matter how much we love someone it isn't enough to change how they treat us or their actions. These are the times when we have to do what is in our own best interest and end the relationship. Love and like are two different things. "Like" unconditionally no, but "Love" unconditionally yes.

No - I don't mean that it wouldn't be a lovely idea, but the closest thing we have to unconditional love is for our children. It's just not realistic to think that you MUST accept whatever your partner may get up to, or whatever they may become in the fifty-odd years or whatever that you may be married... The reality is that abusive relationships are based on unconditional love, and basically you are saying that I will stay whatever happens. What about this way round... I will be so good to you, you will WANT to stay with me - that's a much healthier basis for a relationship. I have read posts about so-called unconditional love and I have to say I think they are totally idealistic and unrealistic. It is different for your kids, I think that it is possible to feel unconditional love towards your child. When you say love is accepting, then you are right, but to say you will continue accepting, then you could be open to abuse. You are responsible for your child and should love them no matter what, you are not responsible for your lover and have the right to expect a level of respect. You should also be ready to work to retain that respect. I have been married for more than 10 years, and even though we have not experienced any 'problems' worthy of reporting, it is still hard work - if you insist on 'unconditional' love, then are you saying that you don't have to work at it??

No, I don't think love should be unconditional in a relationship. I think it is appropriate to place certain conditions on a relationship or else you open yourself up to all kinds of abuse. I am willing to accept that my SO isn't perfect, and I'm willing to accept mistakes and flaws, but I am not willing to accept if he does something deliberately to hurt me. Life is to short to waste time with a person like that.

ya it is possible but in every relation there is some expectation and as we know expection is cause of all misery and hence it becomes difficult when we start expecting more and more.