Is the age of chivalry dead and gone?

I know a lot of fellas in Australia have the attitude that women wanted equality and they got it so every person for themselves, somethimes I think this womans lib thing was not the best thing to have happened.

You know, I really admire and respect a polite, caring gentleman :) It would have been nice for the man you saw at the swimming lessons to offer his seat. I agree, manners and chivalry really seem to be disappearing quickly and it's sad. I hate to say this, ladies, but I think some of our gender are not helping the situation. I have seen that my husband, on multiple occasions, will hold a door for a woman and she blows by without so much as a smile, a nod or a thank you, leaving him to wonder if he's offended her in some way. He just shrugs at me, as if to say, "should I not have done that???" I tell him to always do it and that most of us really do appreciate it. I think if we like to receive courtesy, we should also extend courtesy... a polite acknowledgement isn't so hard to offer ;)

no that would not be the case with me around i still open doors and give up my seat for a lady its a hard habit to break besides i know if i pick up something for a lady its good for a positive reaction tooo its nice to hear a thank you and nice bum hun lol

It's definitely a lost art. I still prectice it. I will always give up my seat or hold open a door for a woman (especially elderly ladies), and make my kids do it too.

I am afraid that it is. Ever since the dawn of the women's lib movement men have been afraid of being called sexist if they do something just for a women. In fact I once had an incident at college. I was chatting with this girl from my science lab (in fact she had been assigned as my lab partner) when we reached the door leading out of the building. This door was a pull-in style door. Since my arms were free and my friend had a load of books I opened the door for her. Boy did I get an earful, and I thougt the sailors I knew were bad. For this reason, and I assume others have gotten this treatment as well, I tend not to be a chivalrous as I once was.

I hear what you're saying and I like when a man is a gentleman, but something to consider is that I have actually know women who get offended if a man opens a door for them. To me that is rediculous to be upset over that. It's not a gesture that you are weak or anything, it's only bein polite, and having manners. for someone to take that gesture as an insult to me means that you have insecurity issues.

Yes Biddy I think it is to be honest with you there are not many Men left now that are Gentlemen anymore unfortunatly but there is nothing we can do it is how the world is turning

There are many persons with helping mind so do not determine all the mens in that form. Make sure that you do not decide all the men in a single situation in a bad manner.

I think people are losing inocence day by day. No matter man or women, people are getting selfish more than ever. No one caers for other any more. There are very few people who cares about their surroundings.

I was at work today and was walking up the steps and my coworker was next to me, (a man) do you think he opened the door for me no I had to open it for him.But I do think there is still some gentlemen out there yet. I know my hubby is still a gentlemen.

no its not over yet, there are people who still are gentlemen and use chivalry wherever possible, just that their number is dwindling.....but due to all the man-woman equality and free-lib revolution there has been a little change in the way guys are bought up, so manners and etiquette that was bred when we were young has been missing ,....so there has been scarcity of gentlemen, but no extinction.....

Well it really depends on the person's personality, As for me I have helped countless numbers of maiden in distress, be it losing something or just to give them a helping hand. Yes I do agree that in this modern age chivalry has really dropped low and as people call "A person eats person world"

WE...Women..ask for equality with men..& again we expect some things which make us subordinate. HE has 2 legs as we have...then why should he give his sit to us...? Under the heading of Gentlemen we need favour of men..& when it comes to us..we reject with the reason of equality. Sorry if ur feeling bad,but we should make ur own sit,shouldn't take others!

No BittyBiddy there are still some of us out there who take great pride in being a gentleman... It is unfortunate you ran into one of the growing number of self-centered individuals who won't look beyond their own wants and needs.

Well, I think that for the most part, yes, chivalry is a thing of the past. However, there are still some men out there that do the right thing and it's wonderful! I'm very thankful to have one of those men and we are raising our son to be the same way. It's sad that our society is so ill mannered anymore. Things that were considered to be common courtesy are now "going out of the way for someone". Thanks for posing the question.

You know one thing mam is that i have blurted out to someone that is he ungentle who I came to be my boyfriend and ever since and trying to be gentle. But all over nobody's a gentleman anymore.I guess the world is turning in front of our eyes.

I'm a women, yet I still give up my chair to anyone impaired or elderly, male or female. I also leave my restaurant or coffee shop table if people are waiting to seat their family. Recently I moved from a big table to a small table when the restaurant got crowded so a family with children and a baby could all sit together. I don't think it's about gender so much as it's about being thoughtful and aware.

Parents dont teach manners to their children anymore and I think thats why today's young men dont bother. I'm fortunate to have men help me but I've had my days without it. You have to expect it today with the "modern man".

Unfortunately I dont think there are too many men left that have a chivalrous side. That was one thing that attracted me to my husband. he is the first man who ever opened a car door for me, or held a door, or held my coat while I put it on, etc. I once asked him where he learned his great manners, and he said if his mother ever caught him not behaving like a gentleman, she would tear him a new hide. I always thought that was sweet. Of course now that we are married, he doesnt open car doors, I carry in the groceries and the baby myself, etc, go figure. But I plan to try to instill those values and manners in my son. Lets just hope he carries them beyond the dating phase.

ITS UNFORTUNATE THAT THERE R NO MORE GENTLEMEN IN THIS WORLD.VERY FEW R LEFT WHO WILL OFFER THEIR SEAT TO A LADY OR AN OLD MAN. THIS IS AN UNFORTUNATE THING BUT TRUE ONE.