r u selfish

I dont believe Im selfship, not even when Im told I am. Ive thought about it when Im told it, but I know its not me, its my friend who's the selfish one. I always try to help people and never say no, and yet I was called selfish onenight when my friend came home from work to find me looking after her daughter. The father of the little girl had raced to the hospital as his father had had a massive heart attack, so I offered to take the girl. Well apparently I was selfish as my friend was no longer able to go out to the pub because I'd not made her ex take the girl with her to the hospital. Considering I had no plans to go out and the girl was asleep at my house and ususally stayed there 5 nights a week so her mother could go out to party made no difference. Who's the selfish one there?

I'd like to hope that I am far from selfish. I try to give more than I recieve, and appreciate what I have.

selfishness is the word which can be defined in different ways depending upon the person who is defining it. i mean what he has conceived of this term depends upon him and what he has experienced in his life. so it is one thing that u can associate with the people who r not being generous although they see the condition of the person b4 them. they don't give someone food although they see that the person who is b4 them is hungry since a long time. so this can be called selfishness . there r many more definitions to selfsihness. i m not a selfish person but when the conditions are there which need to be selfish then i show selfishness.

I don't know about what other people think of me in this area, but I do evaluate myself now and then after I do something or about to do something. It's hard to give myself, my time and energy to people who rarely express gratitude. Not that I do things to get some gratitude but it would be nice to be thanked once in a while. But I am learning to look beyond that and just help without thinking of benefits. I guess selfishness can be defined as having the Me, Myself and I complex.