Married Couple without Children
By pinoyskull
@pinoyskull (333)
Philippines
January 24, 2007 1:18am CST
Im married for 10 years now, first few years as a married couple we decided not to have childrens yet, but as times goes by our plan on having children was not fulfilled. It just happened really, we decided not to have children ever.
Is there something wrong with us? I dont think so, we are a happy together even without children.
I want to know what you guys think, especially those with similar situation.
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5 responses
@hobbytypist (11)
• Philippines
26 Feb 07
There are many joys as well as pains in raising children. But there will be more joys, I assure you. Children give you hope, they will be your best friends, make you want to be a better person, make you more mature and help you grow as a person. And, they will be there for you when you grow old.
You're already in your thirties. If you ever want to have children, the time to start is now. It might be too late if you procrastinate. I know you're happy now, but you will be happier with children.
I don't like to sound like I'm pressuring you, I'm just speaking from experience from having two wonderful kids and being a single father at that.
@pinoyskull (333)
• Philippines
26 Feb 07
Thanks for your input, actually most of my friends have similar advise as you. Im not closing my doors right now, maybe someday I'll have kids or maybe never. I'm happy both ways.
@laurencekyut (53)
• Philippines
23 Feb 07
hello guys! your married for 10 years & still you dont have any children well, thats ok. why? because you guys aint contributing to world problem "Over Population". you guys should be prode in some ways. hehehe! but seriosly you guys just need to go to an doctor to check which of you has that lack of ablity. but you can go to any chinese herbal stuffs to buy some fertilization materials or ways to follow the moon calendar or just rent any kama sutra video. hehehe! hope for the best... God love us!
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@3r7sweetie (937)
• Philippines
26 Feb 07
I don't understand why you wouldn't want to have children. They are a blessing and it makes a couple complete. When I gave birth to my baby, I felt fulfilled and complete. And truly, the baby gives me and my husband happiness. The responsibility may be greater but it feels good to be in control over the children. It is great to see your own flesh and blood, your child.
@pinoyskull (333)
• Philippines
26 Feb 07
Every married couple wants to have children, even us. The decision of not having to have children is from both of us. I cannot discuss why, it's a private matter.
@3r7sweetie (937)
• Philippines
27 Feb 07
Ok. I understand. Sorry if my reply has been a bit off beat. Didn't mean to offend. Anyway, all of us has a choice, and whatever you feel is good for you, then you have the right to do it. Opting not to have children is not bad either. Each of us has reasons for choosing one over the other. Good day.
@ethanmama (1745)
• Philippines
26 Feb 07
Hey, it's your choice! To have children or not is a choice by the married couple. If you're happy with just each other and do not want children, then by all means don't have children!
@pinoyskull (333)
• Philippines
26 Feb 07
Thank you for respecting my decision and thanks for the reply.
@writerx1 (805)
• United States
28 Feb 07
I think it is a personal choice and just because someone has been married for many years should not have an effect if you want kids or not. People get married because of love not because for the sole reason of having kids, it is a plus but it is a personal decision.
