Children being picked on in school ....

I guess each parent would handle this problem differently but that happened to my daughter when she was in school. I did have to go to the school and talk to the teacher, principle and also the bus driver. The girl who was doing this got kicked out of school for 3 days. She kept getting worse and worse till one day she even put chewing gum in my daughters hair. I had to go handle it because the teacher, principle or bus driver was not taking care of it on their own. My daughter thanked me (get this) for taking care of her when the girl was older and bigger than my daughter.

Most schools have a zero tolerance policy about harassment in the school and on the bus. I would try to talk it out with the other parent first, because to go directly to the school could mean that the child gets expelled, or suspended for a few days. Sometimes, I think that children do not know that they are hurting other children. If they are picked on at home by older siblings, for example, they may just be unaware that it is unacceptable behavior. It sure does hurt your heart though, when it is your kid being picked on.

i would first ask the child what was going on and who then goto the teacher and if that dont work i would want a conference with other family and all withthe princeapal and all and i would then ask to switch classes iff it did not stop but it usually works after the first 2.

I'd go to the school and find out what the deal was. I'd talk to my child first, but I'd spend time talking to the school to find out if and why they were/were not doing something about it. Most of the time, schools ignored it and pretend it's not going on because they don't want to deal with it themselves. That's not right, the school has an obligation to fulfull..I wouldn't let them get away with not doing anything.

If I found this out, the first thing I would do would be to make a phonecall to the school and attempt to find out what was going on. A lot of the times, children don't tell the "whole" story. However I think you're right, I found there seems to be so many parents out there today who believe their child is perfect. Why can't they realize there is no such thing as a perfect child? My kids are certainly no angels, they're kids. They are going to make mistakes, that's what childhood is all about. Growing up and learning from our mistakes.

I had a similiar situation with my 15yr old. It has been going on by the same kids for nearly 2yrs. She was called to the principles' office for she was still considered the new kid at the school, so he took the other students side. The girl is 17 and even had others to get involved to the point where they followed her school bus to her home and then jumped out of the car to go after her. She wanted to drop out of school and her grades slipped. So, with the school not believing her or doing anything about it when I spoke to them,,I went and put a complaint in with the town police. They went to speak to this girl, got the school officer to be aware and so far things seem to be ok. Alot of times, bullies will keep bulling if they know its getting to you, if you ignore them and show them it don't bother you, then they will find someone else to bully & leave you alone, but in this case, it wasn't happening, It made her madder for my daughter to act the mature one and ignore them. Try talking to the school counselor, school officer and if that don't work, just put in a complaint. Before it goes to far.

I taught my kids to be strong,not to be crurl to any kid and how to fight from a very young age,they are 7 & 9 now i know fighting is not the answer but at least they no how to defend themselves if they were put in that situation,and no how to react to the being picked on situation.Mine know there are kids that do this and know how to deal with it.we are close they share everything with me.

Hi,thats why they called child and many times we use the word childish behaviour,all means they are immature.As a elders we have to guide properly,accordingly they grow an develop same behaviour in future.

I want my children to learn to stand up for them self. I will not allow my children to be picked on by anyone. I would go to the school an talk with every one that i could about it. I am also spend the day at the school and see for my self what is going on there. And if the school does not handle it properly than I would fined out how his parents are and go to his house and have a talk with his parents. The parents of the bully may not know what is going on at school.

Yes this is a serious matter my 5th grader has experienced being picked on to the point i dont see sending him to the same school next year they just got rid of a bully in his class recently but the thing is why did it take the staff so long. This is a form of abuse and I commend you for teaching your children good values. They need to have extra teachers aides or something to monitor these kids to know exactly what is going on and do the baseball method 3 strikes and your'e out and send all the bullies to one school and may the best man win. Im sorry but it makes me so sad.

i have been through this with both my daughters and its like a red rag to a bull. i didnt go in and shout and embarrass them but i spoke to the headmistress. i went past the teacher because sometimes they dont take it as seriously.the head watched the girls at breaktime and had talks in class about being nice to others and leaving noone out , i also told my youngest , who was quiet and shy, to not be afraid to speak up to the bullies and she did. they came back begging to be her friend and one in particular she refused. she told her she did not know how to be a friend and she wasnt going to be treated like that again. it made her stronger but not in a bad way and i think i handled it pretty well.

I think if your child is being severly picked on verbal abuse pushed and shoved then you should for sure contact the school and have a meeting. I think other kids pick on others because they are trying to make themselves feel better, by knocking someone else down.

I totally agree with you. I was made fun of growing up my whole life in school because I never hung around with the in crowd and always did my work and always focused on school. Girls, and boys of course, can be sooo mean! I remember my mom going to the school sometimes when I was picked on but only when it was really something really serious though. I see myself doing the same but I pray to God it never happens! I realized that alot of the bullies out there, their parents just don't care. I'm not saying all are that way because there's alot of parents that probably don't even know what their kids are doing to other kids. I just always stick in my kids' heads that you always treat someone the way you would want to be treated, the old saying I no, but it's so true.

I would talk with the school and if things didn't improve, I would take my child out and home school or transfer them. It's not fair to tell your child to tough it out - they don't learn anything from that other than they're not worth your energy or that you don't care enough to help them through the hard times.

i think that if i ever found out that my child was being bullied in school, i would not go to his school to find out what has been happening or who has been tormenting him, i would rather sit with my child and first console him, talk to him and allay his fear and anxiety, then i would tell him to be strong and stand up for himself, or maybe join sports or go to gymto exercise and build his body and be physically strong as well as mentally sound......i do not get the parents who run to school now and then to check on their children , whether they are fine and if someone is bullying them, this just makes then weaker, i feel parents should tell the kids to be emotionally as well as physically strong and deal with the matter on their own, afterall these are the things that are a part of growing up........why spoon feed the child when you can teach him to eat with his own hand?????????

i would throw the biggest fit that school has ever seen. yes, i understand that being picked on is a natural course of school and everybody has to deal with it. i understand it, and i also don't care. nobody has the right to belittle another person like that, and nobody has the right to make a person feel like they don't matter. i would call the teachers, the principal, the board of education, the other child's parents, the school counsellors...i would anyone i could, because it's just NOT RIGHT. children can learn humility through proper discipline from their parents, they don't need to be belitted at school, or anywhere else for that matter. and if physical violence was involved, GOOD LORD somebody would get a piece of my mind. physical violence is never the answer, and it is never okay. i'd be calling the supreme court to get the other child out of that school. people need to parent their children better, because bullying and such at school is really getting to the point of being RIDICULOUS.

They think that way because they where the exact same way in school how there children acts they acted the same exact way and they dont think there is nothing wrong with it cuz they think ur kid is the one doing all the bullyin and ur lyin or somthin like that

I have gone to the school and dealt with an issue regarding my son before. Parents need to stand up for their children. We cannot always expect teachers, counselors or school officials to always do so.

I don't have kids, but I worked with kids and at schools. And I was picked on in Junior High, so I know how bad it hurts to be the object of tease and ridicule. Most of the time it was the other kids just being horrible, but sometimes I asked for it. I suggest get the whole story from the child. Ask a bunch of questions, How did it start? Did you do anything to provoke it? Are you sure? Why didn't you tell me earlier? But say it in a concerned voice not an accusing one. I've noticed kids tend to say more of the truth if they don't feel intimidated. If it's established that the child is NOT instigating the taunts, then call the school and set up a meeting with with teachers, administrators, and possibly the parents of the students instigating the tease. Hopefully a resolution can be made without something drastic like changing schools has to be made. If your child did something to cause his or her teaseing, then a nice long chat with the child about proper behavior is needed, possibly some discipline, depending on the parenting style. Then a meeting should still be arranged with school personnel to try and remedy the problem before it gets worse.

I personally believe that parents are the greatest factor that decide if the child grows up to be a bully or end up being bullied. If you give your child all the liberty in the world, It's expected that the child will have a wild mindset that believes that nothing can ever stop them. similarly, If you control every single thing he/she does, the child end up to be someone who can never make any proper decisions in their own lifes, a.k.a what people call a "wuss".