Moms~ever feel like giving up and running away from your family?

I think if we are all honest we have at some point felt that way in our life. Are you a stay at home mom in other words a homemaker? I am and my husband works two jobs so our ends can barely meet. Before anybody ask why I don't work and let him work just one job well it is because at his 2nd job he makes more than I would working 7 days a week all he works is just three day's. There are times I don't get out of my house for 4~5 day's and all I have for conversation is a 8,4 and three year old. So I hear ya. Also I almost wonder if you don't have a touch of depression/anxeity. I do and since I have been on my meds the feelings you describe have really slowed down. They come back again around that time of month....LOL..... Think about seeing a doc and having a check up. Hang in there. ~ Wendy

I so know what you mean Its the outside life that gets to me and then the kids being lazy disrespectful and fighting it seems like i dont get appreciated so I have formed a chore list and make them clean the house at night while I watch tv or complain about how they are doing it. that has become successful to my middle son who is 14 but hasnt pondered on my 16 year old yet.as for what they have everytime they say I Wish I stop them and tell them to make me a wish list and when someday a money fairy comes and see me I might ponder how they have earned it and consider buying it until then they need a job because I have no money tree and until they think of others first they will the last to be thought of. Hope this helps

No. Praise God I have a wonderful husband that helps me with my children. I guess I just haven't had problems bad enough to want to run away from. Kids become what we raise them to be. If you instill good, they will be good. If we are good examples, they will be good. Sure temptaion is everywhere, That is why we need to show them how to resist. I will keep you in my prayer book. Good Luck.

im not a mother but i know my mother feels like it somtimes idont think she does all the time but somthiems i know she does she loves us but i kno she wants to go some times to

i have two children(5 and 7)who i would never part from but every now and then any parent needs a break,weather its just a day in bed or a day shopping get out of the house for a couple of hours.can you get a babysitter.when my two were younger my hubbie used look after them so i could get a good night sleep

No,but sometimes I wish I could have an hour to myself. :) My child is only one...so, when she naps I'm cleaning or doing something. I never just relax anymore. I'm way more busy now, then when I worked.

There are some days I feel like that also but I know I cant because my love is to steong. I have 6 yr old twins and they are at that stage where they get pretty demanding but I always make them to things by them selve that they are campable of doing. It seems like you have teenagers so I dontknow how that feels yet!!!

but then, why don't we think of ourselves when we were kids? did we feel grateful for all those favours and kindness we received from our mom? i DON'T really think so. then, do we have the right to complain? hey, am not criticizing , am only saying that kids ARE kids, they don't think soooooooooo much, so seriously. if they did, they wouldn't be kids. and we were exactly the same at their age, i suppose. atleast i was. and , i do feel terribly guilty about it now that i realize how difficult it must have been for my working mom who used to regularly commute to the neighbouring city for work early in the morning and used to do everything for us at home before leaving and even after arriving home exhausted, without any help from any of us, including our father. i just can't forgive him and myself too! hey, before i finish with this posting, let me say to you, ' don't get so serious about the kids, let them enjoy themselves, there is a time for everything, right?' and no matter how we try, they wouldn't understand our problems now, just as WE didn't.

most kids act this way because mom doing what she does is all they know.It's second nature to them that you will do what you do.It's not like they've ever had to do without you so they have nothing to miss or appreciate really.I will advice you this,when the kids are young,you will always feel like you do,there will be days when you won't like one of them or none of them,always loving,but sometimes just not liking.you will feel like leaving because you will feel not appreciated many times and they will even cause you to feel like your mothering isn't good enough.BUTfollow me now,God in His great wisdom will make those same kids walk in your shoes some day and if you stick it out with them,they will have kids and calling you everyday for advice and giving you all kind of acolades for putting up with them when they were kids.I raised 5 girls and believe me sometimes we went at it like sisters,but I never allowed them to raise their voices at me or suck their teeth at me.I always felt not good enough and now they treat me like the matriarch that I have become.always telling me how much they love me now and when they remember all they put me through they even apologize for their behavior.Thats what God will do for mothers who try.They will talk their talk but can they walk your walk?NO,NO.

I'm a stay at home mom, following in the footsteps of my own mom who always gave great advice and still does to this day. Here is some of my own to you from me. You made the choice to be a mom. A choice is a powerful thing in life. Now you do what you chose, so if it's not something you want anymore do something about it. Another thing- To be a Mom and take care of your family has it's own rewards, recognition is not part of it. Believe me everyone already knows what you do, but you probably won't hear how thankful your kids are until they have kids. Don't ask for appreciation or even demand it. Why don't you take time for yourself? Take the day once a week that you want and while you are gone on that day have a list of do's on the refrigerator that you feel needs done and others in the house will help. My kids appreciate all I do, I know that without being told. I do hear it from them sometimes without ever having to ask for it.

My son is three years old, and I know that maybe that is a little young to expect him to be appreciative and grateful. But sometimes I feel like pulling my hair out! My son is like a human tornado..he leaves a messy path wherever he goes and who cleans it up? I do..."mom get me this!"...."Mom! help me do this..." sometimes my head feels as though it's going to explode! But here's the catch ;) no matter how annoying those little demands become, and no matter how exhausted I am, and no matter how angry I think I am at that moment in time..the truth is I don't think i would trade it for anything. My son is my little baby and I need to be needed by him. I love taking care of him and in fact, it really makes me uneasy and a tad scared to think up the road a little bit to where he's 15 and at the mall, or when he wants to get his drivers' license. The thought of him not needing me anymore makes me want to get a magic wand and ***POOF*** put him back in my belly and keep starting all over again each time he gets a little too independant. My life is my son and it's hard for me to picture much without him. But the truth in the matter is that maybe I have spoiled him a little too much. That's where we should all look when we need answers as to why our children act certain ways! My son has little to no respect for me because I never earned any! I constantly am on top of him..."David do you need help?" "david, let mommy do that for you" David this and David that. No wonder he's constantly hanging on me and asking for things and needing my constant help and attention! I trained him to act like that. I never gave him his own sense of independance. He may need a little work in the "manners" department, but everything is just what I have taught him. I never let him try and figure things out on his own...I just immediatley do it for him...no wonder he can't do things for himself..he rather yell "MOM!" because I have taught him if he needs anything Mom will be right there. I pretty much hired myself as the servant and trained him to bark the orders. I guess we really reap what we sow! My bed is made....I think the hardest part is undoing what's already been done. It's hard enough to learn behavior let alone UNlearn the behavior! I do I go about telling him to change because some of what he does is wrong when I have instilled that in him? What a paradox! Motherhood can be not just a lesson for the kids but wow for mom too!

you choos to be mum,how many time?(how many kids have you got)is not easy...how do i know i'm not a mum....you just need a bit fun love...you miss them as much as they do so..stay for them cos they can't runaway

I so think about running all the time. I have 3 toddlers (ages 1, 2,and4) and a very needy hubby. I to love them but it is to much some times, I dont get out of the house much and I would like my hubby to do more with me and the family but all he wants to do lately is hang out in the garage or play on the computer. He is a verry good man but he doesnt understand what the stay at home mom does, he thinks he has the hard job because he works in a lumber mill but he has it easier if you ask me. My kids are very close together ( not planned at all) and they are a hand full, so much it is hard to get a sitter and when we do we have to pay them quite a bit. My kids are good for their ages but as we all know toddlers are so energetic and always getting in to things. I am so stressed out lately I am loosing my hair. My hubby tells me I need ahobby but he wont take care of the kids so I can do it, they are to young he says, when they get older, it seems as I am the only one with any resposibility right now and that is so unfair, they are just as much his as they are mine and he should do more to help. Am I wrong ? Does anyone elso feel like this ? He is a good man and a good provider but he doesnt seem to have much interest in his family.

I think we all have those days. I have a 15 year old and a 16month old.. Seems like you can never do enough for these teenagers. I know i'm lucky because I see her friends and it could be worse. All I ask for is a little respect and maybe a thank you now and then.

Oh my I know exactley how you feel. One day I sat down and just started bawling and told my husband I dont want to be a mommy anymore I just want to run away I cant handle this! Turns out I had a bad case of depression. How can you get your kids to realize all you do for them you ask? Stop doing whatever it is that you do. If you are doing their laundry and they always have clean clothes and they are always put away then stop doing it make them do their own clothes. If you clean their rooms.... DONT!! Walk away and shut the door! When they ask why tell them exactly what you ahve told us here!