Shaken Baby
By mrsanderson
@mrsanderson (271)
United States
January 23, 2007 7:44pm CST
I live below a 22yr old girl who is currently 6 months pregnant. Her boyfriend (the babies father) is currently in jail. I have something that has been tormenting me day and night. Her man is in jail for his 2nd yes I said second conviction for shaken baby. The newspaper did not go into details but listed the offense and sentence. He got 6 years probabtion along with a jail sentence. Am I wrong to be concerned about that new baby he will be coming home to in a few short months? My husband tried calming my nerves by telling me part of his probation will most likely include no contact with minors. My nagging question is what if they dont know about the baby? Is it my business? Is it my moral obligation to inform social services that she is pregnant? Could I be saving that baby from harm? Am I poking my nose somewhere it doesnt belong? I think of that innocent soul and it almost brings me to tears thinking it might be exposed to someone unable to control himself. I would appreciate any comments and suggestions. I am unsure of my place....Thank you.
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@sunshinecup (7871)
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26 Jan 07
I think getting a hold of social services is the best advice. You are not being nosy, you are being concerned with every right. What about the mother, is she that blind that she is ready to allow him around the child?
@mrsanderson (271)
• United States
27 Jan 07
You know,I am not sure why she would even consider having him around the baby. Then again I was kinda silly when I was 22...maybe "love" has blinded her. Who knows. That baby deserves better though.
@ItTakesAllSorts (4096)
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24 Jan 07
What a horrible situation!
I think I would have to inform social services if I knew the man was coming back into the pregnants womans life.
If you are afraid of what might happen you can always inform them annonymously.
If this is his second offense for shaking a baby wouldn't he be under some sort of supervision, but if the authorities do not know about his partner being pregnant then that is a different situation.
Does the woman talk about having him back. If she does then she is as bad as him if she knows about his convictions.
I think you will have peace of mind if you do inform SS.
Its depressing to think this could happen again.
My best wishes go out to you.
@mrsanderson (271)
• United States
24 Jan 07
Thanks for your response! It is horrible and she has spoken about him coming home, shes excited. Like I said I dont know all the circumstances, but from where I stand it all looks bad.
@ItTakesAllSorts (4096)
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24 Jan 07
My god, what is wrong with this woman. It is sickening to think this goes on.
No wonder you are feeling so disturbed by it. How could she be excited to let this man into her life with an innocent baby.
I hope you make the right decision. Its a good job that there are people like you in this world as alot of people turn a blind eye if it does not effect them.
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@deberooney (418)
• United States
24 Jan 07
You aren't wrong for wanting to contact social services. Maybe if more people cared about these poor kids these things wouldn't happen. PLEASE don't feel guilty...just call annomously and protect this unborn baby...even if the Mother wont.
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@mrsanderson (271)
• United States
24 Jan 07
I know...I just hate sticking my nose into others business. What if he's not going to do it again? What if he learned his lesson and then something I do causes him to not be around his child? I know I will contact them...I just wish there was no pregnancy...she is so young. Thanks for the response !
