Do you think this is putting too much pressure on my child?

Yes, its too much. later when he became adult, he will have not too much friend or bursting out because of this. The fact that he played outside and watch cartoon wont affect him if he really studied later on. 22/30 is not a bad mark and we all know it. I suggest not pressuring him that bad. It wont result in a good way. My parents always support me whatever I get and now I have my own thinking that I should get good mark to make my parents proud and it is benefitting me to. They never actually pressure me but I got my own will to do that. Do you want to pressure your son untill he is adult, well, if you pressure him too much now and leave him alone later, he will not study because all this time along he just study because he was just asked to. I suggest that you give your son understanding about it. then you have to work hard first then relax later if you want to live a good life. This way, I hope your son will understand it and always try on his own to get good marks without you actually pressuring him to do so.

8 year olds need more playtime. As far as cartoons, that'll drain anyones brain if you watch them at all. lol Just encourage him to study or see if there is anything you can help him with to be ready for the tests.

22/30 isnt a bad score at all!! Instead of punishing him, encourage him to do his best, praise him for a job well done and ease up...he's just a kid ya know...Sure grades and education etc is important but so is being a kid cause once he's NOT anymore, he cant get that back....cartoons arent goin to damage him by any means and actually if you DONT let him get his play time in you're IMO asking for trouble...Let him enjoy being a child..he's only got a couple yrs left of it ya know...and like I said, tell him things like "as long as you did your best then thats great but maybe we could try a little harder next time and see if we cant bring that up just a little bit"..make a game out of it of sorts ya know.....

I'm not a parent yet, but as a child I got almost the same treatment you're giving your child today, and I must say I've felt I was deprived of my childhood. Every parents would want the best for their child but then again a child is a child and playing and cartoons are part of childhood. Also mistakes whether in exams or in life is natural, 22/30 is not bad. I think giving your child encouragement and motivation will make him strive for the better rather than cutting off the things that he enjoys. That is just my idea. Good luck to you. Cheers

I think it was too harsh. An 8yr old child needs a lot of playtime. That also helps them develop their mind as well as their bodies. So many schools are cutting out recess saying that it is unnecessary. Let him play. Maybe find out if he was just nervous that day or if something else was going on. If he usually gets higher marks and this is not his norm, it might not just be due to lack of studying.

I can relate to what you are saying. When I was living with my parents and going to grade school I was doing great in school. I got A's and B's, I was involved with many clubs and activities and sports. When I went to college, my parents put pressure on me by telling me only A's are acceptable which in turn made me want to do worse. Are you telling him that only A's are acceptable, that a C is bad? Do you try to help him with his studies? My parents helped me a lot and I feel I did much better in high school because of that. Limiting his cartoon watching, and playing outside will probably in turn make him want to rebel also. Try spending time with him when he does homework and help him but don't take away his "Freedom" of watching a certain amount of cartoons or play time.

I am glad your son has been doing so well, as long as his homework is done and he is trying his best I wouldn't worry him with the fact that you're concerned about the falling grades. Maybe he's just found a bit that he finds difficult and when he's got it sorted out in his head his grades will rise again. My son reads 2 reading books every night, he is 7 with autism and ADHD. He rarely gets written homework. When he first gets in he gets to chill out with the TV or V-smile (in winter or outside if it's not too cold) for an hour or so then do his homework while I get tea ready, teatime, freeplay and bed. I think 1 hour tv is probably a good way to keep him fit and active, I never believed in using the Tv as a babysitter. If it's nice I like both my boys to spend as much time outside as possible, either on the beach, nature reserve or if I'm buzy in the garden. I do not think limiting the TV is too much for someone who is 8 as long as he has fun crafts etc to fill in his time.

hi,as you mentioned,that he started english medium this year only,its common to have less marks while changing from one medium to another medium.So he may pick up with your guidance.Playing 1 hour out side and watching TV one hour is nominal and that much is need to children.Because they are facing heavy compitetion in studies as, many children studying well not like in our age time.So they has to allot more time and what your son is doing is appropriate timings.Not less or not more.all the best to him.

If he was good in his studies before, he'll get there again. I'm not sure exactly what you meant by doing his lessons in English medium. Is he bi-lingual and just starting to do English? If so, that often takes more time to adjust. It's good to limit the TV time, but he definitely needs his playtime, too. Ask his teacher what you can do to help him practice the skills he is having problems with at home.

This is way too much for an 8 year old. He needs to do his best. Perhaps the work has become harder. Taking privilages away will not motivate a child, only make them more upset, and stressed.

I think it is too much for a 8 year old.You should be ashamed to do such an act i am soory if i am a bit harsh.I dont like people asking his 8 year old to do better and better,appriciate and ask him to do better next time in good gesture.let him do the things a 8 year old should do,dont alloct him time,let him play more, concentrate on his growth rather than his academics at this stage.God willing he will do good in future too.Ameen

I think you sould limit his activities but don't go over board. As things get harder it takes them longer to adjust. Make sure you just go over everything with him and the things that don't come easy spend more time on. After first grade it is harder for them. So that is when we need to teach them great study skills instead of just good study skills.

no i dont think there is anything wrong it is good that you are paying attention to his studies but please dont put too much pressure on your kid it will affect his growth. and dont expect too much from him.

I don't believe in punishing a child for their grades (unless they are failing because they just flat aren't doing the work). I think you should give back the play time, but agree with the TV limit regardless of grades to much TV is bad of your kids.

I do not think you are being to strict. Our requirement for our kids is to do the best that they can. Sometimes they do not do well on a given lesson because they did not understand it. But we also have strict rules. We do not allow them to play video games on week days, or have friends over, because we found that they would say that they did all their work and then we would get their progress reports and see missing assignments. Now they can only play on weekends and only then if they have no missing assignments on their reports. Kids need to be outside playing. We have a nation of chubby kids because to many of them do not go out side to play so keep that restriction to a minimum and go by a week to week progress on the other restrictions. If he does good reward him with an extra activity or something he likes to do. If he slacks on his school work cut out the activities that he likes until he improves. This has worked great for us. Now all three of our kids and on honer roll.

I think that it´s never bad to make them see that if they study they will be someone important in life but also you have to understand that he´s only a 8 year old child that likes to play too.Don´t be so hard on him,sometimes if we push them so hard they end doing the thingsw with not so many interest.

yes that is way to hard on a 8 yr old. that is more then half right. he just started something new, so give him a moment to get use to it. to much pressure will make children rebel. easy up a little. if he is a good student then that is going to improve don't you worry

Wow...You need to slow down what are you trying to do to the boy. If you continue to punish him for a mark that is still a good mark i think you should slow down. That is still a perfectly good score and you shouldn't punish him when he hasn';t done anything wrong. He is 8 years old and got a 75% so he is not allowed to playor watch cartoons? This is cruel and unfair he is a little boy and no one is perfect. He gets answers wrong once and you are going to punish him. You better stop this or your little bot is either going to rebel or could eventually become depressed he is much too young to push in this way!!

I think this is a bit much. Children learn from all things, TV and outside are good teaching tools. I may limit the TV, or at least the programming that is watched, but outside is always a benefit. That is where they make friends & learn from other children. Talk to your son, is there other pressures that is making his grades slip? How did the other children in his class do? Was this a hard test for all the children? Is this the first time he took this kind of test, & was he familar with it? One slip is not a dramatic event, try not to make a big deal about it. It may be that he was just getting used to the class. I bet his grades will go up from this point, as he gets used to the class. If they don't, or they continue to slip, then worry. Until then, it is okay that your son isn't perfect, and he needs to know that it is ok with you if he makes a mistake, as long as he is trying his best.

Yes you are really putting pressure on that little child. You are making studies as a burden on his shoulders. Its an age where children must play to be an active one but if you reject him for playing and watching cartoon and just to do studies he will get sick of doing studies in such a small age.