Love marraige Or Arrange marraige

I would have to pick having a marriage based on love. I don't like the idea of arranged marriage because you never know the person you could be partnered with for the rest of your life. I wouldn't want someone to tell me who I had to grow old with, I'd rather search for that person myself. I'd like to have all those little moments leading up to a proposal and my life together with someone instead of just having to marry someone right off the bat without getting to experience a little bit of life with them before we get married. How terrible would it be to be partnered up with someone who had completely different views and beliefs about life than you? How could you get along with someone who was the complete opposite of you? How could you even learn to love someone who may possibly be an abusive person? All these are questions that make me answer them quickly with the response that I would rather find my own partner than go through something like that. Then I'd be able to find someone who loves me for who I am, not because someone said they had to marry me. I'd like to be able to feel those butterflies when you meet someone for the first time. I'd want to be able to have long conversations with that person and get to know who they were. I'd want to go and experience things with them and visit places with them before marrying them. Basically, I would in essence want to get to know if we were compatible enough before I married them and made them my partner for the rest of my life. When someone tells you who you have to marry you don't get the ability to really learn who they are. You're forced into a union that for all you know might not work at all. I like the idea of being married to someone who I can share my life with as opposed to being forced into a marriage with someone who could turn out to be very abusive or worse. If I don't know the person I'm getting involved with, how would I be able to prepare for someone who could end up being violent? It's almost enough to make someone who gets forced into marriage to have to get a background check on their so called partner to see what they had done in their past. I would rather have the chance to sit down and hear it from them in the course of a conversation than have to do something ridiculous like that. So, in conclusion, I believe and prefer to have a marriage based on love rather than arrangement. I would like this for a few reasons. Most of all would like to be able to choose who my partner was going to be and know that I was compatible with him. I would not like to just meet him the day of my wedding then further down the road find out he's abusive or someone I just would not want to be with. I really like the idea of meeting someone for the first time and getting the stomach full of butterflies and just getting to know him over time. Thanks for allowing me to share! xx

Love marriage... as u knwo the person whom u r gonna marry... arranged marriages are tough... its difficult to egt adjusted to new person altogether...