would you rather that your kids die first or you die first before your kids?

I would want to go first. I cannot imagine going through the rest of my life without one of my children that I brought into this world. They are all young adults now and can manage on their own. We have already been through this as we lost my husband, their father to a drunk driver in 1999. I saw the heartache in my kids but we have pulled through with each other. I myself can't imagine a day without them in it.

My position is 'the kids', it's sound selfish, but I'd better die first.. it would be really painful for me to watch my parents die.. I ever have a dream that my mother die and I cry in my sleep until someone wake me up

It is more natural that I go first. I have had friends and one brother lose a child and it is just not natural. I would probably lose my mind. I have two daughters and am raising my grandson. Losing any of them is unthinkable. But I need to be around until my grandson is raised.

No parents want to see their child die when they are still alive.But if you look other way round you will accept it,but the first way the parents would he was young,still had to see the world and it joys ,what about us we have seen everything in life it ok.my prefernce would be to die before my parents.

Well I've already out lived a child so I definately dont want to go through it again so I'd definately like to die before my other two..

i'm the daughter. i don't want to see my parents die coz you're all right that it's too painful. but for the sake of my parents, i'd rather see my parents die first (i know that this is not like the usual answers in this topic) but my reason is because i dont want mty parents to suffer for pain when they see me die. they're old, and i want them to die happily, that they see me as a successful daughter, and i want them to feel that they're so good for raising me. that they're the best parent;s in the whole world. if i die first, they will die in too much pain. it's better that i'm the one to suffer.

I'd rather die first....I can't stand seeing my kids (future, since I'm single) of going ahead of me...it kills!

I would choose to go first. But, as what all the others say, only when my children are happily settled & have a family to care of their own. I definitely cannot stand the thought of my children going first. they are my life & i dont think i can go on normally in life without them. i think i'll die too.

If I have my choice, I would much rather go first, but not until they are all grown and capable of taking care of themselves. I think the absolute worst thing that can happen to a parent is to outlive one of their children. It would be so hard to find the strength to go on if this were to happen.

I would rather go first. But only when I see that they have established themselves and are ready to take care of themselves.