how do you discipline you're child(ren)

Depending upon the age of my child (I have 4 of them) and what the offense is, will dictate what my method of discipline will be. I do use removing of the object or removal of the person from that situation; timeout chair; kneeling in front of my child and explaining the situation; spanking (for worse offenses); losing privileges; gaining privileges for good behavior.

Well I have a four year old. So I will give some tips that worked for me. First of all, it is very important for her to have a routine. If I don't keep things predictable, her behavior is very unpredictable as well. So even when I wasn't working, I had a schedule for her set so that she would have a regular routine. After I got that done, I created a behavior chart for her to have at home. I went to the store and purchased a poster-board and some Velcro. I wrote the days of the week on the poster and created some stars to Velcro to the board when she earned them. I also went to the dollar store and let her pick about ten dollars worth of toys. After we got home I placed all of the toys in a box and cut a small hole in the box so that her arm could fit through it. After she earned a certain number of stars, she got to reach in the treasure box and pick out a toy. You can use a variation of this system for your child(ren) at home. I implemented a system for behavior when we are not at home and are shopping or something else. The way that I do it is that I always give her my rules for the place that we are going before we enter the location. Like at the door I'll say "Ok sweety, we are about to go shopping inside this store and these are the rules. Use your inside voice, No running, No jumping, and No touching anything. If you don't listen to the rules, you will get a warning. After three warnings, we will leave, and you will loose your star for today and you won't get to buy an item from the last store that we visit. If you do listen, you will get your star for today and you will get to buy something from the last store that we visit." Then I'll ask her to repeat what happens if she doesn't follow the rules, and what happens if she does follow the rules. But keep in mind that she's four years old. I always use a warning system. Always let them know that the behavior that they are doing is not acceptable and let them know what you want from them. If they don't listen, FOLLOW THROUGH. If you don't you will not get anywhere because they will know that you don't mean what you say. My biggest piece of advice is be consistent and follow through with everything that you say.

I sit down and hold my little guy. He has some sensory issues, kind of like autism but not quite until he calms down and will semi listen. I am still in search of something that will work.

I dont like to smack I like to sit them down and talk to them so they know what they have done wrong, punishment is usually extra chores or no pocket money or even being grounded

What I have found the best to work is talking. Talking with them about why not to do what they did. Talk with them about why they did it, ask them why, and talk about it. I feel the more we can explain things to them and understand what they are feeling the more each of us learns, and the closer we get.

Hi. I also discipline my 14 year old daughter by grounding her or taking away things hse enjoys the most. Sometimes I feel no matter what I do to try and correct her and show her the right way of doing things or acting, she just seems to not have any respect for it. I think she will see exactly what I mean and where I am coming from as she grows more into a young adult. Hopefully.