What would you do if...

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There was someone who you wanted nothing to do with your son yet, they demanded that they be allowed to have something to do with your baby. I have nothing to do with my biological father. Yet he demands that my son know him as a grandpa. Neither my husband nor I want that because the man is not trustworthy. He's a liar, He isn't stable (neither in his lifestyle nor his head), and he's just not the kind of person who we want our son to grow up knowing. He has promised so many things..yet never followed through with any of them. He was not in my life until I was almost 19 years old. That was his decision. He told my mother the day I was born when she called him to tell him that I had been born that he wanted nothing to do with me. Almost 19 years later he suddenly decides he wants to try to be a father. I gave him a chance to be a friend. Not a father because I already had one of those in my life. When I was 11, my mom remarried a wonderful man. When I was 16 years old, he adopted my younger brother and I. But back to the story...My biological father traveled to Missouri to meet me in August of 2003. He seemed like the kind of person that I felt I could build a friendship with. I went to New Orleans to stay with him over my Christmas Break from College that christmas. Things went alright. March of 2004 came and I went back down there to spend spring break with him. It went a little worse, Lies started to be told to me, he started to steal from me. He stole my cell phone and by the time I realized it was not with me, I was on my way back to Missouri on a Grey Hound bus. I had no way to turn my service off. I got that bill and it was over one thousand dollars. I decided I was going to try to give him one more chance. I went with him over the summer. He ended up leaving me in Gulf Shores, Alabama with 2 women that I had never met. I had $50 to my name (with me) at that time. I went a long time with out speaking to him after he left me with strangers. I made the mistake of trying to give him a 4th chance. I told him I was pregnant. He said he had changed. After the baby was born, he found out by the women that I was left with in Alabama (I no longer speak to them because of this betrayal). He emailed me demanding that my son know him as a grandfather. I said no. He got all pissy and hasn't spoken to me for a good while. What would you do with someone like this? How would you handle it? I'm just curious!