How to stay on your ground? How to say NO?
By deesdomain
@deesdomain (64)
Philippines
January 24, 2007 4:39am CST
I probably have the most understanding, patient, loving and caring boyfriend in the world. But we know that no one is perfect, so, here comes his imperfection. What he wants, he should get. Whenever I can't give him things that he wants like additional money, extra time, etc. he gets mad. I find it cute before, but now it annoys me so much I even threatened to call it quits. But he did not took me seriously at all! He just said that I am just making lame excuses, trying to find ways to break up with him so I can be with another guy. He accuses me of things that I would never do! Usually, when he asks, at first I keep my ground, but then, I give in. Am I just that stupid? I know that I should be able to handle him, but he seems not to understand. I tried talking to him once about what I feel, but it was useless. Up to now I can't help but feel helpless.
2 responses
@gurubhai (79)
• India
24 Jan 07
Let me think twice ,you are saying that this guy is taking money from you, now i have not seen such a act in any corner of the world ,are you sure that he really loves you and is not after your money ,b'coz from what all you have written i dont think that ,that guy loves you ,accordign to me he is just using you ,so why are you streching this relationship ,you will get a betterone.
@crazy_me (588)
• Philippines
24 Jan 07
Additional money? If he wants to spend more time with you, then that is sweet. But if he is asking money from you, then that is, uh, totally not sweet at all. Money is something which I think a guy should not ask from his girlfriend.
In my opinion, you should really break up with him. His imperfection is not a small imperfection. He is a control freak. Do you want to be controlled by him for the rest of your life? You do not know how to handle him. But he obviously knows how to handle you. He knows how to make you give in to what he wants. So if you really want to leave him, then do it. And if he does not take it seriously, that is his problem. Soon enough he will know that you really mean it. Just let him say whatever he wants to say. If he believes that you are just making excuses so you can be with another guy although you already told him that it is not true, then let him believe what he wants to believe. He is immature, and there is nothing you can do about that. What you can do is save yourself from a miserable future with that guy. Tell him it is over. Whatever he says, let it enter one ear and go straight out the other ear.
